The SEX GLOSSARY

"Blow Up Doll"
      Somewhat derogatory term used for an inflatable Sex Doll, which see. Added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion

Blows
      Two primary uses.
      When used to describe something like a TV show or a sports team's season, it means the object being so described is really lousy.
      Fellatio.

Blue Balls
      Fictional condition related to Sexual Frustration, which see. There is no medical evidence that a lack of Sexual Activity results in any changes to the Testicles. Also see: Married Man.

Blue Laws
      Outdated and, most of the time, unenforceable laws, often still on the books, which prohibit certain activities, at certain times, or by certain people. In many cases violation was a 'status offense' or misdemeanor which carried little if any penalty, but was more of an annoyance fine. Historically, under Jewish law almost everything was prohibited on the Sabbath. We can thank everybody from Constantine to the Quakers and Puritans (who reportedly posted their laws on blue paper, and which see in this Glossary!) for banning certain things on Sunday or in a particular location, such as near a school, church, or cemetery. Also see: Sharia.
      A good example is the local regulation, found in many small towns, that prohibited the sale of things like Pantyhose on Sunday mornings as somehow Immoral (which see). As is the case in parts of New Jersey. In this case, the town of Bergen:

"On Sunday, the law says, it is unlawful to sell clothing, linen, lawn mowers, lumber, pantyhose and just about anything else except food, fuel and pharmaceuticals. Work may be done only for "charity or necessity." In Paramus, which has its own local blue law, the lawyer for the Borough Council goes to his office at the risk of a summons."
nytimes.com

Blue Movie
      Obsolete term for an Adult Movie which usually appealed to a male audience. Said movies usually featured long scenes of young women undressing and getting ready for bed and other non-sexual behavior. Also see: Stag Film.

Bodily Orifice, Body Opening / Cavity
      Any of the several naturally occurring, or surgically installed, access points into the body such as the Mouth, nose, Anus, urethra, Vagina, and others not usually thought of such as the ear canal and tear ducts.
      Said anatomical features are also subject to search by law enforcement as they also make for good hiding places for small valuable contraband such as drugs and jewelry. In most instances, specific language in a search warrant or extreme probable cause is needed before such a search can be conducted legally, even by the TSA. See: Strip Search.

Body Art
      Alterations to and decorative work done on a person's skin. See: Tattoo, Piercing, and Branding for permanent alterations. See: Body Painting for temporary alterations. Also see: Body Modification.

Body Building
      An exercise regime with the express goal of increasing muscle mass, often to extreme proportions. Professionals will often use high protein diets and may take natural or artificial hormones such as Testosterone, which see, to enhance their performance, sometimes at extreme risk to their own health. See: Hard Body, Fitness.

Body Double
      Actress, or on occasion an actor, hired to appear Nude on camera instead of a Celebrity who is either too shy, or who feels they are above having to do such a thing as Gratuitous Nudity (which see). Rumor has it that several of the best known names in Hollywood have hired doubles to do their nude scenes, then lied about it to the press and their fans by claiming that it was them. If this is indeed true, said celeb should have to refund everybody that saw their movie what they paid for their ticket. See: Full Frontal Nudity, and related topics. Also see: Simulated Sex Act.

Body Language
      Nonverbal communication based on facial expressions, gestures, tone of voice, overall body carriage, and even pheromones. May even involve some level of telepathy if you read the right articles.
      For our present purposes. This is how you can best tell if a woman is interested in having sex as it is very difficult to lie with your body (unless you are in Congress). See: Arousal, Sexual Excitement, Coy.
"I speak two languages, Body and English." - Mae West (1893-1980)

Body Modification
      Intentional permanent alteration of the form or function of the human body through various techniques including Tattoo, Piercing and Branding, or through surgical processes such as Circumcision, Subincision or Female Genital Mutilation. See said topics.

Body Painting
      Covering all or part of the body with non-toxic paint or stage makeup for a limited amount of time. Said images may include paint which resembles swimsuits or sports uniforms, fanciful designs, or even animal skin patterns such as zebra stripes. Also Softcore and Hardcore images of people with said artwork on them, most of whom usually happen to be pretty young women, sometimes appearing in public so painted. Most paints so applied can be removed with a good long shower. Such painting is also done on men, especially at the large yearly festival devoted to the art in Austria, but nobody cares. See: Nude Model, Tattoo, Exhibitionism.

Body Piercing
      Most usually: the perforation of superficial bodily tissue for the installation of jewelry or other artwork. Traditionally limited to the earlobes, but increasingly seen in the nostrils, lips, cheeks, eyebrows, the nipples, the navel, and Genitals. See Piercing for more.
      Also used, somewhat incorrectly, as a synonym for Penetration during Sexual Activity. Also see: Fucking.

Boink, Boinked, Boinking
      From various cartoons and comic strips, may refer to a sound effect, an indescribably complex series of events, an accident, or... Fucking. See: Slang.

Bombshell
      A woman whose beauty, sexual desirability, attitude, ?talent?, and overall presence cannot be ignored or disregarded by even the most staid and self-righteous of people, men and women alike. One of the best examples is Marilyn Monroe (1926 - 1962). See: Babe, Sex Symbol (quote), Stacked- reference, Breathy Voice- Monroe as example.

Bondage
      Restraining a subject for the Sexual Gratification of either or both. If the subject did not volunteer with Informed Consent there could be legal repercussions from the act. See: B&D, WAM, Safe Word, and related.

Bonding
      An emotional connection. In infant animals, it is better expressed with the term 'imprinting'.
      When discussing adult women's friendships, the bond is predominately an emotional response evoked by women's tendency to Confide in each other various secrets and feelings. In this case, the bonding can be done almost spontaneously with a total stranger in a public restroom as they talk to each other, or take a period of decades doing, pretty much the same thing. With adult men, a 'bond' of that nature may never occur even though they have known each other for many years and consider each other a friend.
      In general with humans it is usually seen as the period where a friendship or other personal connection is made. It is used incorrectly, and somewhat stupidly, during 'team building' exercises where people stand around and sing songs or dress up in paper hats and clown-ish bow ties. Also, it has NOTHING to do with adult men sitting around a campfire lying to each other about what they did in high school, nevermind TV shows to the contrary.

Boobs, Boobies, Bosom
      Three of an innumerable list of terms for the female Breasts, which see. The word 'bosom' is somewhat archaic but is often still used in more formal situations.

Booty
      Spellings vary. Most usually refers to the Buttocks of a woman who is energetically Dancing, as in "shake your booty". Also term for Getting Laid as in "get some booty". Compare: Bubble Butt, "Junk In The Trunk", Moneymaker.

Boston Pancake
      One person defecating on another person, and then smashing the feces onto the Passive Partner. Usually done as a form of Humiliation in a Dom / Sub relationship or during some form Fetish or Extreme Sex play. See: Scat Play, Shit, and related. added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion

Bottom - Top
      Most often refers to the roles practiced in male Homosexual Anal Intercourse and is not usually used in Heterosexual relationships. The 'bottom' or Receiver is the one being Penetrated by the Top or Active Partner. Other terms used include: 'pitcher - catcher', 'driver', and even 'boy - girl'. Most usually the participants will reverse roles and today's 'top' will be tomorrows 'bottom'. The terms 'Top' and 'Bottom' and related are used no matter which physical position (side by side, standing, receiver on top, etc) is used for the sex as it refers to the Anal Penetration. See: example at John Holmes.

Box
      Re-closable container. Most usually one that is made of cardboard or plastic that is square or rectangular, may have a removable or hinged lid for access to the interior. Also, anything which resembles same such as a computer, TV, or a container van "box truck".
      Slang term for the Vagina, which see. Is often generalized to mean the woman herself, especially if her 'box' is regarded as 'hot' as in a "Hot Mom" which see. Compare: Moneymaker, Babymaker.

Boyfriend
      Male friend, implies but does not implicitly state that the relationship is physical, as in, that the couple is Fucking. Relationship may be Heterosexual or Homosexual or some other variation.
      The text messaging abbreviation 'BF' has other meanings in common usage, see BF.

Bra, Brassiere
      Women's intimate apparel, specifically the undergarment designed to support the Breasts and conceal the Nipples. Devised from the older and larger Corset, which see. In most cases composed of nylon, cotton, elastic bands, and perhaps some lace, fastened with hook and eye or other means. Athletic versions may include team colors or special padding. Prosthetic versions are available for medical needs. Several varieties of bras exist which enhance a woman's Cleavage, in some cases to comical levels.
      Contrary to the old wives tale, there is no therapeutic value to wearing a bra. The sagging of a woman's breasts as she ages, and resultant stretch marks, will occur naturally regardless of her choice of undergarment, and have more to do with the size of the breast, her fitness level, time, and her genetic makeup than it does anything else.
      The source of lowbrow humor on laugh track TV shows for years beyond count. Also an object of fascination and obsession for some men including Transsexuals and Cross Dressers. Entire catalogs of women's garments in men's sizes, including some very large sizes, are available, often with large price tags to match.
      See: Breast, DD, Lingerie, and related terms as highlighted.

Bracelets, Trophies, Tokens, etc
      Items earned or given as a result of sexual activity. May include cheap bracelets, charms, or other jewelry often of different colors or with specific shapes or markings indicating what was done or with whom it was done. Applies mainly to girls, but is has also been seen among gay and straight boys. According to urban lore, one color of bracelet or other token would indicate that the wearer performs Oral Sex, another for Anal, and so on. Regardless of 'parenting' websites to the contrary, there is no standardization of colors, so if a red item in Boston means the teen gives Head, in Chicago it might mean the wearer was Gay, while in another area it could mean they were a Virgin (or maybe on the PTA!). However, wearing said items Does Not Mean the person has done anything at all, they could simply be making a tacky fashion statement or that the person likes Lance Armstrong.
      Occasionally one or the other party, or both, will keep a 'trophy' of their Sexual Conquest such as their underwear, a photo of the person, or other item. This is quite common among groups of young men, such as in a fraternity or other club, and even among women in similar environments. Along the US - Mexico border, some human smugglers keep trophy trees which are decorated with the undergarments of the women that have paid them with sex for the trip into the US.
      The practice is loosely based on the Native American practice of "Counting Coup" where a warrior would sneak into an enemy's camp and either leave an item, steal something of the enemies, or even touch or mark the enemy himself, thus earning a 'coup' without violence. Once the coup was earned, the warrior would display a feather or other item indicating their accomplishments. Much the same as today's soldiers wear ribbons indicating bravery or special service.

Branding
      Marketing and advertising technique where a particular product name is attached to something, such as a stadium or team. Thusly you end up with "the skumbag bowl presented by the National Political Committee".
      Traditionally, the actual permanent scarring of the skin with a hot iron, see Tattoo- body art reference. Most usually the iron is configured into a letter or symbol. Often used by fraternities to permanently mark their members. Also used in Dom/Sub relationships to indicate the willing Submission and subservience of the branded partner. In other circumstances a purposely designed branding iron is not used and instead the device used is a red hot wire coat-hanger, a coin, or other item, which raises the risk factor even more. Branding is inherently dangerous, risking serious deep tissue damage, infection, necrosis, and other complications as human skin is much thinner than bovine skin, which is where it originated.

Brassy, Brazen
      Somewhat obsolete term most usually used to describe a woman, particularly a young woman who has an abundance, perhaps maybe an over-abundance of self confidence and no small bit of Sass to her. Especially in matters of her own Sexuality, which would make her somewhat Flamboyant, see said terms. The derogatory term for essentially the same attitude and personality would be Shameless Hussy, which see, the terms are sometimes combined, usually in period novels and movies. The opposite would be Demure, Humble, and Submissive, which see.
      The root of the phrase is the gleam one gets off highly polished brass metal such as with a marine or shipboard application or a graven image or idol.

Breast Enlargement / Enhancement / Augmentation / Surgery
      Surgical or other artificial means used to increase the relative dimensions, including chest measurement, cup size, nipple size and location, and other attributes of a woman's, and indeed, sometimes a man's, breast area. Most notably seen with models and Adult Actresses who believe that huge tits will make them more marketable, see quote below. May result in significant Stretch Marks, which see.
      Also includes Sex Change Surgery for Transsexuals, see said terms. Also see: "Store Bought Tits" (pun intended).
"Big Tits Sell." Harrison Marks (1926 - 1997)

Breast Milk, Breast Feeding
      The suckling of an infant at the Breast of a Lactating woman. See: La Leche League and related topics.
      Also, niche and Fetish related material to Adults behaving as nursing Infants with a woman who is producing milk. See: Infantile Fetish.

Breast Obsession
      Fixation with the Female Secondary Sexual Characteristics to the near exclusion of all other factors regarding female Sexuality. Some men, and to be fair, women as well, ogle said organs whether surgically enhanced, part of a morbidly obese woman, or even computer generated as if they were a woman's first best feature. Also, said fixation has been the source for lowbrow humor on TV and in movies since the mediums were invented.
      See: Obsession, Partialism, Sexual Obsession, Fetish. Also see topics such as Lingerie, Breast Enlargement, Bra, and related.

Breast Self-Exam
      Breast Self-Examination is recommended to all women and girls who have begun Menstruating to detect lumps or masses that may be breast cancer. The usual practice involves the woman gently manipulating one, then the other breast with the opposite hand while in the shower or laying in bed and then examining the surface of the breast in the mirror. The method is remarkably effective when done on a regular basis in the detection of irregularities. Several excellent 'do it yourself' guides are available online from reputable medical establishments. See: Vulvar Self-Exam

Breasts
      Secondary female sexual characteristic, milk producing organ as in 'mammary glands', the designed function of which is to feed an infant. See: Tits, Boobs, and so on.
      Objects of considerable attention, fascination, and even Obsession by a large number of men whom may not have been properly weaned given their expressions of ravenous hunger when they see a large pair of the organs, even if said objects have been surgically enhanced to near comical proportions. Said obsession is not limited to men but is also seen among women who take extreme measures to increase their own bust size, even when there is no male in their life who wishes them to do so. See: Cleavage.
      The source of Hugh Hefner's fortune. For other uses, see related topics such as Tit Fucking, Lactation, Nipple, Breast Feeding, Fun Bags, Etc.

Breathy Voice
      Most often associated with Obscene Phone Calls, this is when the normal speaking voice is overshadowed by deeper than usual audible breaths. Most famous example is Marilyn Monroe's rendition of "Happy Birthday" to JFK in 1962, her singing was punctuated by deep breathing, which is generally regarded as Sexy and Sultry, see said terms.

Bride, Bride To Be, New Bride
      The Woman who: is getting Married, will be getting married, has just been married. And that's enough on that subject.
      See: Wedding (various listings), Trousseau, Bride's Maids, Honeymoon, Newlyweds, and so on.
      Also, 'wedding porn' where the women are dressed up as brides. Very little of said material is authentic unless it is the occasional candid Upskirt or other type of accidental shot. See: Hot Mom, Housewife, Fetish, and related.

Bride's Maids, Maid/ Matron of Honor
      The female members of the bridal party who accompany the Bride and stand with her at the ceremony.
      The maid/matron of honor is the female equivalent to the Best Man and will usually hold the bride's bouquet and attend to her other needs before and during the ceremony, and possibly at the reception. Lifelong friendships between young women have ended over who was chosen to be whose maid of honor at whose wedding. She is often also the second official witness on the marriage license. The 'maid' title means she is either unmarried or is younger than the Bride herself. An older woman, or one who is married, are usually given the title of 'matron of honor'.
      The other bride's maids serve no significant purpose at modern weddings and their numbers are usually nothing other than a status symbol, especially when there are more than four or five. (At one 2009 ceremony to which Your Good Brutha was invited, there were seven bridesmaids!)
      Rumors that bride's maids are 'easy pickings' at receptions for Casual Sexual encounters are somewhat based in reality and do have some truth to them. This is especially true when there is a large number of them and some may feel slighted over some triviality. Plying an offended bridesmaid with booze and compliments may indeed be all it takes to get her out of her pastel dress. (trust your brutha on this one)

Broken Heart
      The profound, indescribable sadness and indeed period of mourning felt when something irreversible has occurred, such as the Death of a Loved One. The casual usage as when somebody says they are experiencing this emotion over the cancelation of a TV show is incorrect and trivializes its true nature which, in fact means grief so deep and so overwhelming that it can kill. See: Heartbreak, Lovesick.

Brown Eye
      The human Anus, which see. Often used as a Euphemism for such in Porn when discussion Anal Sex.

Brown Sugar
      Most usually refers to attractive young black woman, especially those of a skin tone akin to 'brown sugar' or (more correctly) Chocolate. May or may not refer directly to committing a Sex Act with said woman. See: Dark Meat
      Most famous reference is in the 1971 song by the Rolling Stones. The lyrics to the song include unmistakable reference to Cunnilingus in the chorus... (not that there is anything wrong with that)

"Ah brown sugar how come you taste so good
(a-ha) brown sugar, just like a young girl should."
Album: Sticky Fingers lyrics by Mick Jagger and Keith Richards. From Rolling Stones Records.

Bubble Butt
      Most usually, the female Tush which has smooth round cheeks that are slightly protruding yet firm and lack obvious cellulite. Term is entirely subjective as depending on the pose, most women who are not obese can achieve something of a 'bubble butt'. See: Booty, Ass Cheeks, and related.

Buggery
      Obsolete term referring to either Fellatio or Anal Intercourse, especially of the Homosexual variety. The term also had a legal standing but has since been replaced, in most jurisdictions, with slightly more technical language. Was also used to cover sex with animals, and, according to one floating news article, Sex With Furniture. See: extensive legal discussion at Sodomy. Also see: "Act Against Nature".

Bukkake, Cum Shot, Money Shot
      Most usually seen in Adult Movies, the practice involves a Submissive partner who is Ejaculated on by one or more men who may or may not be engaged in direct sex with the subject, as in, they are Masturbating themselves with the goal of cumming on the waiting Passive Partner.
     The infamous 'cum shot' of the adult movie world is also called the 'money shot' and at one time was thought to the be highlight of the movie. Fascination with the event has resulted in the niche world of 'Bukkake'. See: Cum, Ejaculation, Facial, Fletching.

Bullshit, Bullshitter
      A lie. A big lie. Anything passed by Congress (which see) with the word "Omnibus" in the title. One whom tells big lies a lot, a Congressman. See: Dick Stories, Girl Talk, Locker Room Talk, False Humility, and related.
      An example follows:

"Top level exploratory knowledge-based digital hardware usage research points to interactive policy inclusive of functional relative mobility facilitating transitional strategic time-phases in outside the box quality monitored paradigm shifts of deconstructed incremental flexibility with value added logistical innovation."

Butt Plug
      Anal dilator with no other functionality such as Vibrating or being able to be attached to a belt as a Strap On. Most usually tapered for easy Penetration enlarging to sometimes several inches around at the base with a 'T' handle or other device which serves as both a handle to control the plug and to prevent it from slipping past the sphincter which might require medical intervention to remove. Such devices are often used in Anal Training of a Sub. See: Dildo, Figging, Vibrator, Sex Toy.

Buttocks, Butt
      The exterior of the Gluteus Maximus and the associated fatty tissue and skin covering. In short... on what thou sittest to readest this Glossary. AKA the Ass Cheeks, on a good looking woman: her Booty. See: Butt Cleavage, Moon, Tush.
      The rear of anything, the last to get something or one who is used as the straight man in a comedy routine as the 'butt' of the joke.
      The shorter term can also be used to refer to the Anus and related subjects, as in "getting fucked in the butt". See: related 'Butt' entries.

Cad
      An unapologetic Promiscuous man who seeks pleasure with women without any sort of larger relationship or commitment. Synonym with archaic use of Rake (which see) in Formula Romance Novels. See: Libertine, Don Juan, Playboy, Casanova, and related.

Caligula
      Roman Emperor Gaius Julius Caesar Augustus Germanicus (12 AD - 41, ruled 37 to 41). The name 'Caligula' is a Diminutive (which see) literally meaning "Little Boots" referring to a soldier's shoes and is how he is most commonly known to differentiate him from his father Germanicus Julius Caesar, and others of the royal family who used variations of those names.
      Ancient sources from the period are sorely lacking, but those that survive and others from later in history regard the first couple of years of Caligula's reign as progressive and good for the empire. He began building projects for the good of the city and annexed overseas provinces. Those same sources note that after he suffered a serious illness he went slowly, but completely, mad. It is those final two years or so of his reign that have relegated him to infamy. The period is characterized by Sexual Excess and depravity on a scale seldom rivaled since, including at least occasional Incest with at least two of his three sisters, Rape of both male and female courtiers and others, absolute disregard for the matters of state, and spending sprees that bankrupted the empire. After Caligula's assassination, the Senate made some efforts to ensure that there would be checks on power later emperors would wield.
      Most often used as the title of the 1979 movie based on a Gore Vidal screenplay based on the emperor and his excesses. Produced by Bob Guccione it starred Malcolm McDowell in the lead role (who manages to portray him in somewhat of a sympathetic light). The movie is infamous for graphic and sometimes brutal, although fairly accurate, sex scenes and Orgies. Two things that are accurately depicted when judged from the historical record is the Emperor's insanity, and his untimely end at the hands of his own guards.
      The term is also used to described one who is in power who has become totally corrupt with that power, whether in business or Politics. See Congressman, Quid Pro Quo, in flagrante delicto. Also see: Pleasure Palace, Bacchanalia, Roman Orgy, and related.
"Let them hate me, so long as they fear me."
- Caligula

Call Girl
      A Prostitute. Term is often considered less insulting that many of the others used for the Oldest Profession. However, 'call girls' are usually considered more exclusive and of a higher class, and therefore more expensive to hire than a typical Streetwalker. Most call girls have a list of select clients who have been referred by other clients and do not usually see those they are not familiar with or introduced to through their circle of 'friends'. See: Escort Service, Xaviera Hollander, and related terms.

Camel Toe
      The Vulva area of a woman covered and highlighted by a tight fitting garment such as a swimsuit or gymnastic leotard, especially photographs of same. In most cased only the Labia are able to be recognized, however, in some cases, especially with thinner material, the Clitoris and other structures may be discernable, although not directly seen. The term is from the supposed resemblance of the Vulva so covered to a camel's foot. See: Gap and related terms. Compare: Chastity Belt.

Camp Follower
      The traditional term is descriptive of a group of refugees displaced by war who 'follow the camp' of the victorious army seeking food and other goods as well as protection. Such individuals were a considerable problem during the US War Between The States when entire local populations would follow the Union Army seeking relief and, in the case of former slaves who had been freed or assumed freedom had come to them: a new life. In many cases said groups would become infiltrated by spies, saboteurs, and snipers which would then become a security problem for the army they were tailing. However, the followers also provided services and information to the advancing army which helped their cause in the War. More to our point here those services would include women and girls (and to be fair, men as well) who worked as Prostitutes for the Soldiers.
      More to our point here, the term is usually used to describe an individual, or group who shadow a famous person or group in an effort to become famous by association. May also imply a sexual relationship such as with a Groupie (which see). Also see: Prostitute, Celebrity, Comfort Women.

Candaulist, Candaulism
      One whom enjoys and possibly becomes Sexually Aroused through the act of exposing their Lover to others for their Voyeuristic pleasure. This is often seen by those who enjoy showing off a Trophy Wife in a Bikini or similar situations. The term implies it is the man who is showing off a woman, however, it can also apply to other variations, as with Cuckolding. See highlighted terms.
      The popular term often confused with Troilism (which see). However, there is a significant difference. The 'Candaulist' does not allow the viewing party to engage in Sexual Activity with their partner, whereas the troilist does. Compare: Swingers, Open Marriage, and related.
      This name for the phenomenon originates in Classical Greece where, and the story varies among the various histories but the gist of it is this: King Candaules of Sardes/Lydia (735 - 718 BC) boasted how beautiful his wife was to his guard, Gyges. Then the two conspired to prove the point, possibly to settle a bet (the first coins in history were made here!), and the king arranged for his bodyguard to see the Queen undressing. Of course he gets caught and as with most Greek stories it ends badly with the bodyguard betraying the king and killing him and taking the throne.
      Also see: Peeping Tom, Public Nudity, Exhibitionism, Nudism, and related.

Candy and Flowers
      Traditional gift from a man to a woman he is Dating or Courting. Considered extremely Romantic by most women and traditionalists as both gifts are more or less harmless and non-threatening in a Sexual way, such as a gift of lingerie would be (unless the woman is allergic to them!) If the flowers were red roses the gift was thought to represent love, other flowers were symbolic of friendship or slightly less intense emotions.

"Candy
is dandy
but liquor
is quicker."
- Ogden Nash (1902 - 1971)
The original line was a poem in the above formatting.

Carnal, Carnal Knowledge, & etc.
      Mostly obsolete term used to describe sexual interest as well as other matters under the general heading of Adult. Is used with various modifiers to indicate which specific area of Human Sexuality is being discussed, usually in a negative light. Such as 'carnal instincts', 'carnal knowledge', 'carnal desires', and etc ad infinitum.

Carnival / Mardi Gras
      Quasi religious festival before the onset of Lent, the forty days of prayer, fasting, religious service and observance before Easter. Shrove (Fat) Tuesday is the day immediately before Ash Wednesday and usually features a feast of foods and beverages prohibited to the orthodox during the Lenten season, however, a general sense of celebration and partying is generally seen through the weekend before.
      Mardi Gras is observed in some fashion in most of the major cities along the US Gulf Coast to some degree. The most famous celebration being the Krewe parades and parties in New Orleans now engaged in as a more or less "family friendly" tourist event.
      Now. Having said that, we'll talk about "Carnival".
      There is no comparison between the tourist friendly enforced modesty and restrained public partying in New Orleans and the public Orgy of samba dancing, drinking, feasting, and of wanton nudity and the occasional bout of public sex during Carnival in Rio de Janeiro, as well as in Southern and Eastern Europe, the Caribbean and in other less inhibited locations than the US. If you want to really party, go to one of them.

Carpet Munching
      Another word for Muff Diving (which see), usually indicating that the woman receiving the Oral Sex has not Shaved. See: Cunnilingus, Fur Burger, "Eating...".
      Has also been used by some Erotica writers to indicate a Position where the person on the Receiving end of various Sex Acts is in the Doggie position on their hands and knees with their face literally on the carpet and they get a mouthful of the deep pile weave when they "munch" on it in Ecstasy. However, such use is not typical. Your Good Brutha just avoids using the term altogether.

Casanova
      The man whose name became a synonym for the "love'm and leave'm Ladies Man" and master of Seduction- Giacomo Casanova (1725 - 1798) has been the template for 'men of the world' since the publication of his autobiography. While he has always been considered a womanizer of the first magnitude, his sexual exploits pale when compared with later notables, however, to mere mortal men, his tally of over 200 women is remarkable. But to be fair, Casanova seemed to not pursue sex for its own sake, most of the time he developed relationships with his conquests. See: Libertine, Philanderer- Womanizer, Promiscuity, Don Juan, Seduction, Sexual Prowess.
      The use of his surname in popular media to indicate either said behavior or the one so behaving includes a movie released in 2005 which starred Heath Ledger (1979 - 2008) as the legendary lover.
"I don't conquer, I submit." - Giacomo Casanova

Castration, Eunuchs
      Surgical removal of the male's Testicles, including in some cases the entire Scrotum. Neutering. Sterilization. The procedure renders the man so cut as a 'eunuch'.
      Equally applies to the chemical version which leaves the structures intact but renders them non-functional either permanently or temporarily. Usually done as a legal sentence and punishment for various Sex Crimes including Pedophilia.
      Has also been used to apply to the removal of the Penis as well as the Scrotum and its contents, which is total Emasculation.
      The reasons for the procedure vary greatly from historical period and region under discussion. Some were castrated as a sign of religious devotion, as a punishment for various crimes, to allow them to serve safely in the palace or royal court, and, famously to prevent their voices from changing at puberty so they may continue to sing in boy's choirs, the "castrati".
      The term "new castrati" has been bandied about in various circles to describe the men found at the upper levels of Senator Hillary Clinton's 2008 presidential campaign.
      Is used as the implication of a comic bit on TV shows and movies when a man is struck in the Testicles by something or somebody resulting in his speaking in a falsetto voice. Severe injury to the area can result in gangrene which is life threatening so as surgical castration may be required to save the man's life. However, this is seen as funny by Hollywood and TV producers. See: Crotch Shot, Penis Injuries.
      Surgical alteration of Senator Obama as proposed by Rev. Jesse Jackson during the 2008 primaries.

Casual Sex
      Sexual Activity without the benefit of a long term relationship or emotional bonding. See: One Night Stand, Friends With Benefits, Proposition, Hitting On, "Your Place Or Mine?".

Catcall, Wolf Whistle
      Any of several whistles, yells, remarks or other verbal exclamations, most usually used by Girl Watching men to acknowledge a good looking or otherwise Sexy woman. Quite often said woman is dressed to attract such attention. In some cases said attention is unwelcome, or out of line, but often it is done with pleasure on both sides as many women find such good natured public reaffirmation of their attractiveness enjoyable.
      Some Feminist activists have described all such attention as degrading, objectifying and disrespectful and have even used terms like 'verbal Rape', which is of course bullshit and trivializes the crime of rape itself. Quite often said activists are usually ugly and have such a disagreeable attitude that they were never on the receiving end of said whistles. See: Sexual Harassment.

Cathouse, House of Ill Repute
      Establishment offering Prostitution services either as the main object of the business or a sideline, such as Congress. See: Whore House, Red Light, Bawdy House and related.

Catty, Catfight
      Term most usually used by women to describe an attitude expressed by other women. Usually includes remarks made solely to hurt the feelings of other women without cause, or through Jealousy, or other such emotion. Said remarks are also used to damage the image of the target woman solely to make the commenter look better. To sum it up, a 'catty' woman is a Bitch, which see.
      A physical confrontation between women, whether real or staged. Usually involves slapping and hair pulling instead of punches and the use of marshal arts or weapons. The most famous of which occurred on the ABC network prime time soap opera Dynasty between Linda Evans (born 1942) and Joan Collins (born 1933) in several Fetish type locations, such as a pond, a muddy stream bank, and a boutique complete with mannequins, as well as several other actresses on the show. All of whom were Babes, M.I.L.F. types or even Cougars, which see.

Cave, Gape
      Bodily orifice open for, or as a result of, Penetration. Most usually a fully Dilated Anus or Vagina as when a Speculum is used. Often seen in Adult Movies as with a Cream Pie. See: Anal Training, Butt Plug, Goatse, and Etc.

Celebrity
      A 'public person'. An individual who had earned, bought, stolen, co-opted, or has otherwise obtained, or even earned honestly, enough notoriety to be included in any of the endless stream of entertainment programs and publications that feed on each other. The position requires no particular talent or ability and sometimes consists solely of the 'lucky Sperm club' members (the spawn of other celebrities) who get in trouble in various ways. Those usually dubbed as a 'celebrity' are those from various TV shows, nightclub entertainers, professional sports figures, singers, movie actors, politicians, or even those who think of themselves as such, even if they haven't done anything of value for many years, see: Publicity Whore. Also see: Aphrodisiac, Playboy. The behavior of some resulted in a generation of Love Children. See: 'Gossip' for more. For the downside, see next two entries.

Celebrity Fake
      A photograph or video of a Celebrity or other famous person which has been altered or falsified to make it appear that the photo was taken when the person was nude or in an other compromising or unprofessional situation, such as taking drugs. Often well done images cannot be distinguished from real ones even by professionals. Can also be done with an impersonator, as was done with the supposed photos of Governor Palin which were really a Porn Star. See: Computer Generated Image, Airbrush, Gossip
      For a very well done example, witness the scene in the movie Forrest Gump when the title character meets President Kennedy.

Celebrity Stalker
      Individual who has become Obsessed with a public person to the point of becoming a danger to that celebrity. Some who have become so infatuated with their object of devotion that they have broken into their houses or have taken other dramatic action which can be tragic. For example see Obsession, Erotomania. Also see: Publicity Whore, Groupie.

Celibate, Celibacy
      One whom refrains from the pleasure of Sexual Activity for religious, philosophical, or other reasons. Is usually considered a voluntarily decision where there is a reasonable opportunity for sex. See: Vow of Celibacy, Marian Doctrine, Sexual Abstinence. Also see: Ascetic and related.

Censor, Censorship
      Essentially the editing of material by an authority to remove that content which the authority does not approve of. May be based on religious, political, or moral grounds, or on some arbitrary and capricious standard known only to the censor. Remember, in the 1950's TV network censors thought it was somehow immoral to show a pregnant Lucille Ball (1911 - 1989) on TV because it would imply that she, as a married woman, had been Fucking. See: Obscenity, Free Speech, First Amendment, Classifiers, and related topics. See: Lucy quote at Love.
      Also includes the editing of material in an effort to be 'family friendly'. A good example of this is the song Sometimes When We Touch where various radio outlets have removed the verse that includes the line "a brother or a sister, but then the passion flares again..." as being suggestive of Incest. See: "Our Song" for quote. Also see: Pixilation, Airbrush, and Black Bar for ways of editing images.
      Censorship in the US has always been a sore subject, but it has made a rebound under Political Correctness which censors material before it is produced or the words spoken under the banner of intolerance by liberals and other protected classes. In the early days of TV, network standards and practices offices would pre-approve scripts or edit shows after production to enforce their own sometimes murky standards. See: Political Correctness, Socialism, Voluntary Self Censoring. Also see: Naughty for related Mae West quote.
      The Rating system used for various entertainment media is in fact a form of censorship which must be adhered to or the producer of various works risks not having their material marketed or sold by various outlets. See: Rating, M.P.A.A., E.S.R.B., Family Hour, "bleep", Black Bar, and related items.

Centerfold
      Featured pictorial in a magazine, usually given a '..... of the month' title with an extended article and photo spread as versus a gatefold set which is often the first photo set in the magazine. Does not have to be a naked woman, as even car magazines have 'centerfold' features. Said model is often also featured on the cover of the magazine, but not necessarily. See: Playmate of the Month, Nude Model, Bettie Page, Black Bar, and related.
      Since Playboy® (which see) made the term legendary, the word 'centerfold' itself has become generic enough that in some mass media outlets, especially entertainment TV shows and newspaper columns, it is used to mean Nude Model even if said model has never been the (whatever) of the Month and an actual featured centerfold pictorial. It is also from the centerfold that the joke of a model being "stapled in the navel" originated if she posed in the nude.

Cervix
      Muscular opening to the Uterus at the internal end of the Vagina. Despite much (badly written) Erotica to the contrary, under normal circumstances, including Sexual Intercourse and Fisting, NOTHING larger than a Spermatozoa can Penetrate beyond the cervix and enter the Womb (Uterus) without the equivalent of labor pains without doing permanent and life threatening damage to the woman involved. Even the attempt to dilate the cervix without proper medical training and instrumentation will result in debilitating cramps which are likely to end the Sex Act rather abruptly.
      The cervix is usually examined during OB/GYN visits and tested for precancerous abnormalities with a PAP smear. See: Uterus, Vagina, Speculum, OB/GYN and related terms.

Chaperone
      Most usually regarded as an escort for those who are Under Age or who need to be supervised for other reasons. The chaperone is usually one whom is an Adult or has legal guardianship of those they are escorting.
      In historic times the escort was present to ensure the Virtue of young women who were not supposed to engage in Premarital Sex with their suitors. The term is the French word for the hat or hood the escort wore to proclaim their status.

Chaste, Chastity
      Implied Innocence, Purity, or Virginity. Behavior, such as extreme Modesty, which protects and emphasizes ones Virtue with Sexual Abstinence. See said terms.

Chastity Belt
      Traditionally, a belt worn by a female which provided a physical barrier or deterrent as well as concealment of her sexual parts to guarantee her Virginity or faithfulness in the absence of her father, husband, protector or other chaperone. There were also male versions mentioned in various literary sources, although their actual existence is open to speculation. Truth be told, such devices were rarely used, and proved quite ineffective when they were with either sex. In the end, the belt was more a symbol than an actual prohibitive device. The belt was updated in the George Orwell novel 1984 with the sash worn by the "Junior Anti Sex League". Today the belt is invoked in some Dom/ Sub relationships and a lot of Erotic Literature.

Chauvinism, Chauvinistic
      Derogatory term for an attitude described by Feminist activists as being covertly Misogynistic or having the view that women are second class citizens, incapable of surviving as equals with men, somehow inferior otherwise. Most usually used in a phrase like "male chauvinist pig".

Cheap
      Most usually a Promiscuous person who does not require extensive wining and dining before they take their date to bed. Is often used to describe a woman who dresses the part of a said woman, whether or not they really are like that. Usually regarded as synonymous with Easy, or Fast.
"You'd be surprised how much it costs to look this cheap!" -Dolly Parton (born 1946)

Cheap Thrills
      The term means exactly what it says, basic entertainment and excitement for little or no out of pocket expense. Most often heard as a catch phrase for media promotions of asinine shows such as Sexploitation flicks on late night cable channels. Can also be had by watching someone else ride a bicycle over something like "dead man's cliff" in a state park. See: Voyeurism, Sexploitation.

Cheating
      For our current purpose: Sex outside of, and the breaking of trust in, a relationship, especially in a long term relationship such as a Marriage under the Marriage Vows. See: Adultery, Unfaithful, Emotional Infidelity, and Infidelity.

Cheerleader
      Traditional use is for Co-eds (which see) who make up a pep squad which appears at high school or college sporting events to lead the team's supporters in the stands in rooting for their players and raising school spirit. Often considered a separate unit from the pom pon squad which is usually more dedicated to choreographed Dance routines and is most often all female. In most cases, the equivalent group attached to a professional sports franchise will be considered a 'dance squad' instead of using the word 'cheerleader' which some Feminists consider demeaning.
      The term is sometimes used for a perky, overly cheerful, fairly attractive young woman, a Babe, even more so if she is blonde, in a gently demeaning, and even disrespectful way to indicate that the woman is an airhead who relies on her looks and personality, and implying that she trades in Sexual Favors as well, to earn her daily bread or place in society. Often used in a way not quite so derogatory or insulting as Bimbo, Easy or Slut (see said terms).
      Those in the 'professional cheerleader' squads, and even younger women and girls on college and even high school squads often practice provocative moves and wear quite skimpy costumes which hearken back to the days of Burlesque and flaunting their sexuality. Which in some cases is borderline Child Porn when the girls are under age. When the women on the squad are indeed Adults, it can be quite Sexy indeed, and often a better show than the game they are appearing at. See: Teasing for more.
      In terms of our Glossary we take the previous paragraphs and move it one more step to where they are showing everything they have to show and the moves they engage in are not just Sexy but Sexual. The term is often used in the keywords for adult websites that have a great deal of pornographic content of that type of young woman. Often, said women will be presented in actual cheerleader outfits, as to whether or not the woman in the costume had ever been one... who cares?

Cheesecake
      Also known as 'pin ups'. Images, paintings and photographs, primarily of women in suggestive poses or partially nude. Best example is World War 2 era posters of Actresses and US Army Air Force bomber nose art as well as certain postcard type artwork, especially those by Alberto Vargas (1896 - 1982). When a male is the subject the artwork is usually referred to as Beefcake. See: Bikini, T&A. Compare: Glamour Photography, Also see: Harrison Marks, Bettie Page.

Cherry
      Small, red, long stemmed fruit with a pit or stone in the middle, Rosaceae Prunus.
      Like new, especially when applied to things like restored classic automobiles.
      For use in our current context see Virgin, Hymen, De-flowering.

Chick Flick, Couples Movie, Date Movie
      In this context, motion picture of any Rating which plays on the emotions of the viewers for a reaction which will elicit a satisfying emotional release, most usually, from women viewers. Plots often focus on evoking strong sadness, fear, anger or other negative emotion during the main body of the work then move to close with a happy ending. Again, the focus of said emotional release is intentionally aimed at the women in the audience. The term usually used in reviews and advertisements is 'Romantic Comedy'. See: Emotion.
      To most Heterosexual men, such movies may seem unfathomably complex, over-plotted, teary eyed sessions of utter boredom with characters that spend more time soul searching than they ever will earning a living. As with daytime TV Soap Operas. The best way to endure such things is to wonder what the various characters would do naked, or if attacked by zombies, or maybe drunk, or perhaps- if the movie is really lame- all of the above at once.
"I thought Rambo 3 was romantic, why would I want to go see The Princess Bride?" -Doktor Leftover.

Child, Children
      One who has not attained the legal age required to give Informed Consent or enter into a legal contract. 'Children' is plural.
      Use is usually restricted to refer to those who are pre-Teen. See: Minor, Age of Majority, Teenager, Adolescence, Puberty.

Child Pornography
      Any material which depicts Children, those under the local Age of Majority, in sexually graphic ways. The material is usually thought to be image based, but may in fact be textual. The material may be presented electronically, such as web based, printed magazines or books, video tape or DVD, or even live performances which may then be filmed, see Child Prostitution.
      Borderline material, such as provocative underwear ads featuring young children in suggestive poses, seem to be used to inflame public opinion and garner free advertising for the retail establishment which produced the ad, but are not generally deemed to be Pornographic. However, they may meet the test of Indecency (which see) as they involve children.
      The material is by definition NOT subject to US First Amendment protection and is prohibited in all other reasonable countries. Some third world countries, including Afrika, Oceania, Central America, and some parts of Eastern Europe are havens for those who produce and export the material to the West, sometimes, to order, at premium prices.
      The possession, use, production of it is a Felony, not a mental illness nor a disability.
      However, all of that being said, there is also a reasonable argument against Zero Tolerance style enforcement which makes grandparents with 'bear rug' type photos of their grandchildren into Felons. Common sense must rule here. Unfortunately for all concerned, it doesn't.
      For more information go here. www.interpol.int
      The BruthaDeep.com site and all affiliated sites fully support the the Virtual Global Taskforce www.virtualglobaltaskforce.com

Child Prostitution
      The use of Children, boys as well as girls, to have Sex For Money with Adult customers, or as 'favors' for high rollers or gang members, or for other reasons. Such practice is unfortunately fairly common in Afrika and other regions, see Sex Tourism and highlighted terms.
      In some places, young children can be married off to Adults, in at least one case, with the government's blessing. See: Saudi reference at Pedophilia.
      In some cases the children are slaves in service to those who 'own' them either as indentured servants working off a family debt or as actual property bought from an underground market. See: Human Trafficking, White Slavery, Sex Trade.
      For more information go here. www.interpol.int
      The BruthaDeep.com site and all affiliated sites fully support the the Virtual Global Taskforce www.virtualglobaltaskforce.com

Chocolate, Cocoa, Etc
      In this context, three meanings:
      May refer to an attractive black woman in much the same context as Brown Sugar, which see.
      When used in reference to Anal Sex may include use of the trademarked brand name as in: the "Hershey®" Highway as a Euphemism for Anal Intercourse. The word 'Hershey' is a registered mark of The Hershey Company, the above said use of the word is NOT approved by them.
      The cocoa based confection many women will indulge in instead of having sex. Especially dark chocolate.

Christian Nymphos, Christian Nudists
      Rather curious groups with websites by those names that have a similar mission to that of Your Good Brutha: To educate people on the topic of Sexuality. Except they are coming from the world of religion where for far too long all things Sexual have been painted as evil in and of themselves, the human body is something to be ashamed of, and Sex should only be engaged in to propagate the species. Do a web search for their sites. Also see: separate entries at Nymphomania, Nudists.

Chubby Chaser
      Term thought to be cute by media types, especially morning radio show hosts, to describe men who enjoy relationships with Fluffy (fat) women. See: Euphemism, "Big Beautiful Woman", Fluffy, and related.

Cigar
      To the Doktor: cheap, mass produced roll of questionable ingredients which smells like an industrial accident when burned.
      Also: similar object, of hopefully somewhat better quality, self inserted into the Vagina of President Clinton's Mistress, which he then chewed on (the cigar, not the Pussy) and proclaimed it to be "good". The brand of the smoke is not known at this point. See: Monica, Sex Toy, Dildo and related.
      Object in a dream which may or may not represent a Penis. See: Freud for quote.

Circle Jerk
      A useless effort. A futile, somewhat painful, possibly humiliating, all but worthless exercise where even the best possible outcome is of dubious value. See: Cluster Fuck, Fuck Up.
      Term is based on a Mutual Masturbation Daisy Chain of several individuals, usually thought of as all Gay men but there is anecdotal evidence, and some video footage, of Co-Ed and Lesbian groups as well. See: Handjob, Mutual Masturbation, Daisy Chain, Reach Around, Dutch Rudder, and related. Also see: Zipless Fuck.
      Congressional Committees. See: more information here.

Circumcision
      In males, the removal of the foreskin of the Penis which covers the Glans (which see), or tip of the organ. Throughout history the practice has been associated with various religious beliefs, then was thought to be in the best interest of public health to reduce various Venereal Diseases. The latter is now in dispute. For the practice in women see: Female Genital Mutilation. The two are NOT equivalent. Also see: Subincision, Body Modification.

Clap, Dose of the Clap
      Euphemisms for the entire range of, usually, non-fatal Sexually Transmitted Diseases, which see. Added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion

Classifiers
      Australian government Censors who rate imported literature and other works for objectionable content under various categories. See: Censorship, Obscenity, Free Speech, and related.

Cleavage
      The valley, fold, furrow, or cut between two nearby objects, hills or mounds, whether natural or man made. Such as a pass between mountains, a slice out of a whole watermelon, or the bend in a metal bar as for a blacksmith weld.
      For our purposes here and now: The valley between a woman's Breasts. The term also equally applies to the groove between her butt cheeks. Also seen as the subject of endless TV jokes as the exposed butt of a plumber or other repairman whose trousers have slipped below his waist while working. Especially if the man white, older than the stars of the show, Heterosexual, and is overweight or obese.
      Women's cleavage is the item of boundless fascination for most TV producers as they will have the cameras focus on it even when the woman showing hers is not talking, and even when said woman is not all that attractive. For examples all you have to do is watch any of the network morning entertainment / "news" shows.

Climax
      Sexual peak occurring before, and sometimes after Orgasm. In women, it is usually thought of as the end of the Arousal phase of Sexual Excitement from which she will build up toward Orgasm. With men, it can result in Ejaculation without Orgasm. See: Orgasm, Cum, and related.

Clitoris, Clit, Clitoral Hood
      External female Sexual Organ. Primary focus of stimulation to Orgasm in most activity. In 'Female Genital Mutilation' or 'cutting' or 'female circumcision' the Clitoris is often surgically removed along with her labia. See: Female Genital Mutilation.
      The 'clitoral hood' is often pierced for the installation of jewelry, which can lead to massive infections, nerve damage, and sexual dysfunction if done incorrectly. See Body Piercing, Vulva, Vajazzling, and related.

Closet, Underground, Out
      In terms of this list, expressions related to the Gay lifestyle in relation to how openly, or not, a person is living as a Homosexual or other Sexual Preference, such as Bisexual. One is 'in the closet' or 'underground' if one is concealing their true Sexual Orientation, or as one recent Governor of New Jersey, is living a lie as a Married Straight while secretly pursuing homosexual gratification outside of his marriage. One is 'out' if one is living openly as a Gay (or whatever), may or may not involve the Flamboyance typically seen as a stereotype. One is 'outed' (as in: 'brought out of the closet') when a Celebrity or other 'public persons' Sexual Preference is plastered all over a tabloid newspaper or TV entertainment report against their will. See: Gay, Out, Closet Queen and etc.

Closet Queen
      Somewhat obsolete term for a Homosexual man who has not Come Out publicly as Gay or Bisexual. There are activists in the gay community who state that all men are secretly gay, and are therefore 'closet queens', which is, of course, crap. Those who do live the double life, such as being married while seeking secret sex with other men in clubs or in anonymous encounters in public restrooms risk being Outed as well as contracting AIDS. See: Closet, Queen and other highlighted terms.

Clotheshorse
      Two primary and somewhat related meanings. The first is a portable rack made of wood or plastic dowels between adjustable legs used for the drying of wet towels or other clothing items.
      The use we are more concerned with in this Glossary is as it refers to a person who is overly obsessed with clothes to the point of appearing no more than a mannequin for the latest offerings by high fashion designers. Often seen on televised Soap Operas and in the Celebrity culture of Hollywood and New York City. A related term is "Fashion Plate", which see, and neither term should be considered complimentary. Also see: Overdressed.

Cluster Fuck
      An event or incident which is characterized by disorganization, chaos, conflicting agendas, wrongheaded methods, or somebody intentionally Screwing with things. Term is also used when a project is half completed and a boss, or multiple bosses, suddenly changes every possible detail and requirement for the project, then cuts your staff, and moves the deadline up by a week. See: and Compare: Circle Jerk.
      Term is NOT related to any known Sex Act although some of the more riotous Bacchanalia celebrations may give you the general idea as they involved Sex, but also much drinking, music, and unruly behavior which was all supposed to be in tribute to the god, but Bacchus himself was all but forgotten during the festivities.

Co-Ed, Co-Educational
      Related to federal Title Nine which forced equal access to non-sporting school related activities, in and out of the classroom, but which was taken by many institutions to mean that they had to maintain equal opportunity to engage in school sports such as track and basketball. The original bill was to prohibit exclusion on the basis of Sex, but as a US Federal law it had the exact opposite effect and forced inclusion, in some cases, where it was not wanted by anybody involved.
      The term refers specifically to the inclusion of girls and women in what were traditionally men's activities. Such as a 'co-ed' bowling league.
      When one speaks of 'co-eds' one is most usually talking about high school or college age girls and young women. The term is usually not applied to women beyond their mid-twenties.

Cock
      A male chicken, or peafowl. The females of both species are called hens.
      Common slang term for the Penis. Which see. Also see: Dick and various related terms.

Cock and Ball Torture
      A practice where a man allows another person to bind and otherwise abuse his Penis and Testicles. May involve the use of everything from clothespins and hot wax to needles and other tools. Long, thin items may be inserted in the urethra or the penis may be placed in a vacuum Pump tube for forced engorgement with blood. Involves some risk from restricting of blood flow and the chance for infection. Usually incorporated with other S&M or Bondage type play. It is strongly suggested that a Safe Word be agreed to before engaging in this type of behavior. See: Safe Word and related topics.

Cock Gagging
      Fellatio performed where the man takes a more active role and controls the depth and speed of the Penetration of the Receiving partner's mouth and throat, literally Fucking their throat (see Throat Fucking) until the Receiver physically gags on it or the Ejaculate so produced, which is often the point of the exercise as in part of their Submission or in a Humiliation Ritual. See: more at Fellatio, Emetophilia.

Cock Ring
      Circle of flexible of material, cloth, leather, rubber, etc, made to fit around the erect Penis for any of several different reasons. Said ring may have bumps or ridges on its outer surface to increase the stimulation of the person being Penetrated, it may be designed to constrict the Penis to prevent loss of erection, it may be made to serve as part of Cock and Ball Torture when worn by a Sub. See: French Tickler, Condom, Ball Strap, and related.

Cocksucker
      Vulgar term for Fellatio. Also used to describe an unpleasant person, most usually a man, or one who is a scoundrel, such as a Politician. One of the original Seven Dirty Words, which see. Also see: Irrumare.

Code of Conduct
      A written or unwritten code of prohibitions or general suggestions of behaviors and activities which are either banned outright or discouraged while acting in an official capacity, using certain facilities or holding a given office. It will usually specify activity such as drinking on duty, Sexual Misconduct, using the organization's facilities for personal purposes, and so on.
      Such codes are usually applied to individuals such as police officers and school teachers, those in an executive position in a company or some other organization, some elected officials, and those types of positions. Violation of said code may result in dismissal from the position or other disciplinary action. See: Conduct Unbecoming an Officer.
      There is no known code of this type which is enforced for the weasels in Congress.

Coitus
      Latin medical and legal term nearly exclusively used to refer to Heterosexual Genital Intercourse (Fucking). See: Making Love and other references.
      Also related: Coitus- an experience in motion and emotion, a short subject semi-Softcore movie starring British actress Sue Bond, produced and directed by Harrison Marks (which see).

Coitus Interruptus
      Stopping Intercourse before Ejaculation to avoid risk of Pregnancy or for other reasons. Literally means 'fucking stops'. Method is not overly effective as some Sperm may escape before Ejaculation. See: Sin Of Onan, Birth Control

Collar, Collaring
      A band of leather or other strong material worn around the neck as a means of restraint and control. As used with dogs. Also, a more substantial work of wood or metal used as a yoke for draft animals.
      From Dom/Sub and related. A collar is symbolic of the Submissive partner in the relationship. In some circles 'Collaring' is a special occasion either celebrated with a party or a somber ritual of commitment. The collar may be an actual leather belt around the neck comparable to a dog collar, it may be a jeweled necklace or chain where the significance is only known to those involved, or anything in between. See: related entries.

Come Out
      One who has taken to openly living an Alternative Lifestyle. The term refers to 'coming out of the closet'. Most usually used with someone who has publically admitted being Gay, such as a recent governor of New Jersey. See: Out, Closet, Closet Queen, and related terms.
      Many Celebrities (which see) whose careers are otherwise over 'come out' on a national TV talk show to get back in the spotlight for awhile. See: Publicity Whore.
      Even though some Gays have a "Coming Out Party" in which they celebrate by openly engaging in Homosexual acts, this is a Bastardization of the term. See "Coming Out Party" for correct usage.

Comfort Women, Comfort Stations
      Politely: The use of conscripted women to provide carnal services to soldiers. More Directly: The systematic enslavement of adult women and girls as young as their early teens, transportation from their home town to another location even outside their own country, subsequent dehumanization, repeated rape, use and abuse as sex slaves, and in many cases, summary execution at the end of their service of women in militarily occupied countries by the Imperial Japanese Army, and other military organizations throughout history. The 'stations' were simply Brothels run by and for the military.
      While the phenomenon was not unheard of prior to WW2, the most widespread and overall use of the practice with the overall most brutal enforcement of the general idea is as follows. Other known or suspected occurrences include certain locations within the Roman Empire, under the reign of the Great Khans of the Mongol Empire, and may have been used in vassal states of the USSR. However, we shall look at the most recent and possibly the most egregious example. Note: we are not talking about voluntary Prostitution by Camp Followers or similar work, see said terms.
      Japan had occupied all of Korea since it won the war with Russia in 1905, however, there is no evidence of the practice occurring there at that time. Rather it is generally accepted that such practice began with the first Sino-Japanese war and the occupation of Shanghai in 1932 by the Japanese army, when military brothels were opened using Korean and Chinese women held for such express purpose. During the lead in to WW2, and as Japan occupied more territory and began to fully exploit the Korean peninsula for the war effort, many women were taken from there to occupied cities throughout the region.
      During the World War Two years, women and girls by the thousands were both voluntarily recruited, supposedly for actual military service, as well as conscripted and forcibly kidnapped to work in the brothels from almost every country occupied by the forces of Imperial Japan. The majority of them came from Korea and China, however, others were added as the Empire expanded including Filipino, Malay, and even Dutch women from South East Asia.
      The overall conditions in the brothels was deplorable, sanitation was usually non-existent, diseases (sexually transmitted and others such as cholera and typhoid fever) were rampant, and many of the women did not survive long in them. To be certain, they passed on the various commutable diseases to the soldiers while there. Rumors still persist of a higher quality of brothel with slightly better treated hand picked women for officers, however, hard information on those is lacking at best. Their role in 'entertaining' the troops is totally at odds with the professional Geisha (which see) of the Japanese Home Islands which was and is an honored and skilled position and not usually seen as a Prostitute.
      As the Allies retook occupied areas, many of the women were shot as the Japanese withdrew. But some did survive and for years after the war, their story was whispered and mentioned in passing in the histories, but shame kept many of the survivors from telling their story, and identifying children born from said activity. That is until the 1990's when an organization of former, and now elderly, 'comfort women' from Korea and other countries organized and began telling their stories and providing collaborating evidence such as letters, photographs, and other items.
      Only then after fifty years of official denial, in reports issued in 1992 and 1993, the Japanese Government finally admitted to the existence of said women and the ways in which they were "recruited" and treated. Officially, the Japanese Diet, as well as the rest of the Government, including the current Emperor, denies any responsibility and maintains that the program was not a sanctioned activity by the Military, and has refused any further admission or restitution to the "jugun ianfu" women.
      See: Sex Slave, Prostitution. Compare: White Slavery, Human Trafficking.
      The BruthaDeep.com site and all affiliated sites fully support the the Virtual Global Taskforce www.virtualglobaltaskforce.com.

Coming Out Party
      Occasion which marks a young person's transition from childhood to adolescence, or from adolescence to adulthood, depending on the culture. The ages as well as the rights and responsibilities associated with the event vary greatly as does the legal standing of the individuals so celebrated. In the Jewish Faith the Bar/Bat Mitzvah is for those who reach 13 years old, in Latin homes the Quinceañera celebrates a girl who is fifteen, Debutant balls usually happen for a girl's "sweet sixteen", and so on. See: Debutant, Quinceañera, Of Age, Teenager.
      Even though the phrase has been hijacked by Homosexuals for use to mark the occasion when one now lives as Openly Gay, such use is not considered correct. See: Come Out, Out.

Commando, Going Commando
      Fairly stupid term for one whom decides to 'be risky', 'bold', 'forward', or even 'Sexy' by wearing trousers, a dress, a toga, or other clothing without underwear. Most of the time such an action is simply uncomfortable as nobody else cares what you are or are not wearing. Term is usually reserved for men, however, it has been used on TV by women as well. Such behavior has little, if anything, to do with the special forces units of the various military branches. See: Titillation, Naughty.
      The sole exception to the above rule that nobody gives a damn is when the subject is a beautiful woman and she is wearing a Miniskirt, Daisy Dukes, or even Hotpants with nothing under them. See: said listings and Compare: Exhibitionism, Up-Skirt, Voyeurism.

Community Standards
      Term used to encompass and mean whatever a court, city counsel, social do-gooder group, or other busybodies want it to mean as there is no such thing in reality. Is usually trotted out and paraded around whenever there is a zoning request for somebody to build an Adult Entertainment or other business of that type or a performance or display was slightly Erotic. Most of the time, those invoking said term are some of the biggest self righteous Hypocrites you'll ever see. See: Family Hour, Sexual Depravity, Content Warning, Taboo, and related.
      Also part of the legal test for Obscenity and Indecency, which see.

Compulsive Masturbation
      Engaging in self-pleasure to the point where it interferes with normal daily activity or is conducted in socially unacceptable situations, such as in restaurants or on the subway. Also, can be seen when doing so causes personal injury such as damaging the skin with excessive Rug Burn to the point of infection.
      Behavior seen primarily in men but is not unheard of in women. At times has been treated as a mental illness such as Sexual Addiction or true Nymphomania (see said terms). Now seen as more of a symptom of other disorders than its own. Can be treated and the person normalized with behavior therapy and / or medication depending on the underlying cause. Also see: Persistent Genital Arousal Disorder (see PGAD).
      One of the known tendencies in this disorder is the hording of Ejaculate. Often to the point where their room will be lined with cups and bowls full of semen so expressed.

Computer Generated Image, CGI
      Still and moving pictures and animations wholly or partially created by various computer programs. In our current context these would include falsified nude images of Celebrities, Hentai and Anime type cartoons, and various adult themed video games. Also includes special effects in movies. In some cases, the artificial image is indistinguishable from a real photograph. See: "Hot Coffee", Airbrush, and various topics as mentioned.

Conception, (to) Conceive, Fertilization
      The moment a Spermatozoa enters an Ovum to cause Pregnancy, also when said fertile egg implants in the Uterus. See: highlighted terms. Compare: "Original Sin", Birth Control.
      Said term is usually thrown around the Abortion debate without anyone ever defining exactly when "conception" is. It is worth noting here that depending on the source cited, between one quarter to nearly half of all fertilized eggs never implant in the Womb, or are rejected for various reasons if they do within the first week or so of the term, meaning those babies are being naturally aborted.

Concubine
      Traditionally, a female Servant with whom the Master could have sex without the benefits, or complications, of Marriage. Often seen in many royal courts and the upper classes of society in the Mid-East. Said arrangement was often more formal than is usually associated with the term Mistress (which see) and in fact, the concubine was often considered a member of the royal household with special privileges not enjoyed by other servants. See: Harem, Kept Woman, and related.

Condom
      Barrier Birth Control device most usually of impermeable plastic membrane fitted to the male organ or inside the Vagina of a woman designed to trap and kill Sperm. Is regarded as the safest and most effective on-demand method to prevent both Sexually Transmitted Diseases and/or pregnancy. Failure rate for both is between single digits to about 15% depending on study referenced, although the majority of these failures are often attributable to improper fit or use. Can become an object of fetishism or obsession. Slang terms include Rubber, Raincoat, the brand name "Trojan" and so on. See: Sexually Transmitted Disease, Internal Cumshot, Birth Control, Bare Back, and related terms.
      Natural membrane condoms are made of various parts of animals, including intestines, and while they do offer nearly equal Birth Control as the man made variety when used as prescribed, they offer little or no STD protection. Even given that fact, some purists demand and use the natural item which is available at some retailers and online.

Conduct Unbecoming an Officer, Official Misconduct
      Legal or other disciplinary charge in various military and paramilitary organizations, such as police departments, also sometimes used to remove ranking members of other bodies such as labor union executive boards which have a Code of Conduct, which see.
      The charges usually center of public behavior such as intoxication, Sexual Misconduct, or other less serious misdeeds. But may also include favoritism, Quid Pro Quo, receiving bribes, treason, and other more serious offenses which may include Felony criminal charges or civil lawsuits.
      It is seldom used to remove members of Congress, as everybody has such low expectations of that bunch of losers that ... nevermind.

Confide, Confess, Confession
      To admit to an action, behavior, idea, etc. to another.
      To 'confide' is to tell another person something in confidence with the belief that they will not repeat said statement. The urge to 'confide' in another person is something most often seen in women, and has a part in Bonding. However, such is also the root of Gossip. See: highlighted terms.
      To 'confess' means to admit to something. In a legal light it means to acknowledge that one committed a crime. Said admission is usually allowed to be read or played at trial.
      The term 'confession' is the same as the above, but has religious overtones as it is most usually associated with the telling of ones Sins (which see) to clear ones Conscience to a priest who may or may not be a Pedarist (also see).

Congress, Congressman
      In the Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana (which see) the word is synonymous with Fucking. It can also be applied to other Sexual Activity including Fellatio and Cunnilingus as mentioned in the classic sex manual.
      In today's usage when referring to America, the term means about the same, however, we must write it as "Fucking the taxpayers and other honest citizens". The term with "man" (or "woman/person") as a suffix means "professional liar who couldn't get another job". See: Asshole, Bullshit, Amoral, Social Engineer. Also see: Sleaze, Morals Charges, Conduct Unbecoming..., Felony.

Conquest
      Military victory and the occupation of the defeated party's territory. Often used in reference to heated sports rivalries, especially between university and professional American football teams.
      In our present context: Having another willingly Consent to ones sexual advances, usually resulting in a Sex Act, either Heterosexual or Homosexual. Without express consent, the act is Rape. See: Consummate, Sexual Conquest.

Conscience
      The ability to distinguish between good and bad, right and wrong, Sin and righteousness, etc. As opposed to Conscious / Consciousness which is the state of cognitive awareness when one is awake. See: highlighted terms.
      Comes into play when one experiences the Emotions of Guilt or Regret (see said terms), remorse over events or actions, and when terms like Sin come into play, which makes one want to go to Confession.
      Also see: Seven Deadly Sins, Saving Oneself, Confess.

Conscious / Consciousness
      Intellectual self awareness, the state of being awake and knowing it rationally. As opposed to Conscience, which is an Emotional ability to be able to experience Guilt, see those terms.
      Said state of awareness and understanding is required in Informed Consent as opposed to Implied Consent when one is unable to function. See: highlighted terms.
      In the realm of the general topic of this Glossary, any Consent must be made consciously and with acknowledgement of the actions involved and the risk and repercussions of said behaviors, nothing else will suffice. So if one of the parties is Drunk as hell, they legally cannot give Consent.

Consensual Sex
      Both parties, being sober Adults willingly engage in sexual activity including Heterosexual Intercourse, Oral Sex, or some form of Homosexual sex. By law a Minor cannot give said consent. Some jurisdictions have a graduated scale of who can consent to sex with whom based on age and even activity. There is no standardization and some of the regulations are archaic and arbitrary. See: Age of Majority, Informed Consent and related
      Even now a woman can change her mind after said act, including several days after said act, rendering the encounter Rape or Sexual Assault, and the charges will be pressed, often resulting in conviction.

Consent
      Willing agreement for participation in a behavior or activity, such as being Photographed or engaging in Sex. Said agreement implies that the participant is of Legal Age and of sufficient mental capacity (not stoned, for instance) to give said permission, see Consciousness. The age at which one is regarded as able to give said consent for various activities varies by jurisdiction and other factors. See: Adult/Age of Majority, Guardian, Child, Statutory Rape
      For this Glossary: The permission is specific to being a willing participant in sex up to and including Fucking and various Fetish activity. The withdrawing of said consent is what turns normal sex into Sexual Assault or Rape. Which is exactly why most producers in this industry require said permission in writing. See: Model Release, Informed Consent.

Consummate, Consummation
      The signing of a binding agreement, contract, between two parties in a business relationship and the exchanging of payment.
      A top level expert or one whom is absolutely proficient at a given task. As in- your Brutha is a consummate Eroticist.
      For our purposes- Fucking, as follows:
      Refers specifically to Heterosexual Genital Intercourse between a man and a woman who have been Married as the binding act of the joining. After which an Annulment may not be possible. Most usually said sex occurs on the Wedding Night, which see. Compare: Unconsummated Marriage.

Content Warning
      Term used to describe material which may not be appropriate for all individuals. Also used to warn people who may be emotionally upset by certain Provocative topics or images. The use is not limited to Sexual topics as it applies equally to violent content, such as with news footage, images of drug abuse, and other extreme behavior. One way around this is to Censor the content with Pixilation or a Black Bar over the offending bits, see said terms.
      Can also be seen on some documentary productions to notify individuals that the following material, while realistic, may upset some individuals. As with images of wild animals like lions hunting, killing, and eating antelopes.
      Such a warning is used on the Bruthadeep.com site to let people know that if they can't take it, to move on.
      See: Lurid, Indecent, Obscene, Prurient Interests, Provocative, Rating, Sophisticated, "For Adults Only", and related.

Your request was denied because of its content categorization: "Adult/Mature Content;Newsgroups/Forums"
If you think this is incorrect, please send url to: .......
- Online Proxy Server Warning (slightly edited).

Cooties
      Spellings vary, including 'coutee', 'coutie', and even 'kootee', as well as other variations.
      Mythical contagious disease which early elementary age children believe those of the opposite sex may transmit at the slightest touch. In recent years the playground topic of 'cooties' and related ideas, such as 'shots' and 'catchers' have disappeared to large extent. They will be missed.
      In the majority of cases, 'cooties' are cured by ones First Love or Puppy Love. See: related topics such as Playing Doctor and Sex Play.

Cornholing, Cornhole, Corn Hole
      Word for Anal Intercourse where Penis or other object is inserted in the Anus, the 'corn hole'. Term is not as popular as it once was, which is really a good thing. Compare: Pie Hole.

Corset
      The original figure shaping undergarment for women going back some five hundred years, and even further as some indications of similar items can be found on Egyptian tomb paintings. In the historic period corsets were made of heavy material reinforced with everything from whale bone to steel and pulled tight with strong cords laced down the back. The idea of the corset was to support the woman's breasts and shape her mid-section while also enhancing the curve of her hips. It also seriously limited her flexibility and mobility as any strenuous activity or even too much walking was usually out of the question. In most cases, ladies of fashion needed at least one or two helpers to get into the thing and have it fitted correctly (hence the 'dressing room' in homes). The Depression and then World War Two ended the reign of the corset as it was replaced by separate Bras and Girdles. Also see: Merry Widow.
      No other evidence need be presented that women have historically been slaves to fashion than the history of the corset and the extremes women went to to conform to the style of the day. However, reports of broken ribs and other injuries due to the over-tightening of the corset are probably exaggerated at least slightly.
      Today such garments are more often seen in Fetish wear and as part of a Victorian costumes during historical pageants.

Costumes
      Clothing, and perhaps facial mask, which conceal ones true appearance either wholly or in part. Can either be quite simple or fantastically complex, such as with Carnival / Mardis Gras participants, which see.
      For our present purpose the outfits may involve Rubber or Leather vests and pants, masks, chains, and even Collars and other restraints. In the case of Fem Dom (which see) she may well have a Strap On type of Dildo on a belt harness with which she can play the Male Sex Role to her Sub, whether that be a man or another woman. See: Dominatrix.
      Other costumes include doctors and Nurses for Medical Fetish play, Schoolgirl Uniforms (especially parochial school outfits), diapers and other paraphernalia for Infantile Fetish, even Vampires and other Goth outfits. Those used by Strippers and Showgirls can be quite elaborate, and at the same time, quite revealing. See: highlighted entries.

Cougar
      Puma concolor
      Also, one of a growing array of terms for an older woman, usually late thirties well into her fifties and even sixties, who seeks out much younger men for Sexual Conquest. See: M.I.L.F., Lady, Hot Mom, and related.
      TV shows, movies, and Porn made with or for such women and the men, and other women as well, who love them. (pun intended)
      Most older women are exceedingly comfortable with their sexuality and will tell you what they enjoy and how to please them. Also, they are usually quite capable of showing you and guiding you the right way if their explanations aren't enough. (This is always a very good thing! -Jim)

Courting
      Part of the Dating ritual which leads to Marriage. Most usually it is the man that seeks the attention and affection of the woman. Often involves attending Social events such as a Dance or various family occasions. See: Engagement, Candy and Flowers, Proposal, Love At First Sight, Falling In Love.

Courtly Love
      Emotional attachment and devotion to one whom you cannot Consummate the relationship with due to the social class or status of one or both parties. Originally seen in the courts of royalty and paid great tribute in the book "Don Quixote...". See: Unrequited Love for more on that subject.

Cowgirl
      A female ranch hand who works with the cattle in the same manner as the cowboys of old. A female rodeo athlete, such as one who does trick riding and roping.
      A member of the University of Wyoming women's sports teams.
      Position for Sexual Intercourse of any variety where the Receiver 'rides' their partner. Also includes variations such as Reverse, and side-saddle. See: Woman On Top.
      Term is used, although it doesn't really seem to apply, with Homosexual activity as well as Heterosexual.
      Position, and related Sex Act, is alluded to in the otherwise absolutely worthless, and mildly offensive, country song by the 'hat act' Big and Rich (who broke up in 2008):

"Cause I saddle up my horse, And I ride into the city,
I make a lot of noise, Cause the girls, They are so pretty
Riding up and down Broadway, On my old stud Leroy.
And the girls say 'Save a horse, ride a cowboy.'"
Save a Horse (Ride a Cowboy) Lyrics by: Kenny and Rich. Album: Horse of a Different Color. 2004. Warner Records.

Coy, Playing Coy
      Most usually a smartass Tease. Also somebody who is overly shy or Modest. Can be one who says "no" but acts like they mean "yes" and thinks said behavior is cute. Most usually, said person just ends up being annoying after a very short time.

Crack Whore
      Person, most usually a woman (but can be a man), who exchanges Sexual Favors for drugs, may or may not involve crack cocaine as the term is also used with other drugs such as heroine. See: Prostitute.

Creampie, Cream Pie
      Internal Ejaculation, the male's Penis 'Cums' inside the Receiving party during Intercourse, usually Vaginally or Anally, without being withdrawn. Term is usually not used with Fellatio.
      In the world of Adult Movies the Internal Cum Shot is something of an oddity, where the man actually Ejaculates inside the woman (or other recipient in the case of same-sex films) during Intercourse. In some movies, especially various fetish films, showing the result is the intent for the exercise and the camera focuses on the 'cream pie' with the Semen running out of her Vagina or Anus, where it may be licked up by another as with Felching (which see), or showing her playing with it with her tongue before she swallows it, or allows it to run out of her mouth to drip onto her breasts in what is sometimes termed an 'oral creampie' or similar term. This can also a fetish unto itself as in Bukkake. See: Internal Cumshot, Cave, and related terms.

Cross Dresser, Transvestite
      Person dressing as member of the opposite sex as versus Transsexual which involves the belief that the person is truly a member of the opposite sex in the wrong body or Hermaphrodite where the person has at least some of the physical characteristics of both sexes. Also the Fetish involving the wearing of the clothes and accessories of the opposite sex. See: Rae Rae, Tranny Surprise, Skirt, Transsexual, and related.

Crotch
      Generally, the area between the legs from the pubic bone to the tail bone. Includes the external Sex Organs and Anus. Depending on usage, may include the Pubic Hair area as well. See: Privates, Groin.
      Similarly shaped forked feature of a tree, mountain range or other object.

Crotch Shot
      Two uses relevant to this Glossary.
      Photographic images, moving or still, of the Vulva and related body parts of a woman's body, most usually where the Labia and even Clitoris and Anus are clearly visible. Said image may be taken from the front or back although images from the rear are usually referred to as a Moon shot. See: Privates. Such images of men are a known cause of the Fantods.
      Gag used by TV and movie producers to go for the cheap laugh as a man's expense as it is supposed to be funny when a man is hit in the Testicles by anything. The stunt is supposed to be even funnier when the man is a white Heterosexual and his reaction to the injury is in front of women and children. See: Castration for more information.

Crude Remarks
      Unsophisticated Sexual or otherwise untoward comments. Usually unwelcome, often offensive, and sometimes physically impossible or otherwise unrealistic. Such words and phrases also often include unwarranted and irrelevant references to physiological functions and bodily waste as well as degrading statements about family, race, religion and other 'sensitive' topics. Those making such comments usually do so because they have neither the language skills nor the intelligence to raise a meaningful argument that suits the occasion. See: Innuendo, Seven Dirty Words, Cunt, Shit, and related.
"Two things are infinite: the universe and human stupidity; and I'm not sure about the universe."
Albert Einstein (1879 - 1955)

Crush
      Most usually, a one way, intense passion felt for a member of the opposite sex who is most likely unobtainable and unaware of the feelings of said person. Said emotions are usually transitory and there may be a different subject of the devotion in a short period of time, and in some cases, the object of said 'crush' may not even be a real person. In common mass media usage: the object of said affection is some sort of celebrity (see Heartthrob) and the person with the feelings is a teenage girl, for evidence, see magazines and websites aimed at said target demographic. For worst case scenario, see Celebrity Stalker. Compare: Unrequited Love.
      In the vast majority of cases this is an Unrequited Love, which see.
      The feeling may or may not involve Lust, as the individual with the crush may be below the age of Puberty. See: Puppy Love. While an Adult may feel the same emotions for most of the same reasons, it is usually considered an Infatuation, which see. Also see: Courtly Love.
      None of this is to be taken as trivializing or dismissing the emotional state of the one with the 'crush' as, to them, the feelings are real, deep, and profoundly intense to the point of rendering the person with them nearly incapacitated. See: Lovesick, Heartache.
      Also the subject line in a spam email which is often infected with spyware and other malware. If you get a 'crush' email- delete it!

Cuckold
      Archaic word, still in use. A man who is controlled by and subject to rule by his wife who happens to be a Nag (which see). Especially in her desire for sex outside of marriage. In the niche porn world, the husband will often be forced to watch his wife perform with other men, sometimes several men at once in a Gang Bang. In most cases, everybody involved is an Adult Actor and is being paid or otherwise compensated for their time and effort instead of a forlorn husband and demanding wife. Also see: Wife, M.I.L.F., Swinger, Etc. Compare: Troilism.

Cuddle, Snuggle
      To hold another person close to oneself, with or without other romantic intent or other Physical Intimacy occurring. A prolonged Hug (which see). A prolonged hug. Usually regarded by women as extremely Romantic and comforting. Compare: Spooning.

Cum
      Multiple meanings, some are interchangeable.

• The term most usually applies to either the act of, or the Semen produced by, the Ejaculation by the male during the sex act. See: Semen, Cum Shot.
• Can be applied to the vaginal fluid and even the 'ejaculate' of an Aroused woman. See: Female Ejaculation, Squirting.
• Also applied to the physical Climax, and even the Orgasm of, both men and women, regardless of the production of bodily fluids.
• Is used in the Adult Entertainment industry as the title of various movies, magazines, books, etc. Often in conjunction with other terms such as "MILF gets CUM".
• Can be the subject of Fetishism where the sexual fluid of choice is used as a plaything and even food additive.

Cum Drunk
      The symptoms experienced by one who Swallows too much Semen in a short period of time. It is NOT an actual form of Intoxication, but a 'rush' from too much raw protein and related hormones and possibly oxygen depravation from performing the act itself. See: Swallow, Semen, Fellatio, and related.

Cum Shot
      The moment and act of a male Ejaculating. Especially video or photographs of said act. See: Bukkake, Snowballing, Semen, and etc.

Cum Swapping
      Also called Felching (spellings vary, which see) and various other terms. Seen more in Adult Movies than in real life, as in this example: the person Receiving the male's Ejaculate in their mouth does not Swallow it, but instead kisses another person and shares it with them, often passing it back and forth several times or between several people, including the man who produced it. Also applies to the retrieving of the Semen with the mouth and tongue or fingers or other means from either the Vagina or Anus, or wherever, for swapping or other play. Can also apply to a woman kissing her male partner after he cums in her mouth and her sharing it with him. Can also be the dedicated subject or part of a larger fetish. See: Bukkake, Internal Cumshot, Snowballing, Mixed Drinks, Semen.

Cunnilingus
      Oral contact with the female Genitals for the express purpose of sexual pleasure and mutual enjoyment. Includes licking and kissing both external features such as the Clitoris as well as Penetration of the Vagina by the Tongue (see Tonguing). Also known as Muffdiving, Eating at the Y, 'mustache rides', the Ultimate Kiss, etc. See: Oral Sex, Taste of Honey, Fur Burger, and related.
      Many women find achieving Orgasm from Oral Sex easier and more enjoyable than other acts as they can relax more and focus on the event than they can during Intercourse.

Cunt, Cunny, Coney
      Words used to describe the external Female Sexual Organs. 'Cunt' is usually considered impolite, Crude, and even negative. 'Cunny' is relatively neutral in the US, although the related term 'coney' is less well known and is also an archaic term for a young rabbit. Compare: Pussy.
      'Cunt' is considered a Crude and derogatory term for an unpleasant woman when used in most situations. See: Ho, Pussy, Female Sexual Organs, Seven Dirty Words, Twat, Vulva.

Cunt Hair
      Human hair which grows in a woman's Pubic region or on the Mound of Venus. The removal of which is now subject of political debate and regulation in New Jersey. See: Pubic Hair, Waxing, Shaving.
      Unit of measure in some situations to indicate that whatever is being talked about it really close to being exact. Scientifically speaking, a average human hair is one tenth of a millimeter thick (that's .003937 of an inch) no matter where it comes from on the body.

Cupid
      The god of the emotion of love, of falling in love, etc. As well as the act thereof, Sex.
      Mass media symbol of St Valentine's day as a winged baby with bow and arrow. However, it is doubtful the patron the holiday is named after would approve of the connection. See: Valentine, Angel.
      Romanized version of the Greek god Eros. He served essentially the same function as his Greek counterpart. Western literature and tradition has 'romanticized' the Roman deity while simultaneously disparaging his Grecian elder. See: Eros.
      Song by the Spinners which highlighted the god's function in mythology.

"Cupid, Draw back your bow, And let your arrow go
Straight to my lover's heart for me, Nobody but me..."
Original lyric by Sam Cooke. Spinner's release, 1980, Atlantic Records.

Curves
      Classic use: an adult woman's natural and even full figure which is 'curvy' without being obese. See: Stacked, Hourglass, Mound of Venus, Statuesque, Sex Symbol, Bombshell, Bettie Page.
"I didn't discover curves; I only uncovered them." - Mae West (1893-1980)

Cybering, Cybersex
      A type of a truly Safe Sex practice that involves another person in real time as the participants absolutely cannot touch each other. Also see: Hot Chat, Phone Sex.
      Sexually Explicit (which see) text, voice, or video chat, or even a combination of those. The text only version can be totally anonymous as the individuals use 'handles' and profiles that can be changed on a whim and are usually not verified by the service they are using. Part of the problem with doing so is that you may not be talking to the person you think you are, and, you may not be typing out your innermost fantasy to a person at all but a computer program with interactive text recognition software. Can be conducted on Internet chats (AOL, Yahoo, Twitter, etc), cellular phone texting, and other methods.
      One step up is voice and /or video chat which can involve total Nudity in front of a web cam and those posing may control who sees them or open the session to anyone with access to the service in an internet age version of Exhibitionism or the Sexy Talk Phone Line, which see. However, once again, you may think you are in chat with somebody who is like minded and very sexy, only to find out that you're exposing yourself to a computer with an animated CGI image which is responding to you. Many of these services are 'pay as you go'. Photo sharing and explicit texting over cell phones is something of a 'teen' phenomenon, but it is essentially the same thing. See: Child Pornography.
      Part of the debate about the practice revolves around whether or not the act is the equivalent to actual physical sex between a married partner and anybody else, especially a member of the opposite sex, and thusly becomes Cheating. Most of those who say it is point to Emotional Infidelity as proof. Said aspect would only come into play if the two (or more) people in the Hot Chat became emotionally involved instead of it just being 'Just Sex' (also see: "One Night Stand", Casual Sex). Of course there is always the chance that the online relationship could become real world at some point and the individuals so involved could engage in actual Fucking, which of course, really is Cheating, which see.

Cycle, Woman's Monthly Cycle
      Euphemism for Menstruation, which see. A woman's Period.

D.S.L., DSL
      Multiple uses, only one directly related to this Glossary as below.
      The Digital Subscriber Line is a type of internet service over ordinary copper telephone lines. Most usually used in a residential or small business setting as the bandwidth actually available is often inferior to other modes of access such as coaxial cable or a fiber optic connection.
      The Domain-Specific (programming) Language is an advanced computer programming language used in dedicated environments for specific applications and internal processes. An example that your Brutha is familiar with is the various environments under Cold Fusion's language for network applications.
      The law school at Penn State in Harrisburg, Pennsylvania is better known as the Dickinson School of Law.
      Also said to mean 'Dick Sucking Lips'. The term and its abbreviation has been seen in various Net based forums and occasionally used in Locker Room Talk to describe various Celebrity women, and even a few men. As far as can be surmised through investigation, the term applies to full and somewhat pouty lips, whether natural or obtained through collagen injection, and especially when they are highlighted with both lip liner and lipstick. As to whether the lips in question have ever actively performed Fellatio is evidently not part of the evaluation. Added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion
      Note: Your Good Brutha has never used the term to apply to anything except an internet access medium that is only marginally faster than dial up and at, usually, several times the price, or the computer language.

Daisy Chain
      The phrase itself implies a Group Sex encounter of three or more people.
      Most usually a Group Sex variation on the classic 69 Oral Sex position in which multiple participants arrange themselves face and mouth to sex organs in a circle or square (or even a straight line) and simultaneously give Oral Sex to the person and receive oral sex from another in turn. Can also be a 'chain' of those engaging in intercourse, although this is usually specific to homosexual men, it can be a mixed group or lesbians wearing dildos.
      The term has also been used as a somewhat humorous stage or professional name by various women, and a few Homosexual men as well, in the Adult Entertainment Industry.

'Daisy Dukes'
      Extremely short, and very tight, cut-off blue jean Short Shorts (which see) as worn by Catherine Bach (born 1954), usually while also wearing spike healed Sexy Shoes, in the 1980's CBS TV show Dukes of Hazzard. Bach became an overnight sensation and the subject of a popular poster. The only reason anybody ever watched the show, with its repetitive scripts and reused chase sequences, was to either see the General Lee® car, or Ms Bach in her shorts. From the first season on, high cut tight fitting denim shorts were known nationwide as 'Daisy Dukes', although most of the women who wore them did not look like 'Cousin Daisy'. See: Sex Symbol, Pinup, Gap.

Dance (as a social gathering)
      Event staged as a Mixer or ice breaker or general social outing for young people and singles. Often at a high school or college, or even to celebrate a rural occasion such as harvest with a 'barn dance'. Such events encouraged dating and the developing of social relationships and connections with the long range goal of courting and eventual marriage. They also encouraged a lot of Premarital Sex and other behavior either directly or indirectly. See: Dancing, Date, Mixer, and other references.

"Dance card is full."
      Term originated with Taxi Dancers and similar positions, where the individual dancer was booked up for either the entire evening or perhaps the event either by one or more patrons. See: Taxi Dancer, Go Go Girl, Exotic Dancer, Lap Dancer.

"Dance in my pants"
      Multiple meanings, all related more or less directly to the various stages of the Sexual Excitement of the Penis, as is obvious from its most famous (infamous) usage in a song from an otherwise quite forgettable album. See related "Dance" and other terms.

"Now your body really knows how to
speak, you're getting ready
Come on, take a chance
You got a whole lotta style and a load of romance
And me, me, me... I got dance in my pants...

Oooh, I know there's dance after death
And I don't ever want to be rescued
I don't ever want to be saved
I got a feeling that I'm gonna be alive forever
Dancing on the edge of a grave..."
Dance in my pants by Jim Steinman, album Bad for Good, Epic records, 1981

Darkfinger Technique
      Term coined by Brutha Jim Deep to describe his technique based on Yoni Massage for giving a woman internal anal massage to orgasm through variations of, and simultaneous Anal, Vaginal, G-Spot, and Clitoral stimulation. The technique is described in detail in his essay at http://bruthadeep.com/f3/darkfinger.htm as well as in various fictional stories and non-fiction articles and essays. The technique may also be used on a male, although even thinking about this will cause Mr. Deep to experience a severe case of the Fantods. See: Yoni Massage, Finger Fucking, G-spot, Hand, and related terms.

Date, Date Night
      An outing usually consisting of two single individuals which are 'getting to know' each other with the presumed goal of developing a more substantial relationship over time. Early dates usually do not end up concluding with Sexual Activity (Fucking), such as the famous 'dinner and a movie' first date. In fact, many organizations sponsor or host 'Peer Pressure free' dating events such as Dances, which seek to remove the prospect of sex from the equation by having said event in a public place, a church, school, or other location which would make 'pairing off' all but impossible. See: Dance, Social, Candy and Flowers, One Night Stand, Pick Up Line, Performance Anxiety, Hot Coffee, and related.
      'Date nights' that involve married couples are usually dedicated to romantic time away from children and other stress inducing factors such as jobs or bills which are intended to 'fan the flame' of romance which will, hopefully, end with sex.

Daydream
      To let one's thoughts wander and the Imagination while one is awake, to the point of visualizing situations of total Fantasy. Some "waking dreams" may appear so realistic as to take the person several minutes to become aware of their physical world once the vision passes. Compare: Ecstasy as related to enlightenment. Said fantasy may involve activity such as Roll Playing, which see, however, it is completely Imaginary. Also see: Psychosomatic Orgasm, Wet Dream, etc.

DD, Double D's (and variations)
      In our present context the term refers specifically to the Brassiere cup size of the female Breast which is an expression of the volume of the breast itself over and above the measurement of the circumference of the woman's rib cage. The sizes of the breasts are expressed in letters with 'A' being the smallest and the largest depending on the manufacturer with some ranging into the middle of the alphabet far beyond the fourth letter. The letter sizes are used for the surgically enhanced as well as the natural feature. See: Breast, Bra, Breast Enlargement, and related.
      The term has long been used by those with an Obsession with the Female Breast as the symbol of when a woman's tits were big enough for their viewing pleasure if for no other reason. However, it would seem that if ones intent is Tit Fucking, then anything above a 'B' cup may fill the bill. See: Infantile Fetish, "More Than A Mouthful..." , Fun Bags, and so on.

Death, Dying, Dead
      The final and irreversible cessation of life. The process and result thereof. The ultimate punishment wielded by society against those who violate its laws. Includes a morbid fascination with the subject and its various aspects up to and including a Fetish sex practice using coffins and other items usually associated with the dead. See: Necrophilia.
      In relation to our present work here: The ultimate consequence to practicing unsafe, risky, or just plain stupid Sex Acts. The significant risk of fatal injury is the best argument for the use of Safe Words and having an uninvolved onlooker (a referee if you will) during all but the mildest S&M and B&D acts. It is the only argument needed to convince a reasonable individual, male or female, to NOT practice Autoerotica when alone. It is the all you need to know about not using condoms and to use Safe Sex practices when with those you do not know well. To not use narcotics while partying with strangers. And so on.
      See: AIDS, Gothic, Safe Words, Safe Sex, Sharia, Vampire, and related terms.
"Death, the final, triumphant lover." - Bela Lugosi (1882 - 1956)

Debauchery
      The word itself almost literally means to swim, or perhaps drown, in total moral corruption. Usually thought of as an excess of fun of which 'proper folk' would not approve. Such as spending a weekend boozing, gambling, whoring, watching smut, and listening to loud music. Which sounds like an excellent time to Your Good Brutha, but there are those who would disapprove (right Dok?). A good example is the Bacchanalia. Also see: Bender.

Debbie Does Dallas
      Another movie from the Golden Age Of Porn. Directed by Jim Clark and starring Bambi Woods, the 1978 movie didn't set out to become an icon in the industry, which it did, and remains so to this day. Contrary to the title, the entire movie was filmed in New York City, supposedly without the permission or knowledge of the locations used. The production was sued over the use of the "Dallas Cowboys Cheerleaders" uniform and the advertising claiming Ms Woods was a former member of the squad, she had tried out but didn't make it, and for Obscenity by the Government, it was found not to be Obscene, but was still used as a good bad example in the Meese Report, which see.
      In spite of, or maybe because of, all the attention, the film was a hit upon it release and then one of the earliest success stories of the VHS era of Adult Entertainment selling 50,000 copies in the early nineties, and is still one of the most popular on adult TV channels. Over the years since its release there have been several sequels, at least one included Ms Woods in the title roll, but none were as good as the original. Added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion

Debonair
      A the term describes the mannerisms and attitude of a gentleman who is outgoing and the "Life of the Party" while maintaining his dignity (no lampshade karaoke). Usually indicates a Sophisticated, classy man, who is something of a suave and cool Ladies Man with 'savoir faire'. The term is usually not applied to women, but the equivalent would be a charming and elegant Lady. The exact opposite would be Kanye West, see Punk.
      See: Rat Pack, Sophisticated, Ladies Man, "Life of the Party" and related.
"...You’re bound to lose control
When the Rubberband Man starts to jam ...
...How much of this stuff do he think we can stand
So much rhythm, grace and debonair from one man, Lord."
- The (Detroit) Spinners, The Rubberband Man, words and lyrics by Bell and Creed, Album Happiness Is..., Atlantic Records, 1976

Debutante, Debutante Ball, Debut
      A girl who is 'presented to society' at a Coming Out ball or party. Traditionally the event indicated that the girl was available for courting by eligible bachelors. The girls were generally sequestered just prior to their entrance as a symbol of their Virtue. Today the event is just another excuse for a fancy, and expensive, status symbol type formal event. See: Coming Out Party, Quinceañera, Of Age, and related. The use of these terms in association with a male of the same age is stupid and only done by those with more money than sense.
      Also used in other situations where one makes their initial appearance in something they have never done before. Such as a rookie quarterback making his first professional start or a new female Adult Actress making her Porn debut in her first hardcore film.

Deep Kissing
      Open mouth kissing where one searches the other's mouth with their tongue and vice versa. See: French Kissing.

Deep Throat
      Multiple uses.
      Adult Film from 1972 starring Linda Lovelace (which see) in which her character finds sexual happiness performing the title skill. The film cost $25,000 to make, and has since grossed, by most estimates, over six hundred million dollars, possibly making it the highest grossing film in relation to initial investment of all time. Not bad for a movie that was banned in 23 states when it was released. See: Golden Age of Porn, Meese Report, Obscenity, and related.
      Watergate scandal informant nick-named for the movie by the team of investigative reporters from the Washington Post. Although they have since revealed the true identity of the informant, some questions remain as to how their source came to possess some of the inside information he revealed.
      For the Oral Sex Practice, see Fellatio, Irrumatio, and related.
"Yet to ask what the Romans would have thought about "Deep Throat" is akin to asking what the Romans would have thought about helicopters."
- The Meese Report (see entry), 1986

De-flowering, Defloration, 'Taking Her Cherry'
      The act of the first sexual penetration of a Virgin. In most cases it refers to the rupturing of the Hymen 'the Cherry' during first Sexual Intercourse, but may also involve the use of a Dildo or other device. Has been corrupted to apply to the Gay equivalent. See: Hymen, Virgin, Cherry, Becoming A Woman, Wedding Night.

Demure
      Somewhat obsolete term most usually used to describe a woman who keeps to herself, is Humble, perhaps Shy, and retiring of her own accord and wishes. Often seen in orthodox religions and conservative circles. Usually one of the hallmarks of a Lady. The opposite would be something along the lines of Brazen or Sassy, which see.

Desensitizing Cream
      Lotion or ointment used to partially anesthetize the skin and surrounding tissues with ingredients like benzocaine, thusly lowering the overall sensations being experienced, such as during Sexual Intercourse.
      The cream is most often used for men who experience Premature Ejaculation as it decreases the sensitivity of the Penis and thusly increases the duration of Intercourse. However, if a woman experiences painful intercourse, some Lubricating gels with similar properties can be used as well. See: Lubrication and related.

Desire
      Powerful Emotion akin to hunger. Also described as a longing for something or somebody. Is occasionally used instead of the term Lust in modern Wedding Vows (which see). Also see: Emotion.
      For our purposes, it may be defined as a deep feeling that involves both Sexual Desire and an emotional attachment to the object of that Lust such as Love.
      Also see: Lovesick, Heartbreak, Unrequited Love.

Desperate Housewife
      Titillation style TV series (and later motion picture), and its clones, about several upper middle class women who are unhappy with everything except their latest Paramour. See: Soap Opera.
      Portrayal of Married Women whose husbands are not 'tending to business' at home and the women are out looking for satisfaction, and Orgasms, outside of their Marital Bed. How much of this is realistic, and how much is wishful thinking is subject to wide debate. See: Wife, Hot Mom, MILF, and related. Compare: Post Partum Depression

Deviant, Deviance, Deviation
      Something not of the norm or that which strays outside the rules of the mainstream or Community Standards (which see). One who practices as such. Said 'deviation' from whatever is considered within the realm of 'normal' may be anything from political or religious views, dietary, personal grooming habits, or even (as to our discussion here) sexual. Such as a Congressman who is a communist vegan Gnostic with extreme body odor who has a homosexual foot fetish (no disrespect to anybody outside Congress who does those things is intended).
      The societal definition of exactly what and who is 'deviant' is a varied and moving target. What is considered a reasonable weekend diversion in say San Francisco or certain places in New Jersey, would be condemned as a Mortal Sin in less liberal environs. However, most small towns do have their secrets, such as with the famous Peyton Place (which see), which could be considered as having made the odd the norm.
      See, Compare: and contrast the following related terms: Sin, Perversion, Fetish, Principals, Virtue, Seven Deadly Sins, Hypocrisy.

DH
      A perfect example of how a simple abbreviation or "chat shorthand" can have multiple meanings depending on where and when used and by whom. Added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion
  "DH" is known to mean:

• In Pennsylvania, USA it means Doylestown Hospital as demonstrated by their web URL: dh.org
• Darwin Holdings, Inc., the owners of a Net based telephone directory search platform, see: dh.com
• D.H. Lawrence should be in this Glossary as the author of Lady Chatterley's Lover (which see) if for no other reason.
• Durham County postal code for the area around the city of Durham in north central England near Newcastle in the UK.
• Designated Hitter. Perhaps until recently the most well known meaning of the two letters, it signifies the player who bats for the pitcher in an Major League Baseball American League game and in various other leagues.... as well as ...
• .... the other meaning for "Designated Hitter" has to do with the male actor who will be filmed having Heterosexual Genital Intercourse with the female star (or any other sort of sex for that matter) whenever wide shots are made where the actor's face will be not seen and the focus is on their bodies, usually done to preserve the myth that the star is in great shape when the truth is somewhat less flattering. In other productions, a "stunt double" Penis is likely to be used for much the same reason. This technique is used in both Adult Movies as well as more mainstream releases. See: Body Double, Simulated Sex Act.
• Dead Head, as in a either a dedicated fan of the band The Grateful Dead (and various incarnations thereof), or, when used in reference to commercial trucking, a run made without a paying load.
• Most often today in text messages and chat rooms it is said to stand for something along the lines of "Dear Husband". We put the words in quotes because the use is quite often sarcastic.

Dick, Cock
      Terms used to refer to the Penis. Also, 'Dick' (besides being a first name, such as in Richard Nixon) is used as a derogatory term for an unpleasant male, as in 'a dickhead politician'. See: Penis and related topics.

Dick Stories, Locker Room Talk
      Usually idle, and empty, boasting about Sexual Conquests, may occasionally be based on reality, but truth is not a requirement. See: Girl Talk, Bases, Bullshit, and related topics.

Dickhead
      Slang term for a man whose brains appear to be in his Penis. Synonymous with Prick or Asshole (which see). Also see: Weiner.
      Is also occasionally used to describe the Glans of the Penis which is the actual 'head' of a man's 'dick'. See: Glans.

Digital Vaginal (or Rectal) Exam
      Medical exam of the Vaginal or the Anus by a gloved and lubed finger or fingers which is then used to check the various internal organs. See: OB/GYN, Premarital Pelvic Exam, Rectal Exam, and related. Also the Medical Fetish use thereof, which see.

Dilated, Dilation
      An open bodily orifice which is usually closed. Such as the Cervix during the birthing process. Often done in a medical environment such as the Vagina during an OB/GYN exam using a Speculum.
      For our use here: Said bodily opening which has been opened through Sexual Excitement, Penetration or other means. Most usually used in reference to the Vagina or Anus, as the mouth isn't usually thought of as needing opened involuntarily. See: Cave.

Dildo, Strap-On
      Most Usually- a probe made to resemble a human penis without mechanical or electrical enhancements such as vibration, heating, or ejaculation used for penetrating the vagina or anus for sexual purposes while being held in the hand (or teeth, etc). Usually made of plastic although some are carved from ivory or wood, formed from metal or even stone- such as phallic symbols found in ancient temples. In some cases, phallic shaped vegetables and fruits, such as carrots, bananas, zucchini, and others have been used as such, and then even eaten... see Cigar!
      Some women, including many Lesbians, have devices to be used as such which attach the probe to a belt so it can be worn to mimic the male role in Sex Play with other women without a male being present. Also what others use to Penetrate their male partner orally or anally as with a Fem Dom. For more intense practices such as B&D the dildo can be fitted to a harness that fits around the sub's head and face so the dildo appears to be projecting from the mouth or nose. Also see: Vibrator, Butt Plug, Insertion, and related topics.

Dime Novel
      The term goes back many years, even to the time of the US War Between the States. However, most people think of the mass produced low quality books produced during the 1920's and 30's with action oriented and slightly Naughty plots. These gave way to Pulp Fiction and Formula Romance Novels later on, which see.
      Most people will recognize the term, and the implications thereof, from the line in Meredith Willson's play and movie The Music Man when the shyster band leader asks if the people's sons have "dime novels hidden in the corn crib" to gasps and incriminating looks from the crowd.

Diminutive
      Informal, affectionate, and sometimes private nickname for an individual, Often used with Sweet Nothings and in the early period of Courtship. See: Pet Name, Euphemism, and related terms.
      Or, more to the point in our current context, a name that is used to refer to a personal body part. Best examples of which would be a man calling his Penis a variation of his own name.

Dingleberry
      Multiple uses, all within the same theme.
      The term seems to have been invented to describe a small amount of an animal's manure which had become entrapped in the fur around its anus and thus becomes a refuge for insects and other vermin, which could then endanger the animal's health. There was no way to remove the offending material other than to physically remove it, usually by manually trimming the surrounding hair. Which, needless to say, was a nasty and unwelcome but necessary job.
      The original meaning as it apples to humans covers a variety of similar objects with the same basic cause and end result. That being, any small object which adheres to the Anal area, either stuck to the skin or entrapped in the surrounding hair. May be fecal material, toilet paper, lint, or anything else, including dried Semen and other material. Removal may be as simple as taking a shower, but may become more involved, especially if an infection or infestation is involved.
      The term has come to mean anything, or anybody, who is essentially useless, annoying or obnoxious, unpleasant, and perhaps smelly. Such as a Congressman.
      Is also used on occasion, and somewhat incorrectly, to mean somebody who demonstrates or possesses profound ignorance and / or stupidity. Again, this is applicable to Congress.

Dipshit
      Somewhat dated term for an idiot of unusual magnitude that stands out from the others of similar species. Akin to a fundummy who is stupid and really can't help it. A moron. Not usually considered a jerk or an Asshole, which see, who are intentionally that way. While the term is not Sex specific, it is usually used to refer to Males, the Female equivalent is airhead or Bimbo, which see. See: Dumbass, Numbnuts, Congress, and related.
      The term is NOT otherwise related to Sexuality and even though some Fluffy (which see) women consider Anal Intercourse or even the Darkfinger technique 'dipping shit' or other similar expressions, their use of the term merely shows their ignorance of the subject.

Dirty Mind
      Personality trait, or perhaps just a case where somebody's internal wiring is just a bit offbeat, where they can take any situation, statement, or idea and Sexualize it, sometimes in jest, sometimes seriously. Having said trait can be a lot of fun, and some, like The Doktor have made a career out of it, others, like Your Good Brutha use it to enlighten others as to what they are missing by being dull. Also see: "Mind In The Gutter", Naughty, Pervert, and related.

Dirty Old Man
      Derogatory term used for any man over the age of fifty, or so, who shows any sexual interest in women under the age of about forty. Also used if the said interest is merely presumed or assumed and not real. See: Lecher, and related quote at Harrison Marks. Compare: Rake.

Divorce
      Legal dissolution of Marriage. In some US states, No Fault Divorce allows for the proceeding without casting blame for the failure of the union on either party. In Hollywood the term 'serial marriages' can be used for people like Zsa Zsa Gabor (born 1917) who has been married (and divorced) eight times. See: Adultery and related.
"Conrad Hilton was very generous to me in the divorce settlement. He gave me 5,000 Gideon Bibles." - Zsa Zsa Gabor (born 1917)

Do It, Doing It, Did It, Done It, Etc.
      Euphemism (which see) for Fucking or Sexual Intercourse, or other Sexual Activity. Often used during shows on the Family Hour or in advertising to be Naughty, see said terms. Compare: "Sleep Together".

Dog
      Multiple meanings and usage, although all are related to the first and most accurate definition.
      Canis lupus familiaris A.K.A. the domestic 'dog', such as, a basset hound, poodle, or even a junkyard mutt.
      To relentlessly and mercilessly hunt, pursue, or harass a target. To display an overwhelming amount of determination to accomplish a given goal. To display absolute exhaustion once said goal is reached. Or conversely, to be overcome by total exhaustion, supposedly in pursuit of the desired ends.
      One's feet. Especially when said body parts have been used excessively, such as when following a woman through a shopping mall on Black Friday. "My dogs are dead tired."
      Street expression roughly equivalent to the worn out and overused, and therefore meaningless, terms "homeboy", "dude" or even "bro".
      More to our point here: An ugly woman, the exact opposite of a Babe. Especially applies if she is Fluffy, which see. However, as much as Beauty is in the eye of the beholder, levels of attractiveness are extremely subjective and a woman, or a man for that matter, whom some would say 'is a real dog' others would remark that 'they're not that bad'. That being said, some women can be classified as 'dogs' as much for their personality as their looks, for which we will hold up Rosie O'Donnell (born 1962) as a very good bad example. See: Bitch.
      Also see: "Ridden Hard and Put Up Wet", Sexually Attractive, Sexually Desirable, and, of course: Doggy Style

Dogging
      Curious practice from the United Kingdom where people engage in Sex in Public knowingly and with the intent of being watched. Thusly combining Exhibitionism with Voyeurism when all parties are Consenting. See highlighted terms.

Doggy (Doggie) Style
      Position for sexual intercourse where the receiving partner is on hands and knees or other 'four footed', or similar Submissive posture (such as bending over a table) to accept insertion and is then Penetrated from behind either Vaginally or Anally. There are an almost endless list of variations of this position and names for them, especially in the "Kama Sutra". The Penetrating partner may be male's Penis, a female wearing a Strap-On, a Sex Toy, Fist, or almost anything else.

Doll, Doll Face
      Outdated expressions for an attractive woman or a Babe, which see. Most usually heard in period gangster movies and TV shows attempting to re-create the "Roaring Twenties" or to make a man appear to be an insensitive jerk. See: Angel and other related terms.
      The expressions would appear to originate with the delicate porcelain dolls from the late nineteenth century which had extremely fine and somewhat idealized features.

Dom, Domination, Dominatrix
      Involves one person behaving as the Master, ruler or owner (the Dominate) of one or more who willingly Submits themselves to the control of the other. The Dom and Sub may be either sexual gender with women doms wearing the title Dominatrix in the role of Fem Dom. May involve punishment or humiliation of the Submissive party including Bondage, the wearing of special gear such as masks and Collars. Sometimes the dom and their sub do not engage in sexual activity such as Intercourse. In more extreme cases of D&S mock or actual torture may be involved. As in other types of such activity, it is recommended a Safe Word be agreed upon before beginning. See: Sub, S&M Ass Worship, Yoni Worship.
      A dominatrix is a woman playing the role of a Dom, often in the stereotypical Costume (which see) of full black leathers, including high heeled boots that may extend to above her knee, complete with whip and other tools and toys. See: "Fuck me boots", Fetish, Mistress, and related.

Don Juan, Don Giovanni
      The famous fictional swashbuckling Womanizer of Spain whose exploits are told by several authors including Lord Byron (1788 - 1824) and Miguel de Cervantes (1547 - 1616) up to and including modern renderings such as a recently published Lost Diary.
      The stories usually include a sweeping seduction, swordplay between the great lover and offended husbands or fathers, a great escape, and oftentimes some plot twist which redeems the charming Cad through some heroic act.
      The Don Juan legend may have some basis in both reality and a few Shakespearean characters taken to the logical extreme. Even so, it, and he, have become the archetype for that type of character. See: Casanova, Libertine, Philanderer - Womanizer, Promiscuity, Seduction, Rake

"Don't Ask, Don't Tell"
      Official US Military Policy enacted under President Clinton in 1993 to allow, by non-disclosure if not through official recognition, homosexuals and others of varying tastes to serve in the US Armed Forces. The unofficial name of the policy is how it was enacted, commanding officers and other officials were not allowed to ask a members orientation, nor were the service members required to answer if they were asked, and they were not supposed to openly declare their preference as well. It has worked moderately well in maintaining the "esprit de corps". See: Gay Pride, Political Correctness, "That's So Gay", GLBT, and related.
      The old saying "do something, even if it is wrong" most certainly applies here. There is no good solution that would make everybody happy, however, this one went a long way to pissing everybody off, and it most certainly increased debate on the matter. No matter what the mass media and various entertainment outlets maintain, Homosexuality (and so on) is still a minority of the population, so to ban them from service is an option, but it is an unfair and unrealistic option. To make separate units of "all gay" or "all bi" or whatever is unworkable. And to have one or two "flaming homos" in an otherwise straight platoon would be bad for the unit. The policy is far from perfect, but it seems to be working except for a isolated cases that may well be publicity seekers with their political nose out of joint. On the whole, the matter will likely come back to the forefront with President Obama wishing to meddle with it.

Double Entendre, Double Meaning
      Saying one thing while meaning something quite different. See: Mae West quote at Innuendo, Compare: Titillation. See: Flirting for good example of the use of said idea. Also see: Suggestive, Racy, and "bleep".

Double Penetration, DP
      Usually means a woman taking one man's Penis (or reasonable facsimile) in her Vagina and another in her Anus at the same time (double pelvic penetration). Is sometimes applied to a woman having simultaneous Oral and either Vaginal or Anal Sex with two men. Also used for the gay equivalent- oral and anal. Also used to describe two penises sharing the same opening such as two men entering the same Vagina or Anus at once. DP, in all its variations, is an adult movie staple and, by definition is a group sex practice. See: Triple Penetration, Group Sex, DAPE, Woman on Top, Sandwich, and other related topics.

Douche, Douche Bag
      Devices similar to Enema applicators (perforated probe, flexible connecting hose, reservoir bag or bottle) which are used to cleanse the Vagina and related structures. Any of a variety of commercially available ready to use preparations or mixable liquids to use for said purpose. The verb form is 'to douche'. See: Feminine Hygiene Products, Enema
      A Politician (please see both Asshole, and Politician). Or in some cases, a TV sports commentator with diarrhea of the mouth.

Down Blouse
      Voyeuristic practice which specializes in images of women's Breasts, Cleavage, and even Nipples when they are (supposedly) unaware of such photography taking place. Many jurisdictions have now passed Privacy laws specifically for this practice as well as Upskirting, which see. Also see: Privacy, Voyeurism.

Dr Ruth, Doctor Ruth Westheimer
      Internationally recognized Sex Educator and speaker. See: more on her under Sex Education and quotes under Orgasm and Aphrodisiac.

Drag
      A serious downer or mood destroyer, synonymous with 'bummer', something which is tedious or tiresome. For an example of something that is 'a drag' see Political Correctness.
      More to our current point- a term that has been in common usage since the 1930's to mean Cross Dresser' or Transvestite, and occasionally Homosexual. Mae West, which see, wrote and starred in a play entitled The Drag in 1929 about homosexual men, whom she seemed to find fascinating. See: next entry. Also see: Queen, Transsexual

Drag Queen, Drag King
      Most usually male dressed 'often quite badly' as a woman. The 'queen' may or may not be gay although flamboyantly gay men are often referred to as 'queens'. Some clubs feature floorshows entirely made up of cross dressing performers. The 'king' variety often features masculine women playing a 'butch' or 'dyke' lesbian. See: Transsexual, Queen, Drag. Compare: Rae Rae
"It's a good thing I was born a girl, otherwise I'd be a drag queen." -Dolly Parton

"Drop Her Hanky" in various forms
      Back in the bad old Victorian days a proper Lady would never wish to seem so forward as to initiate a conversation with a Gentleman, even if she was extremely interested in doing so. (Or at least so the stories go.) So instead of walking up to him and doing so, she would appear to accidently drop her handkerchief in his full view, and then walk away appearing to not have noticed the loss. He, being a proper gentleman, would retrieve the lost accessory and present it to her with a slight bow and a tipped hat and say "madam, did you..." A proper introduction then having been made.... then they could go Fuck like animals.
      A variation on the theme is for the Lady to approach the Gentleman and inquire as to did he have the proper time. She would only do so in a crowd so there would be witnesses that indeed her inquiry was innocent and in no way a Flirtation.
      Whether or not any lady ever dropped any hankies is irrelevant. It became such a stereotype of that all important first meeting that it is still used today in plays and motion pictures. See: Flirt, Pick Up Line, Lady, Victorian, and related.

Drop the Soap
      Refers to Homosexual Rape in prisons and other sexually segregated situations. Akin to "Bend Over And Grab Your Ankles" which see. The implication is that by dropping your soap, you will have to bend over and get it, thereby exposing your Anus to Penetration by another man who would be so inclined to take advantage of said access, thus making the other a 'Butt Boy / Buddy' which see.

Drunk, Drunken.... various modifiers
      The state of alcoholic intoxication. Is sometimes also applied to drug abuse. Under said condition the person usually experiences lowered Inhibitions, poor judgment, and increased feelings of invulnerability. They are also more susceptible to Peer Pressure and suggestion.
      For our Glossary we are going to discuss different behaviors and actions as performed by individuals who are so intoxicated, which includes Exhibitionism, Group Sex, Extreme Sex, and other behavior which they may not engage in normally but probably made them the "Life of the Party" in a bad way that they would not be proud of the next day. See: Conscience, Informed Consent, and related. We shall leave the other aspects and consequences, such as Vomiting (which see), alcohol poisoning, arrest of various charges, and the going price of good booze for another forum. See: Bender for more.
      There are numerous websites featuring movies and pictures of people who are supposedly intoxicated and doing all sorts of things. Not only do these sites feature the usual suspects of college students, Co-Eds, 'Teens', and others of that vein, but also Housewives and others not usually associated with excessive debauchery. See: "Party in my Mouth", Swinger Party, Sex Games, Implied Consent, and related. Also see: other highlighted terms.
      Part of the problem with this behavior is that drunks seldom practice Safe Sex, which see.
"You're not drunk if you can lie on the floor without holding on." - Dean Martin (1917-1995)

Dry Humping
      Simulating the Sex Act while fully clothed or otherwise not engaged directly in sex. The practice involves stimulation of the sex organs by rubbing them against another person, or an inanimate object or even an animal, for sexual gratification, but not necessarily with the intent to produce Climax or Orgasm. Oftentimes done in crowded locations such as concerts and subways, sometimes without the passive partner even being aware of what is going on. Historically was done by men, however, women are known to do the same thing, sometimes in public, and to Orgasm as well, for instance, while using exercise equipment or leaning on a post at a bus stop. One of the other many terms for the practice is Frottage. See: Dirty Dancing, Intercrural Sex.
      Also used as a derogatory comment as to when something is particularly unsatisfying, unproductive, or known to be futile from the beginning. Can also be used as an insult against another person when one would say (for example) you'd rather 'dry hump' a piece of furniture than work with them.

Dumbass
      Somewhat dated term for an idiot of unusual magnitude that stands out from others of similar species. Akin to a fundummy who is stupid and really can't help it. Not usually considered a jerk or an Asshole, which see, who are intentionally that way. This term is not Sex specific although it is usually used to refer to Males, the Female equivalent is airhead or Bimbo, which see. Also see: Dipshit and related.
      The derogatory term has no Sexual Connotations other than not being a compliment.

Dutch Rudder
      The usual meaning for the term is where a man holds his own Penis in his hand, and another person grasps of his arm and moves his hand up and down to Masturbate him. As to why anybody would wish to do so is beyond the ken of this Glossary.
      The naval flavor of the term implies Homosexual activity, however, that is not implicit in the definition. It could be a case of a Reach Around (which see) where a woman is wearing a Strap On and Fucking the man (see Pegging), and her arms aren't of sufficient length to accomplish the deed. added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion

Dyke
      Slang term for a woman with a dominate, masculine personality. Most usually a Lesbian. Synonym to Butch. Compare: Lipstick Lesbian.

E.R.A.
      Multiple meanings including: Earned Run Average. A formula based statistic used to determine the effectiveness of a baseball pitcher. An "ERA" under 4 is very good but one over 5 will likely get a pitcher demoted or released from his contract. It is a mathematical projection of the number of earned runs a given pitcher would allow during a full nine inning game.
      The Electronic Retailing Association for those who sell stuff online.
      Electronic Realty Associates, Inc.. a subsidiary of Reology, which also owns Coldwell Banker and Century 21. (All said corporate names are registered marks of Reology and are used for informational purposes only.)
      More to our point here, the abbreviation stands for the Equal Rights Amendment, see following full quote of the text. The proposed amendment to the US Constitution would formalize that the rights stipulated in the document would apply to everybody in no uncertain terms. Nevermind the fact that they already do. Proposed in the 1970's the amendment never achieved the required ratifications by the various states, in spite of Congress changing the rules to make it easier for it to pass. It is worth noting here that if it had passed, that women would be required to register for, and be subject to, military conscription (the draft). The debate has largely evaporated as other Equal Opportunity laws have been enacted at the state and federal levels. See: Feminism, Gay Pride, Equal Opportunity
"Equality of rights under the law shall not be denied or abridged by the United States or by any State on account of sex."
Section One of Proposed Amendment to US Constituion.

E.S.R.B., Entertainment Software Rating Board
      Industry supported non-profit advisory board which sets content standards for software and video games. The board began in 1994 as the industry's response to concern from parent groups and social watchdogs (do-gooders) who objected to some of the more extreme content in certain games, see "Hot Coffee" for example.
      Their six categories for material rated by the board range from Early Childhood, preschool age and above, through Mature and Adults Only (which see) for content recommended only for those above the ages of 17 or 18 respectively, which are the only Ratings they have which apply to this Glossary's topic. Note: said ratings are registered marks of the E.S.R.B..
      Below those six categories is an extensive list of modifiers and content descriptions covering many types of objectionable content. For more information see their website at http://www.E.S.R.B..org/

Easy
      Promiscuous person who engages in excessive Casual Sex, often used in a negative way to describe a woman who enjoys sex. Also see: Loose, Slut, Cheap, Fast.

Eating -Pussy, -Out, -at the 'Y', etc
      Euphemisms for Oral Sex. However, usually the one being 'eaten out' is female, save one interesting exception: see Cunnilingus, Oral Sex, Analingus, Fur Burger.

Ecstasy
      Extremely rare detached Emotional state of heightened pleasure and awareness, even enlightenment. Experienced through Tantric Sex, supreme religious event, and/ or deep meditation. See: Psychosomatic Spontaneous Orgasm reference to St Teresa, as well as Tantra, Orgasm, Emotion, Passion, and other references.

Effeminate
      A man who has a feminine appearance or traits, regardless of his Sexual Orientation. A woman who exhibits the same characteristics is called Feminine.
      A Gay man who plays the Feminine role in his mannerisms, speech patterns, walk, and general style. See: Flame, Emasculate, Rae Rae.

Egg, Ovum
      A primary component of breakfast, supplied by a laying hen chicken. Best cooked over easy with just a pinch of salt and a LOT of pepper and served with slightly spicy sausages and fresh biscuits.
      For this Glossary, the female gamete (fertile cell). See: Pregnancy. Compare: Sperm.

Eight Millimeter Film, 8mm, Super-8
      Celluloid film based moving picture format made popular by inexpensive home projectors first available to the public in 1932. Used for both home movies shot with hand held cameras and low budget often poor quality special interest films such as travel pieces as well as the infamous Stag Films. The entire industry, Adult and otherwise, of film, cameras, projectors, and other equipment was made obsolete by the development of the VCR and then all but killed with the release of digital equipment and the DVD. Today, Super-8 film is used by some art film makers who value the overall quality of the video image. See: Harrison Marks, Linda Lovelace.

Ejaculation, Make a Nut, Shoot Off, Blow Load, etc.
      Discharge of Semen from the penis or a good amount of fluid from the Vagina. Folklore names the penile version 'the male orgasm' which is incorrect. The Ejaculation of Semen is a physical response which may or may not be related to an actual Orgasm and can also occur without an Erection, which see. The slang terms and Euphemisms for it are almost endless, and new ones appear all the time.
      Female Ejaculation, while documented in some medical literature as well as a significant number of adult movies, is still said not to exist by experts. See said topic for in depth discussion. Also see: Squirting.
      See: Cum, Cumshot, Wet Dream, Premature Ejaculation, for more. (pun intended)

Electra Complex
      Idea fostered by Dr. Karl Jung (1875 - 1961) somewhat in opposition to Freud's more widely known ideas on the Oedipus Complex in which young girls wish to eliminate their own mothers so as to possess their fathers.
      Like most ideas in psychology, the idea does have some merit, but is scarcely the widespread neurosis most practitioners and TV talking heads would have you believe. See: highlighted terms.

Emasculate, Emasculated
      A man, or even an organization, who has had, or is having, any Masculine traits or tendencies removed or suppressed. In some cases this involves physical Castration or Forced Feminization, which see.
      Is not the exact opposite of Masculine although it is often stated as Effeminate which emphasizes the expressed Feminine traits and not the lack of those deemed Masculine.
      The organizational side of this can be seen in the state (or 'public') schools which have removed the majority of physical competitions in physical education and have emphasized 'feelings' in the classrooms instead of logic and deductive reasoning.

Emetophilia, Emetophile
      Sexual attraction to Vomit, also Vomit Fetish (which see).
      One who is sexually attracted to the expelled material itself or the act of producing it, or even the motions and sounds associated with the process. Some of those who are so inclined achieve Sexual Arousal or satisfaction by having others, usually young Oriental women, vomit on them. In some cases, practitioners have forced said young women to drink excess amounts of liquid, including alcohol, in order to induce vomiting, such practice can be dangerous. See: Drunk.
      The practice is often associated with more extreme S&M and B&D which may use forced vomiting, such as Cock Gagging (which see) to make the Submissive party vomit as part of a Humiliation ritual.
      Pornographic images and videos with said subject matter. Most of which appear to have been produced in the Far East. Where all manner of bathroom practices are trotted out for view by all and sundry. Also see: Klismaphilia (Enema Fetish).
      This is generally regarded as one of the absolute sickest (pun intended) of the Fetishes, ranking right up there with Necrophilia, however, being fascinated by puke is not usually a Felony (whereas Necrophilia usually is).

Emo
      Most usually, entertainment or artistic work which makes a straightforward attempt to evoke strong Emotions from the observer. Performer or artist who does so with that end in mind. See: Chick Flick, Gothic, Romance and related.

Emotion, Emotions
      Complex of thoughts, instincts, reactions, memories, physiological factors and even personality traits which feed the consciousness of most Humans. Can be survival based such as the processing of the 'fight or flight' reaction.
      In this context, the emotions are usually deeply involved in the sexual expressions between two people. Practices such as Sex Play are usually an attempt to remove at least some of those feelings from the sexual activity being pursued.
      Historically women have been thought of as placing more emotional value to the Sex Act than men, however, that is more of a stereotype than a verifiable truth. What does seem to be true is that most women do bring more emotional baggage to a relationship than men, and thusly to any sexual aspect of the relationship. When it comes to Casual Sex, both sexes seem to be equally capable of engaging in it with no emotional bonding whatsoever.
      Intense levels can lead to Ecstasy, invoke strong Passion, or bring one to Heartbreak. See said terms. Also see: Love, Desire, Post Partum Depression, Lust, and related.
"Sex is emotion in motion."
Mae West (1893 - 1980)

Emotional Infidelity
      A very etheric concept which regards emotional attachment to another person outside one's immediate family as Adultery on par with actual Sexual Intercourse outside of the marriage. In some jurisdictions such estrangement is grounds for divorce.
      A debate currently rages in some circles as to whether Cybering and other non-contact flirtations between a married individual and anyone else, especially between a married man and a single woman, is indeed equal to Fucking.
      The problem with the concept is exactly where do you draw the line? Can a married person be friends with a member of the opposite sex without running the risk? What if it is Homosexual? What if the couple are friends with another couple and the opposite sex partners hit it off and become friends? Are they "emotional swingers"? Ahhh... we shall end this right there.
      See: Cybering, Cheating, Infidelity, Adultery, Marriage, and related. Added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion

Endoscope
      Flexible fiber optic camera with lights and cable links for viewing inside small areas including inside the human body. As inside the Vagina or the Anus during a colonoscopy. See: OB/GYN, Speculum, Medical Fetish.

Endowment
      Huge. Massive. Over the Top. Enormous. Bulging bank accounts of various Ivy League Universities provided by wealthy alumni who have mostly stolen their money from the public and government.
      For this Glossary, the relative size of a man's Penis. See: Penis Size.
      Also equally applicable. The relative size of a woman's Breasts. Which see.
      The usage 'well endowed' applies to all three above examples when the item under discussion is exceptionally large.

Enema, Enema Fetish
      Flushing the lower large intestine and rectum with water or other liquid discharged from a long, thin, hollow probe inserted into the Anus, the probe is usually connected to a portable reservoir by a long, flexible tube. Originally an ancient medical procedure much advocated by the infamous Dr. J. Harvey Kellogg (1852 - 1943), the brother of the corn flake company founder. The practice can be part of a cleansing ritual for further activity or the subject of the sexual act itself such as with medical fantasies and fetishes.
      The term often used for the associated range of behaviors is Klismaphilia, which is sometimes thought of as a form of Masturbation focused on the Anus as the source of pleasure or the Obsession with it. See: Anal Retentive, Anal Sex, Medical Fetish.

Engagement
      Serious commitment ultimately leading to Marriage, one step above Courting as the two people so involved are now a couple and have declared so publicly, often with a picture and article in the newspaper. Engagements usually last from several months to the 'socialite' ideal of a year. Engaged couples may or may not be having sex with each other, but should not be so involved with anybody else. See: Saving Oneself, Monogamy, "Pop The Question", Proposal.

Enzyte, and "Smiling Bob"
      Bob is the spokesmodel for the fraudulent product Enzyte® which is advertised to provide Natural Male Enhancement. It does not, and indeed- can not, work. (See more at "Smiling Bob", including the probable fate of the actor.)
      The active ingredients in the product are a range of commonly available vitamins and herbal products including several that may interact with other medications such as Ginkgo biloba and ginseng. Nothing in the product has ever been shown to do anything to increase the size of an adult man's Penis, or any other body part. These same ingredients are fairly common in all of the currently marketed Penis Enlargement Treatments. See: Dok's article at "Get a Larger...."
      The company's founder, Steve Warshak, and others associated with the product have been found guilty on a host (93 counts!) of state and federal charges including bank fraud, conspiracy to commit mail fraud, and money laundering, yet the product continues to be advertised and sold. Hopefully the product will be pulled from the market and "Bob" will have to find other work as he was not named in the charges as an accomplice. Warshak was sentenced to 25 years in prison. See: Felony.

Epicure, Epicurean
      One whom enjoys a life of ease, luxury, and pleasure, without the labor or toil experienced by others to make a living. But not to the excess of a Hedonist who desires pleasure above all else. Most notably: the leisure classes of the aristocracy of Europe during the Middle Ages, also seen in the US today in the idle rich and Celebrity classes.
"I am an Epicurean. I consider the genuine (not the imputed) doctrines of Epicurus as containing everything rational in moral philosophy which Greek and Roman leave to us."
- Thomas Jefferson (1743 - 1826)

Equal Opportunity
      Now, by federal mandate, everybody; regardless of race, creed, color, sex, sexual orientation, religion, handicap, education, allergy, hair color, shoe size, or being a left handed vegetarian Eskimo..... has the same right as everybody else to be a wage slave. Or at least so we are told. See: Political Correctness.

Erectile Dysfunction Treatments, 'E.D.T.'s
      The failure, for a variety of physical, medical, and mental/emotional reasons, for a man to fail to produce or maintain an Erection of the Penis, AKA Impotence, which see. The attempt to correct said condition. See: Staying Power for the Porno world application thereof.
      Found all over cable sports programs and various prime time shows the commercials for Erectile Dysfunction Medications would give one the impression that a sizable percentage of American men cannot 'get it up' to save their lives, see Impotence. This would be an incorrect assumption. However, given the amounts of money brought in by the companies from these drugs it is obvious that they have indeed created a market for themselves based on the fear of a natural part of the aging process from baby boomers worried about being less of a man than the next guy. These medications ARE, by definition, NOT Aphrodisiacs. See: more at the Aphrodisiac entry.
      These medicines work in a couple of different ways, however the overall effect is to increase the blood flow to the penis. This can result in some medical complications including a change in overall blood pressure and other serious problems. There are also reports of decreasing effectiveness with long term use.
      There is no evidence that Over the Counter E.D. treatments work and many contain herbal ingredients that may be dangerous when combined with other medications and/or alcohol. See: Penis Enlargement.
      While not a subject of TV commercials, there are invasive surgical procedures which can and will produce the equivalent of a fully functional erection. However, there is significant risks associated with the surgery as well as a prolonged recovery period and some loss of sensation.

Erection
      Most usually: the Aroused and blood-engorged male organ, the Penis. Other erectable structures on the human body include the Nipples and the Clitoris. See: Penis, Spontaneous Erection, Hard On, Male Orgasm, Ejaculation, Fluffer, Woodman, and related.

Eroge
      Anime style Erotic video games originating in Japan. See: Bishojo, Hentai, Anime

Erogenous Zone
      Area of the body whose sensitivity promotes contact for sexual satisfaction. The subject of much folklore and many popular books, the zones vary from person to person and even, in some cases, by time of the day or the mood of the person and other sometimes intangible factors. The more unusual female non-sex organ related zones include the backs of the knees, the nape of the neck, feet and wrists, and even her ears and scalp. The best advice is- test and explore, and remember, what doesn't elicit a response from her today, might tomorrow.

Eros
      Emotional feeling of Sexual Attraction and Lust. Named for the Greek god as below. One of the Four Stages of Love, which see. The emotion need not be acted upon to be considered Erotic Love. See: Unrequited Love.
      Greek god of love and Lust (sexual desire). Earlier beliefs expressed him as a god of fertility in animals as well as people. Often associated with Aphrodite but of a lesser stature than the goddess, the two are not depicted as themselves being lovers, although some legends portray her as his mother. Older legends make Eros as a brother of Chaos himself, making him older than even Zeus (Uranus).
      He was adopted into the Roman pantheon as Cupid.
      The depiction by the Romans, and today's greeting card people, of the god as a young boy with wings and a bow and arrow is consistent with the Grecian depiction of him.
      It is interesting to note that popular media and usage see Cupid as cute and something appropriate for children's greeting cards, yet Eros is frowned upon and made Taboo.

Erotic Art
      Art with a sexual theme or message. Does not have to be Pornographic or Obscene to be of said genre. May be sculpture, a performance art such as Dance, photography, literature (see Eroticism), or any other sort of presentation. With this, as with all art, it is truly in the eye, and mind, of the beholder. See: Picasso quote at Art.
      Also see: Art, Sex Museum, Erotica, Eroticism, and related.

Erotic Love
      Affection and attraction based on Sexual Desire, or Lust. The term is usually associated with the Greek root of Eros which was both the emotion itself and the god thereof. See: Eros, Four Words For Love.

Erotic Massage
      The pseudo massage given by a Call Girl. May have little if any therapeutic value, but is reported to be highly enjoyable. Usually consists of the practitioner using her entire body to Massage the 'patient' focusing primarily on her rubbing her Breasts and Labia all over them before engaging in another Sex Act which may include Fellatio or Intercourse or other activity. See: Massage, Call Girl, and related.
      This is an entirely different practice than Sexual Massage done for therapeutic reasons by a licensed Sex Therapist although the terms are somewhat synonymous to the mass media.

Erotic Model
      Term for a male or female Model, which see, willing to be photographed or video taped while engaged in any level of Sexual Activity, either alone or with another person. See: Cheesecake, Figure Model, Nude Model, Adult Actor, Porn Star, Bettie Page, Sex Performer.

Eroticism, Erotic Literature
      Sexually suggestive or mildly explicit literature, usually written to an adult female audience. Includes some of the formula romance (heaving bosom) books as well as the somewhat courser stories in "men's magazines". Erotic literature can be traced as far back as writing in history. Several Roman erotic stories are known, as well as ancient Japanese and Indian works, some with erotic overtones carefully veiled in flowery language. The Biblical book of Esther is quite erotic in its images as well. See: Sexually Explicit.
      See: popular works which are borderline Erotic at Peyton Place and Stepford Wives which have had influence far beyond their original audience.

Eroticist
      One who produces works of an Erotic nature, images or text based, for the pleasure of others. One who engages in personally pleasuring others, however, the term is usually not used in reference to a Prostitute or Adult Actor. An example would be- Brutha Jim Deep. See: Erotic Art.

Erotomania
      Multiple uses. Various definitions including becoming overwhelmed with Eroticism and said thoughts and concepts with the object of said obsession being a Celebrity or other public figure as versus being obsessed with pleasure itself. In this context see Celebrity Stalker, Obsession, Unrequited Love. Compare: Hedonism.
      Is also used incorrectly to refer to the seeming obsession in Hollywood with producing works which are at least moderately Erotic with Homosexual themes, which is actually Homoeroticism, which see.

Escort Service, Escorts
      In many cases a legitimate business offering companionship and 'escorts' for official functions so one would not have to attend a formal function or outing alone. In some cases said business is little but a front for Prostitution. See: Call Girl and related.
      Employees of said service, usually female but may be male, who work as professional Dates. In the vast majority of cases, said employees are very classy, extremely attractive, refined and have excellent taste. However, some services do have escorts who are more 'realistic' or specialized such as being excellent ballroom dancers. Individual escort's features and options can often be specified and ordered ahead, much like options in a rental car.
      Also see: entries such as Taxi Dancer, Kept Woman, Concubine

Estrogen
      Female sex hormone produced primarily in the ovaries in the female. Also produced in lesser amounts in other organs such as the adrenal glands and liver in both sexes. Also used in oral Birth Control tablets and in post Menopausal women to treat various conditions.

Eternity
      The hereafter. The endless tracts of the vacuum of space throughout the universe. Time immemorial from the creation of the world until its end. The ultimate fate of mankind when it faces Death as either an individual or as a race. God's home address. See: quote at Imagination.
      Proclamation as to how long those with romantic interests say they'll Love each other. See: "Star Crossed Lovers"

Eugenics
      Believe it or not, this topic does belong in this Glossary. And we shall explain why.
      According to the early "Progressive Movement" on both sides of the Atlantic in the early Twentieth Century, the human species was becoming weaker because the frail and weak were being allowed to pollute the gene pool. In many state institutions and even hospitals the mentally ill, physically handicapped, criminals, immoral, and even some who were just socially undesirable were sterilized to prevent them from breeding and passing on their inferior traits. Meanwhile, those with superior traits were encouraged to have kids to improve the species, a la the teachings of Charles Darwin.
      This belief was prevalent in the US (President Wilson was a big fan) and the UK, but reached its zenith in Germany between the wars where the National Socialists simply began euthanizing those who were judged imperfect. Included in their 'final solution' were the racially inferior, Homosexuals, and Jehovah's Witnesses.
      Of course this history is embarrassing to those who now call themselves 'progressives' and it has been wiped from public school textbooks. However, Population Control is still a feature of many proposals for socialized medicine in the US as well as being on the table in the UK and mainland Europe. Forced Birth Control, as well as both active and passive euthanasia, are some of those issues in that discussion that aren't given wide play in the press.
      See: Birth Control, Socialism, Public Health, Perversion, and other related topics.

Eunuch
      A male who has been emasculated, or neutered, by having his Testicles removed. See: Castration for more in depth discussion.
      There were often religious or other overtones to the act, see discussion in fourth paragraph under Castrations.

Euphemisms
      Terms used to mean something else so as not to offend anyone. Often used in media during the Family Hour or in advertising to be Naughty or to convey Double Entendre (see those terms). Many of the entries in this Glossary are such terms. See: quote at "Political Correctness".
      The difference between a euphemism and a Slang term is often only in the usage. For example the word "Pussy" and its various meanings, which see. Also see: examples in this Glossary such as "Doing It", "Sleeping Together", and even "Birds and the Bees (The)". Also see: Pet Names, and related topics.

Ex- Wife, Girlfriend, Boyfriend, Lover, etc.
      One whom one no longer has an ongoing Emotional relationship. In the case of a former spouse, the break up may involve a Divorce or legal separation.
      Adult content involving images and stories for and about such individuals. Occasionally there will be counter-postings which are equally, or even more, embarrassing about the one who first violated the trust and uploaded something about the other one.

Exhibitionism
      Usually refers to sexual activity or prolonged Nudity where there is no reasonable expectation of Privacy (which see) as in a public area, or where a reasonable person would expect to be seen by others, such as in a public park or along a freeway. May be required by a 'sub' by a 'dom' as a test or punishment. see Voyeurism, Flasher. Compare: Troilism, Candaulism, Naturalism, Nudity, Privacy, Body Painting.

Exotic Dancer
      Most usually: Nude dancer, Stripper, Lap Dancer, and other performer who entertains in a blatantly suggestive or sexual way. The performer is most usually, but not necessarily, female. See: Lap Dancer. Pole Dance, Go Go Girl, Teasing, Terpsichorean Ecdysiast, Stripper Shoes

Expecting
      For this Glossary, a woman who is Pregnant. Also applies to a couple where the female is in said condition.

Explicit
      That which is clearly stated leaving nothing ambiguous or to the imagination. A truth that is unconcealed and readily apparent to even the most casual observer or which cannot be ignored. A related colloquialism would be the proverbial '800 pound gorilla in the room'.
      The term which in and of itself in not Sexual in nature, however, to the undereducated and otherwise intentionally ignorant, to say something 'explicitly' is to be Vulgar or Profane due to Sexual Connotations. Such is not the case and merely shows their ignorance of the language. See: Sexually Explicit, Obscene, Indecent, Free Speech, Censorship, and related.

Extreme Sex
      Not a specific category as much as an overall concept of types of Sexual Activity. The practice includes things such massive Penetrations with objects like large vegetables and whole salamis, the insertion multiple Fists, and even bowling pins into the Vagina and Anus. Also includes 'heavy' bondage, electrocution, and some practices that are essentially impossible such as the 'triple double' where a woman attempts to take two men's penises into each opening, see Airtight. Some practices under this heading are inherently unsafe and require the use of a safe word. See: Ultimate Sex Act, Three In One, S&M, Goatse, Sexual Olympics, and related.
      Also includes such practices as Body Modification when done for Sexual purposes such as Piercing and Subincision. Which see.

Eye Candy
      Most often, and in terms of this Glossary, a pretty woman. Often seen as the Escort for a wealthy or powerful, usually elderly, man. See: Beauty Pageant, Showgirl, Babe, Sex Symbol, Girl Watching.
      Can be an equivalently good looking young man used for the same purposes. Especially when dealing in the Homoerotic terms of advertising and Hollywood or in terms of an older woman with a younger man, see Cougar, May - September Relationship.

"F Word", the F-word
      Fuck.

Face
      Multiple meanings including the front of the head which consists of the eyes, nose, and mouth and surrounding structures.
      Personal honor and dignity, common in the traditional Oriental usage when one uses the expressions "to save face" or "to lose face".
      The front of a building, the public image of a company, a prepared surface area ready to be finished with paint or stain or other covering, etc.

Facelift
      Surgery performed to tighten the skin of the face to conceal the age of the patient. Usually performed on women, however, it is not unheard of in men. And especially those who are either Celebrities or excessively Vain, or both. See: Plastic Surgery, and highlighted terms.
      The medical term for the surgical procedure is rhytidectomy. There are also various non-intrusive procedures such as various creams and lotions, as well as those that are minimally intrusive such as those that use injectable drugs.

Facial
      The male partner in a sex act Ejaculates on the other person's face, hair and neck. Usually as a result of Fellatio to ejaculation but where the person giving the Oral Sex withdraws the Penis from their mouth, or has it withdrawn, for the express purpose of finishing the act with the Semen being expressed onto their face and or body. Can also be done from manual stimulation, Masturbation, of the penis, or even Intercourse where it is withdrawn and 'aimed' at the recipient's face, Coitus Interruptus. Sometimes done in a Dom/Sub relationship or to humiliate the receiver. Also see: Bukkake, Fellatio.

Faggot, Fag
      Both an archaic term for a stick of firewood and a cigarette. Neither usage is common now outside of works of period fiction set in Victorian times.
      Obsolete term for a male Homosexual, usually considered derogatory. See: Queer, Fairy, Flame.

Fairy
      Multiple uses, some are as follows.
      The classic magical being with wings, may or may not glow in the dark, and usually appeared to be only a few inches tall. Best example relevant to this work is the part played by Julia Roberts (born 1967) in the 1991 Steven Spielberg movie Hook in which Roberts played the part of 'Tinkerbell', wearing a miniskirt and wings.
      Fairies were also involved in a classic hoax where two young English girls claimed to be able to photograph the beings with a standard camera. The Cottingley Fairy Photographs taken between 1917 and 1920 even duped Sir Arthur Conan Doyle (1859 - 1930) into believing them to be real. The cousins admitted in 1979 that the photos were hoaxed with paper cutouts from a children's book. Which, showed pretty female fairies in short skirts, much as Ms. Roberts appeared in the movie previously mentioned.
      When used in the board game chess, a fairy piece has extra-normal ability, hence the name, and may move across the board in significantly different ways than the traditional pieces. When mentioned in chess notation, the symbol for a 'fairy' piece may include an upside down knight or Queen (see reference there). Meaning the piece is a 'fairy queen' and may jump pieces in any direction for more than the usual number of spaces a knight may move.
      Any of several animals with an appearance resembling the classic illustrations, however, neither the shrimp, moth, nor the fly so named have legs as shapely as Ms. Roberts'.
      Derogatory term for male Homosexual, regardless of whether he is wearing wings and a miniskirt or not.

Faking Orgasm, "Fake it until you make it"
      Most usually a woman who, in order to protect her lover's fragile ego, fakes an orgasm during an otherwise mediocre sex session. The best example would be in any number of Adult Movies where the woman seems to have a screaming toe-curling Orgasm while the man Cums on her Tits, or that scene in the otherwise mediocre Chick Flick movie When Harry met Sally which resulted in the line "I'll have what she's having". Unfortunately, that isn't the way it works. However, this can also be thought of as simply Lying to your lover. If their self esteem is that tenuous perhaps you shouldn't be bedding them down. More productive is some gentle coaching and directions as to what you need to go over the top. For a few hints, see Erogenous Zones, Foreplay, and related subjects. Perhaps the topic immediately below will help as well.
      The "I'll have what she's having" line was delivered in the movie by Estelle Reiner (1914 - 2008), script by Nora Ephron, Columbia Pictures 1989

Falling In Love
      Phenomena often associated with strong Emotions, irrational behavior, powerful Lust, and occasionally actual physical illness (Lovesickness, which see). This is different than Bonding (which see) which is an instinctive fixation in infants and animals and not a true emotion. The expression has been Bastardized to "falling in like/lust/hate" etc, such use is usually by those trying to be clever.... it ain't.
      See related entries at Love, Four Stages Of Love, and Four Words For Love, Love At First Sight, Desire, and other highlighted terms.

"When I fall in love it will be forever
Or Ill never fall in love
In a restless world like this is
Love is ended before its begun
And too many moonlight kisses
Seem to cool in the warmth of the sun

When I give my heart it will be completely
Or Ill never give my heart
And the moment I can feel that you feel that way too
Is when I fall in love with you."
When I Fall In Love written by Young and Heyman, released by various artists including Doris Day (1952), Nat King Cole (1956) and (the) Carpenters (1989)

Female Ejaculation
      Sudden production of a prodigious amount of Vaginal excretions often attributed to the onset of Orgasm, especially the intense Orgasm from G-Spot stimulation. It is most usually not the spewing of what appears to be liters of liquid as shown in many Adult Movies of the Squirting variety, that is indeed often Urine or even water that has been pre-loaded into her vagina as with a Douche to be expelled on cue.
      It is worth noting here and now that not all women experience the phenomenon, not all women who are capable of doing it have it happen every time, and when it does happen, it may not be the same every time. Which makes it very difficult to document.
      As it is unpredictable and varied the topic has become the subject of nearly endless debate and sometimes rather heated arguments despite the phenomenon's having been recording in scientific literature since at least 300 BC in certain Greek texts and a possible mentioning in the Kama Sutra (which see).
      While it is fairly certain that occasionally some of the liquid so produced may be attributed to bladder leakage, not all of it is. A statement supported by the testing of said excretions for urea.
      See: Ejaculation, Cum, Squirting, G Spot, Orgasm, Vaginal Lubrication, and related terms.

Female Genital Mutilation, "Female Circumcision"
      Incorrectly referred to as Female Circumcision the barbaric practice includes the removal of the exterior Female sex Organs of girls ranging in age from birth to their first Menstrual period. The conditions are often filthy, resulting in death from massive infections or uncontrolled bleeding, or horrible scarring if the girl lives. In either case, she will never fully enjoy sex for the rest of her life, which is the admitted purpose of the procedure in most of these cultures. What is worse, it is usually the women of the family, tribe, Mosque or village which insist the girl be cut.
      The practice is common in many Afrikan countries, 60% of the girls born on the continent are still being cut, as well as numerous other Islamic regions although it has spread with both populations to Western countries and is now being done in the US and the UK where it is illegal. In spite of its prevalence in Afrika, most Black Activists in the USA ignore the issue including the majority of our celebrity spokesmen (Jesse and Al included) who also ignore the ongoing slavery of black Christians by black Muslims in several Afrikan countries.
      The practice HAS NOTHING to do with Islam, it is not mandated by either the Prophet or the Qua'ran, and is not required by anything other than a tradition which serves no purpose other than to harm women.
      The male equivalent would not be the traditional removal of the foreskin but would more accurately be represented by the amputation of approximately half of the length of the penis. Leaving enough to be technically functional but removing most of the enjoyment of the sex act for the man. See: Emasculate. Compare: Subincision.
      The clitoris can now be surgically rebuilt for most women who have been cut with some good success. See: www.clitoraid.org

Female Impersonators
      Male Transvestite who is working in a show pretending to be a woman. Sometimes the performer's sex cannot be easily told and may not be disclosed during the show, such as with traditional kabuki theater in which all actors are male. Now often done for comedic effect as a 'send up' of a female celebrity. Others create a character such as 'Dame Edna' or 'RuPaul' and perform as their own persona. The best known example may be Divine, AKA Harris Milstead (1945 - 1988), who starred in the John Waters film Hairspray as both a man and a woman. See: Cross Dresser, Queen and other references.

Female Sexual Organs
      Includes the internal and external primary sexual organs. Technical/medical terms include the primary structures of the Vulva, the labia major and minor, the Clitoris, the Vagina, as well as others. See: OB/GYN and other terms for more.

Female Sexual Response
      The entire reason this Glossary exists.
      The normal psycho-sexual physical response of the Adult female to physical stimulation and Arousal leading to Heterosexual Genital Intercourse and all other variations of the Sex Act. See: Sex Research, Frigid, Turn On.

Female Sex Role
      The one whom assumes the role of the Passive Partner or Submissive in a Sex Act regardless of their Sex. May be the Fem to a Butch or Dyke in a Lesbian relationship, a Bottom to a Top in a Gay relationship, or Sub to a Dom or other arrangement. See: Feminine, Receiver, and related terms.

Feminine
      Mannerisms, style, appearance, smell, traits, and other aspects of personality and role identification most usually associated with the female of the species, such being nurturing and comforting, gentle, demure, Emotional, and often Submissive. See: Feminine Wiles as example.
      Said traits are usually established by cultural factors and traditions and in some ways upheld by family role models, however, some are also natural to the female role as dictated by biology. In some cases, the traits are well defined and definite, especially when taken together. As is seen with the overall expression of Macho which is generally regarded as the polar opposite of feminine. See: Effeminate, Sex Role, Masculine.

Feminine Hygiene Products
      Polite terms for items such as Tampons, sanitary napkins, sprays, Douches and other items used by women to perform routine cleansing and maintenance of the Female Sexual Organs.

Feminine Wiles
  this entry in memory of Ms Fawcett
      Traits possessed by women which can be used in the manipulation of men, and even other women, so the woman can get her way. Said skills include the hint of a promise of Sexual Favors, charm, crying, the appearance of helplessness or Naïveté- even when the exact opposite is true, Sweet Talking, Beauty, and Sexual Attractiveness, and so on. Compare: quote and overall idea thereof at Casanova. See: other highlighted terms.
"God made man stronger but not necessarily more intelligent. He gave women intuition and femininity. Used properly, the combination easily jumbles the brain of any man I've ever met."
Farrah Fawcett (1947 - 2009)

Feminism, Feminist
      Ideology and political agenda (and nearly cult religion) advancing the idea that women are superior to men in all ways that matter. Much of their language and tactics were based on faulty research and biased by their own beliefs and colored to their ends. See: Hite (Ms. Shere Hite). Also see: Misogyny, Chauvinism, E.R.A., Equal Opportunity
      Women, and some men, who embraced the extreme feminist point of view seemed to be not as happy as those who lived by more traditional standards as time went on.

Feminist Theory
      Block of academics, methodology, and general philosophy which considers major sociological and even biological ideas from the sex-specific point of view of the female of the species. The core idea of this approach has some validity as for the majority of history the various hard and soft sciences pursued their craft from a male point of view, even when the researcher in question, or their subject, was female. It is the differences between the sexes that can result in different test results whether doing psychological or physiological testing that can render some applications useless or even harmful when applied even handedly from one sex to the other.
      It is interesting to note, and we shall do so here, that the above is exactly the opposite from what many of the Feminist movement said during the heyday of their movement, to wit, that there was no inherent difference between men and women and that both should be treated the same. In some circles the term is synonymous with "female centric" or "female ascendant" theory, however, this use is incorrect.
      The 'theory' is divided into the various major schools of study as mentioned above and carried over into such topics as literature, politics, and even religion. The total field can be, and now is, further subdivided into 'Black Feminist Theory', 'Black Lesbian Feminist Theory', 'Southern Black Lesbian Feminist Theory', 'Single Mother Baptist Southern Black(etc)', ad nauseam.
      Also see: Women's Studies, Feminism, Political Correctness, E.R.A., and related.

Femme Fatale
      Woman whose Seduction may prove deadly. If not physically, in other ways that may in the end be as devastating to her prey. The archetype is the female Vampire, which see. Also see: Cougar, Seduction. Compare: MILF.

Fertility, Fertility Cult / Goddess / Symbol, etc
      Anything related to the production of offspring of man, beast, or plants. Includes worship of various pagan gods, rituals associated with them, the history thereof, and their totems. Also associated with the scientific or medial equivalent thereof including Artificial Insemination , fertilizer for plants, prenatal treatment, and even 'grow lights'.
      See: Ishtar, Artificial Insemination, Pregnancy, Phallic Symbol, Fecund, Sexual Reproduction, and so on.

Fertilization
      The moment a Spermatozoa enters an Ovum to cause Pregnancy, also when said fertile egg implants in the Uterus. See: Conception, Birth Control.

Fetish, Fetishism
      General meaning involves everything from magical practices and religious totems or charms (such as a Voodoo Wanga), and icons to the fascination with the latest electronic gadget. As in 'Jody has a fetish for the newest cell-phone'.
      In our current context the strict definition could read "anything that is not Heterosexual Genital Intercourse", possibly in the Missionary Position, in the Marital bed, with the lights out and door locked for the sole purpose of Procreation, is Kinky, maybe a fetish, and possibly a Sin. However, most reasonable people don't see things that way.
      Fetishism is more usually thought of as sex involving body parts (see: Partialism) and accouterments not designed for the sole purpose of sexual use, such as a Foot Fetish, smoking, or using plastic food wrap, or a long and involved ritual or process before, or instead of, the sex act itself, such as with a Dominatrix, a Medical exam, or an Enema session. Other things have become the objects of fetishes such as women in garters or Sexy Shoes where such Costumes were once secondary to sexual behavior. Can even involve a Sexual Obsession or preoccupation with things such as uniforms (see Schoolgirl Uniform) or furniture which aren't considered Sexy by the majority of people.
      For examples see Pregnancy and other subjects including: Klismaphilia, Necrophilia, and Emetophilia. Other fetishes can involve dangerous or even unhealthy behaviors such as extreme Pain Fetish play which may involve torture, electrocution, underwater bondage and so on, see Pain Fetish. Also to be considered is the Wet And Messy one, which is exactly that, see WAM.
      Fetishism can also involve obsessive-compulsive behavior which becomes primary to the encounter and the sex act becomes almost incidental. Such individuals can become non-functional in 'normal' relationships and need professional intervention. While thought of as an exclusively male phenomenon, recent research had included women who require an extensive ritualistic romantic prelude and setting for sex as a manifestation of the behavior. See: Sexual Fetish, Costumes, and various other listings.

Fetish Model / Actor
      One who works primarily in Fetish related scenes and movies. Some models and actors (actresses) specialize in Bondage, Leather or rubberized costumes, Medical or Nurse roles and so on. Others cross over between genres or work in the field part time. A few working models are in high demand including the gorgeous redheaded model Sabrina Fox who specializes in being the Submissive in Bondage and Pain fetish roles, it evidently works quite well as she has been all over the world for shoots and appears to be well on her way to becoming the Bettie Page (which see) of our time.

Figging, Gingering
      The insertion of a partially (or wholly) peeled 'finger' from a 'hand' of ginger into the Anus or Vagina during Foreplay, on a Dare, as a form of punishment, or as a deterrent for other behavior. Ginger in its whole form is an irritant which produces anything from a mild to severe burning sensation where it comes into contact with the lining of the body cavity it is placed in. A Sub with a piece of ginger inside them will be very hesitant to constrict their lower bowel or tighten their Buttocks during a disciplining procedure such as Spanking. The extra pressure on the ginger will dramatically increase the burning sensation.
      The practice is said to be ancient, possibly originating in the Orient, where the ginger rhizome was introduced to the anus of show horses to force them to keep their tales up. It has the same effect on any humans it is introduced to. Fresh ginger 'root' is available in the produce section of most grocery stores, and as it loses potency rapidly, the 'ginger butt plug' should be prepared as close to the time of use as possible. Very detailed 'how to' instructions are available online. See: Dom, Sub, Bondage, Butt Plug and related.

Figure
      Most usually, a woman's torso with all of its natural curves and mounds. Also representations thereof such as, according to legend, the original Coke® bottle. See: Hourglass, Stacked. Compare: Supermodel.

Figure Model
      Outdated term for a model, usually a woman, who was willing to pose for a photographer or even a painter or sculptor wearing either nothing or revealing lingerie. She would literally be modeling her 'figure', as in some stage shows featuring partially nude women. See: Cheesecake, Nude Model, Showgirl, Exotic Dancer, Burlesque, Fitness Model.

Finger Fucking
      Penetrating the Vagina with the Fingers in a type of Intercourse. Through this technique one can directly stimulate the G-spot, which see, and lead the woman to multiple Orgasms while remaining otherwise relaxed and in control. Also applicable using the fingers to penetrate and stimulate the Anus. See: Darkfinger Technique, Heavy Petting, Fisting. Compare: Yoni Massage.

Fingering
      Using the hands and fingers in what used to be called 'heavy petting'. Includes inserting one or more fingers inside the vagina or anus, or both, for sexual purposes as well as the stroking the exterior lips of the vulva or the shaft and head of the penis. See: Hand, Masturbation, Sex Play, Darkfinger Technique.

First Amendment
      The addition to the main body of the US Constitution which guarantees US Citizens certain rights. In this context, it prohibits government regulation of personal expression, except for those things that have been legally declared Obscene. See: Censorship, Obscenity, Free Speech, and related topics. Also see: God. (pun intended)
      The entire text of the amendment is:

"Congress shall make no law respecting an establishment of religion, or prohibiting the free exercise thereof; or abridging the freedom of speech, or of the press; or the right of the people peaceably to assemble, and to petition the Government for a redress of grievances."

First Love
      There are actually several occurrences of the phenomenon known as a 'first love'. The difference is usually in how far the love progresses and the ages, both their emotional and chronological age, of those involved. As follows.
      The true 'first love' is usually regarded as the love of an infant for its primary caregiver, usually its mother. There are some aspects of Freud's theories that suggest that a person never actually gets over that love.
      The phenomenon known as Puppy Love (which see) is often regarded as a 'first love' even though in most cases the elementary school age children involved have no real comprehension of the emotion they're talking about. This is when boys find out that girls don't have Cooties, which see.
      Teenage first love, the 'Puppy Love' as referenced in the Paul Anka song by the same name, would be better called 'young love', which is also the title to a song. However, most people have enough understanding of themselves and their emotions to actually be in love by their mid-teens. In the majority of cases this 'first love' is emotional only and the relationship is usually not Consummated. If it is, the outcome is usually disastrous for the relationship. See: Crush.
      For most people their first Adult love relationship occurs sometime during their late teens into their early twenties and includes all the aspects of a Romance including some level of Physical Intimacy.
      See: also: Four Stages of Love, Love, Erotic Love, Romance, and other related topics.

Fishnet, Fishnet Hose, etc.
      An open weave, named for the actual fishing appliance, used for leggings and other applications which show more skin through the pattern than they conceal. Often used for Fetish costumes, as with the French Maid outfit, as well as Stripper costumes and other applications. Black fishnet is the most common, but other colors are used depending on the costume needed.
      As day to day clothing, the style is impractical due to the fact that the weave can catch on almost any surface and unravel.

Fisting
      Putting the full hand in the Vagina or Anus for sexual gratification of either or both parties involved. Variations include 'footing'. It is recommended that a great deal of Lubrication be used, especially when done Anally, for the well being of everybody, also a Safe Word should be used to bring the event to a stop should such a need arise. Fisting can be seen as the logical extension of Finger Fucking or as a separate Fetish especially when done as S&M or B&D . See: Finger Fucking, Lubrication.

Fitness, Fitness Model
      Athletic, muscular or otherwise well toned person who is generally regarded in very good physical shape. One who poses for magazines and other media dedicated to said topic. May or may not require Nude work. Women in such shape also often work as Swimsuit and Lingerie models.
      See: Hard Body, Supermodel, Nude Model, Figure Model, Cheesecake and other such topics. Compare: Body Building.

Flame, Flamboyant, Flaming
      A posting in an online forum or a thread in said forum which is intentionally inflammatory, provocative, strongly emotional, or which uses vulgar language. Such posts are usually made by those who are of limited intellect who have reached the end of their ability to argue a point and need to resort to name calling to continue. The best current example is those who support the cause of man-made global warming, when confronted by the evidence that the warming stopped ten years ago and over the last three or four years, the world has actually cooled immediately resort to using terms like 'fascist' and saying you support big oil because they have nothing behind their argument.
      As concerns this Glossary; Someone, usually a Homosexual, and most usually a Homosexual man (Gay) who has an 'over the top' personality that calls extra attention to the fact that they are Gay with exaggerated mannerisms, speech patterns, dress and appearance, and even overt actions and comments to underscore the point that they are Gay. In such cases the term is usually coupled with a word such as "Queer" or "Fag", which see. The term was used to describe the personalities and appearances of such notable Gays as Quentin Crisp (see quote at Political Correctness ), and Sir Robert Helpmann (see quote at Oh, Calcutta). Also see: Fashion Plate, Effeminate, Punk. Compare: the feminine version at Brassy.
      The above is sometimes done with the intent of causing a confrontation with Straights or the authorities over the Flame's Sexual Preference, which brings the first definition into play with the second.

Flaming Liberal
      One whom is so infallibly and self-righteously dedicated to their 'left-leaning' ideology that they are absolutely oblivious to all contrary shades of the surrounding reality, they deny the repercussions of their actions, and will not accept the full and direct personal responsibility for any of the above, yet they espouse their views without shame and unbidden to any and all regardless of setting or occasion, as well as abdicating any blame directed their way for same. Applies to classic American 'liberals' as well as their 'progressive' fraternal twins. Most often seen in major US media news outlets.
      Ms Rebecca Meade from the New Yorker and CBS (look her up in a search engine)

Flappers
      The first glimpse of Liberated Women in America and to some degree in Europe in the post WWI years. Most notably, the 'Roaring Twenties'. Flapper women usually danced, smoke and drank in public, and wore makeup and accessories when the majority of women went plain and behaved themselves, as well wearing skirts that were remarkably short when anything at knee level was a very high hem at the time. The idea was freedom and glamour and no small amount of Sex Appeal and daring. Today, their outfits and appearance is considered very tame (and dated), but then it was scandalous and many ministers publically condemned the women as being she-devils. For the most part, the flappers had a great time living it up, usually at the expense of men. Today's approximation would be a 'Babe', a young, cute, sexually desirable woman.

Flashing, Flasher
      Usually refers to the brief exposure of ones private parts to another person, usually with their prior consent and encouragement in a public place where the person doing the flashing may be seen by others. Sometimes done on a Dare or just as a bit of spontaneous fun. See: Streaking, Exhibitionism.

Fleshlight®
      Trademarked name for an Artificial Pussy masturbation device. It and remarkably similar devices under various names are widely available on the net and through various magazines and Adult Novelty stores with a wide range of prices on them. As to their effectiveness and whether or not it "feels just like a real Pussy" we will leave to the reader to investigate. See: Artificial Pussy, Adult Novelty, Sex Toy.

Flirt, Flirting, Flirtation
      To "almost" do something, but not quite complete the act. Such as a sports team "flirting" with a championship by having a winning season, but then choking in the playoffs. Also, to make a serious attempt at something, but then not succeeding for whatever reason not of your own fault.
      More to our point here- Playful exchange of suggestive remarks, gestures, and looks that encompass everything from Sexual Innuendo to outright invitations to engage in Sex, see: Proposition. Often exchanged in public between people who may or may not follow through. The 'flirt' is the person doing the 'flirting', the entire exchange can be called 'flirtation'. See: Romance, Love, Naughty, Hitting On, "Drop Her Hanky", and related.
      Can be all in fun, or may result in Sexual Harassment charges, and it is at the whim of the woman involved as to which it is, and said standing may change without warning.

Floozy
      Promiscuous woman. Somewhat playful term for a woman who is "indiscrete with her affections to the extreme." Is usually not used in relation to men, Libertine.
      Synonymous with Slut or Easy, see both, but usually without the absolutely negative connotations. The term has been in common use since before World War One. The term is sometimes used to describe a woman who is a Flirt or Tease but who doesn't actually Put Out. Also see: Loose, Promiscuity, Fast, and related.
      Is sometimes applied to Politicians who change their allegiances and loyalties at the drop of a hat, or the drop of a dollar into their campaign fund. See: Asshole.

Fluffer, Fluffing
      Multiple meanings, including a bulky material without a lot of mass or substance, such as lint, down, or political campaign promises. Also the actions required to increase the volume of air in an accessory such as a feather pillow, quilted bedroll, stuffed animal, or other soft article. The resultant product produced when you microwave marshmallows, and commercially available version of the same thing is available with a similar name.
      For our purposes here the term and similar words, are used to designate the function performed for male and female Adult Actors to prepare them to act out their roles on camera. Most usually the 'fluffer' will perform Oral Sex on the actor until they are sufficiently Aroused to engage in the Sex Act on camera. The service is needed because of the immense distractions and pressure to perform repeated takes, in often decidedly un-sexy settings on the typical Hardcore set. The term is not specific as to whether the 'fluffer' is male or female, nor as to whether the activity performed is Heterosexual or Homosexual, nor as to who is the Receiver of the action. In some productions, said person is listed as part of the crew under something innocuous such as 'cast prep' and many female stars in the industry did get their start doing just that. See more at Adult Actor, Oral Sex, Erection, "You can be a Porn Star" and other highlighted references.

Fluffy
      Euphemism used primarily by overweight women to describe themselves in some way other than saying that they are morbidly obese or otherwise fat. They seem to think by using a 'cute' or 'playful' term it makes them more attractive. (Note: it doesn't.)

Food Porn
      Term used by various individuals associated with culinary television to describe an extravagant display of vittles. Has nothing to do with the Fetish use of food items- see quote at Sensual and discussion at Object Insertion.
"Vegetarians, and their Hezbollah-like splinter faction, the vegans, are a persistent irritant to any chef worth a damn. To me, life without veal stock, pork fat, sausage, organ meat, or even stinky cheese is a life not worth living." Anthony Bourdain (born 1956)

Foot Fetish
      The unusual and sometimes extreme or even Obsessive sexual attraction to feet. Most usually involves a man who 'worships' a woman's feet. Often includes specific toenail polish, shoes and jewelry. Can result in some humorous 'true crime' type coverage in the mass media when taken too far with unsuspecting women. See: Sexy Shoes, Fetish, Partialism.

Footing, Foot Fucking
      Using the feet to Masturbate another person to sexual Climax or Orgasm. May or may not be involved with a Foot Fetish. Also see: Fisting.

"For Adults Only", "For Mature Audiences Only"
      Subject matter deemed of interest to, or is specifically targeted toward a mature audience over the Age of Majority, which see. Most of the time, this is due to Sexual Content, but may also be due to violence, drugs, political extremism or other such content not appropriate for children. See: Adult Content, Ratings, Content Warning, and related.
      By definition (like the pun?), this Glossary, and indeed the entire site is labeled as such.

Forbidden Love
      A relationship where social classes or Taboos, politics, economics, religious ideals, or even simple logistics prevent romance from growing, or which results in an unfortunate outcome for the lovers. See: Unrequited Love, Star Crossed Lovers.

Forced Feminization
      Several common uses. The more pleasant ones first.
      May include the 'getting in touch with ones feminine side' as some sort of behavioral or socialization therapy in which the therapist attempts to bring certain emotions more to the forefront of an individual's personality. The term is also sometimes associated with the Emasculation of such social entities as the state school systems. However, it usually does not involve Castration, which see.
      The 'forced' Submission of a willing person, adult male or female, to assume the usual role of a Submissive female to a Dominate partner. This may include the wearing of traditionally Feminine attire (such as a French Maid costume -which see) or otherwise behaving as a servant, or otherwise acting in said Sex Role. Usually seen as part of Fem Dom, or a Master - Slave relationship in B&D or S&M, and may even involve a Forced Orgasm (which see). The individual who is submitting to the role may be either 'required' to Accept Penetration willingly, even being made to beg for it, or even to do themselves with a Sex Toy, all of their own free will or with instructions or under 'threat' of reprisal from the Master, such as a Spanking. Or they may be bound and restrained and then violated. If said act was not Consented to beforehand, the matter may fall under the next paragraph, which is indeed a Sex Crime.
      May also be the Rape of one whom has not willingly agreed to such activity before the festivities began. It may include the Anal Rape of an otherwise Straight man by either other men (as in a prison Sissification) or by a woman wearing a Strap On (see Pegging), or the general rape of a non-consenting woman or a Lesbian, either by men or women. Said instances may involve Gang Rapes, Fisting, and other behavior to which the victim has not Consented. See: Felony.
      Also see: highlighted terms for more.

Forced Orgasm
      Most usually, but not exclusively, refers to a woman's capacity to be forced through direct stimulation to experience an involuntary, although quite real and usually very intense, Orgasm. And often through Multiple Orgasms as well. Often used in bondage situations including the stimulation of the clitoris and other sex organs with electricity, and vibrators and other toys both internally and externally. Forced orgasm videos have found a niche in the porn world where one has to wonder if the performances are real.
      Men can also be forced to Ejaculate through stimulation of the Penis, although this most likely will not result in a true Orgasm, as in when the man produces a Sperm sample for a medical procedure.
      See: Involuntary Orgasm, Orgasm, Multiple Orgasm, Climax, Ejaculation, Ultimate Submission, Etc. Compare: to Psychosomatic Orgasm.

Forcible Rape
      A crime where a Sex Act is committed through an act or under threat of violence, either strong-arm or with the use of a weapon. By definition the act is almost always a Felony. In some jurisdictions the term Rapine is used to differentiate the crime from other forms of Rape (which see). Also see: Gang Rape and other variations.
      Traditionally the act was a male assaulting a female, however, most jurisdictions have expanded their laws to include other variations.

Foreplay
      Part of the Seduction sequence before the sexual act itself. Includes everything from Kissing to Oral Sex, and everything else usually considered a prelude to Intercourse. Some 'romantics' consider a fine dinner and wine by candlelight as part of foreplay. There are women who prefer extended sessions of foreplay to the sex act itself. See: Making Out, Arousal, Turn On.

Formula Romance Novel
      Type of mass produced literary work which answers to a prescribed plot progression. In many cases the progressions are so predictable readers know that the main characters will make love in a given chapter without ever reading the rest of the book. See: Romance Novel, Pulp Fiction, Dime Novel.

Fornication
      Engaging in Sexual Activity (Fucking) when neither of the parties are Married to anybody else (or each other). Most usually: Premarital sex. Term is used irrespective of the nature of the sex, whether it is Heterosexual or Homosexual. Although obsolete, the term is still used in some legal and religious circles. See: Lesbian for more on the subject and a quote. See: Sin, Conscience, Hanky Panky, Saving Oneself for Marriage. Compare: Adultery.

Four Letter Words
      Most usually refers to the "Seven Dirty Words" George Carlin skit, although two of them had more than four letters. Often refers to cursing in a generic and 'safe for the Family Hour' way instead of calling somebody a Motherfucker. See: Seven Dirty Words, "bleep".

Four Words for Love, Four Stages of Love
      The English versions of the Greek terms describing four different types of love. See: below for more on each. Also see: Love At First Sight, Falling In Love, Courtship, etc.
      Classic illustration and related material of the ideal and rather poetic description of the progression of human love using the terms. In reality, it is neither so simple or poetic and more than one stage may be in play at any one point. And since we are making some attempt to be technically accurate, the Greek words were for different forms of the core emotion and not indicative of a progression from one to the other. But facts have nothing to do with poetry.
      Those who study relationships have divided the love relationship into as many as twelve stages, including in their analysis a commitment based on children born to the couple and other factors as well. Said academic work has not done away with the classic notion either.
      The words / stages are usually regarded as (Also see: separate entries for each):
          Storge: familial love, as among siblings.
          Phileo (sometimes rendered 'Filial'): Friendship or brotherly love.
          Eros: Erotic love although the term does not require Consummation to apply.
          Agape: Perfect love. Also see: God.

Free Love
      Term used during the late 1960's through the early 1970's (and through today in certain circles) for uncommitted, non-relationship based, and sometimes anonymous Sex. Most of the time, those involved in the act were young (mid Teens through mid twenties or so), more or less rebellious, and often hopelessly idealistic. They were into the music/drugs/hysteria of the period, as well as the entire 'counter culture' phenomenon associated with the anti-Vietnam War 'thing', and Casual Sex was a big part of that as it flew in the face of the everything their parents, and the assorted politicians of the day, stood for. However, these same young people who were fucking in the bushes at the Altamont concert were often totally clueless as to the consequences of their actions (while the love was free, Birth Control Pills were not!). A shining example is the rash of 'Woodstock babies' born in 1970 after the Summer of Love (whether or not their parents had been to the milestone music festival is irrelevant).
      See: Casual Sex, Love Child, Sexual Revolution, Hippy.

"free porn"
      The reason graphics on the Internet exist, otherwise it would still be all text based. (No. I'm not kidding, go read the real history of the Web.)

Free Speech
      Most usually the expectation of the right to express ones own ideas and views without official censure from the government. The term applies equally to graphic and performance arts as well as written and actual spoken words. While some self expression is not permitted for various reasons, such as yelling "Hi Jack!" while on an aircraft or undressing on a public street, most reasonable discourse is allowed unless the criteria for Obscene or Indecent is met. See: Censorship, Obscenity, First Amendment, Political Correctness, Voluntary Self Censoring, and related. Also see: example at Autobiography of a Flea.

French Kissing, 'Frenching', Deep Kissing, etc.
      'Open mouth kissing'. Primarily the use of one's tongue to explore and entice the other person's mouth and tongue while kissing, often while the other person does the same to you, which may result in 'tongue wrestling'. Very erotic and romantic type of kissing especially when compared to the Hollywood 'air kiss' which means nothing to either party. Some slang terms include 'tonsil check' and 'counting fillings'. Also see: Lip Lock, Kiss, Romance, Foreplay.

French Maid
      The term refers specifically to the costume worn by a certain group of women housekeepers which has most, if not all, of the following characteristics.
      The outfit was usually black with white lace trim, today they are usually presented as one piece, however, this is not the historic norm. The top consisted of a fitted bodice that was usually cut low enough at the neckline to show a significant amount of cleavage. A plaited skirt that flared out significantly from the hips which ended usually above the knee and was constructed so as that when the woman bent forward to do the housework, it exposed the back of her thighs, which became the hallmark of the costume and a cliché for the style. The woman usually wore plain hose and sensible shoes for working in, however, today the costume comes with Fishnet Hose and Sexy Shoes.
      The Costume is usually closely related to the "sexy nurse" outfit except in the Nurse's case, the main costume is white. See: Nurse, Medical Fetish, Costume.

French Tickler
      Most usually, a Condom or Cock Ring with fingerlike projections either at the tip, around the end, or sometimes along the shaft for the purpose of stimulating various spots inside the Vagina and the Cervix, as well as the Clitoris during Intercourse. Term also applies to Vibrators and Dildos so designed. See: related.

French Whore, "Smells Like a French Whore"
      Multiple uses, all related. Then a bit of analysis.
      Usually refers to the style of dress, amount of perfume, or how much makeup someone, especially a woman, is wearing. Most often invoked when they are trying to be Sophisticated but just look Cheap or Trashie, which see, whether or not the person is an actual Prostitute.
      A Prostitute, or politician, from France. Or one who appears to be cut from the same cloth as either of those. Also the overuse of perfume or cosmetics in a social situation where it is otherwise inappropriate, see below. For example see Red Light, note reference to song written about a French whore.
      Term equally applies to both French politicians and certain US Democrats who appear to be Francophiles.
      An alcoholic mixed drink made with vodka, possibly so named because of the reddish color of the finished drink.
      A fictional novel by Gene Wilder (born 1933) which was released in 2007, and was about a French whore.
      While it is not unreasonable to assume that the almost mystical belief that a Prostitute from France was something special to those who sought her services either during the various Nineteenth Century North American gold rushes when working women would use the persona of being of the aristocratic European classes, and especially from the recently deposed French court, to make it seem like they were classier than they actually were. Of course the majority of those women were neither classy nor usually French, although a lot of them may have been recent immigrants to both the US and Canada from other countries. But, of course, it didn't matter in the least.
      The next time we see the term in popular culture, it is usually in reference to women the WWI doughboys met on the Continent, not all of whom charged for providing 'comfort' to the GI's. And then even more so after WWII when the triumphant soldiers returned with tales of Paris and the delights of the city and a new awareness of the world at large.
      The term came to be associated with a certain type of appearance and especially the amount of perfume worn based on the fact that at the time, the French weren't overly fastidious about personal hygiene and used cologne to cover up the human body's various aromatic properties.
      Today the term is most usually associated with an almost Flamboyantly theatrical level of appearance as a Working Girl, which see, as well as the aforementioned overuse of perfume. Also see: Dolly Parton quote at Cheap.

Freud, Sigmund (1856 - 1939)
      Cocaine addict who was having sex with his Sister-In-Law in the bedroom down the hall from where his wife was sleeping. Founder of Psychoanalysis as a branch of behavioral science. Several of his ideas have been taken and run out to the logical extreme, rendering them little more than material for lousy jokes. See: Penis Envy, Anal Retentive, Oedipus Complex, Sex Research, Cigar, Sister-In-Law, and related topics.
"Sometimes a cigar is just a cigar." -Freud (attribution of the quote to Sigmund is now disputed).
But Dr. Freud DID say- "Sadism is all right in its place, but it should be directed to proper ends."

Freudian Slip, Parapraxis
      Saying or doing what one actually means, or might be thinking about, by accident. Sometimes said slips are intentional and passed off as a slip of the tongue. Said slips are said by psychologists to carry significant meaning, even though they may simply be an accident, a phenomenon first described in medical literature by Sigmund Freud (see above entry) in his work Psychopathology. The technical term most often used is 'parapraxis'.
      Often when a man mis-speaks something in the presence of his wife it is deemed to be grounds for divorce, if said slip is made by a woman, it is usually blamed on the man and he is told to be more understanding.

Friends With Benefits, Fuck Buddy, Etc.
      One step up from Casual Sex. In short, this is a relationship solely based on being partners for sex. According to most anecdotal evidence: It doesn't work, as sooner or later one or the other will either want to get serious with the other person emotionally, or they will break it off. See: Casual Sex.

Frigid, Frigidity
      In this context, a woman who is sexually unresponsive, mentally or emotionally unable to enjoy sexual activity, or has such a disagreeable personality that no-one would consider it with her. Could be in general to all activity with all partners or just with one partner, such as her husband. The loss of her Sex Drive can be medical condition or the result of a medical treatment as the side effect of medication. Some treatments, including the use of vibrators and artificial lubricants as well as medication and counseling have been reported as effective in the long term. It is an urban legend that all wives become frigid shortly after the birth of their first child, not all do. No. Not all of them. See: Hot Mom for more.
      There are several physical illnesses such as Endometriosis (see Vaginal Abnormalities) as well as psychological conditions which have the side effect of shutting down the Female Sexual Response and causing Orgasmic dysfunction. Medication, hormonal treatments, and talk therapy as well as physical treatments such as Yoni Massage and Kegel Exercises have proved effective in reawakening the woman's interest in physical intimacy. See: highlighted topics.

Frottage, Frotting
      There is no standardized spelling or usage of the term.
      Essentially Masturbation with ones clothes on using somebody, or something, else to satisfy their own urge. See: Dancing ("Dirty Dancing")
      Sex with a stranger when both are clothed. Usually the 'frotter' is a male, the 'frottee' can be anything or anybody, and is quite often unaware of what is going on. AKA Sexual Assault, Personal Space.
      The rubbing of two Penises together, most often seen in the male Homosexual videos. The equivalent on the Lesbian side would be Tribadism, which see.
      "Outercourse" or Intercrural Sex, see both terms.
      As practiced on Japanese subways- See: Dry Humping. Compare: Intercrural Sex, Outercourse.

Fuck, Fucking
      Heterosexual Genital Intercourse, which see. The act itself.
      One of the "Seven Dirty Words", which see. Usually referred to in media as "The F Word". Usually used as an exclamation by those of limited vocabulary. Also tossed around in movies and rap songs simply for the shock value.
      See: other variations under individual topics. For example 'Ass Fucking' under Anal Intercourse.
      Also see: Consummation, Performance Anxiety, Abstinence, Marital Relations, Lady Chatterley's Lover, and Etc.

"Fuck Like A Porn Star", "Fucking Like A Porn Star"
      There is an ongoing myth and popular mystique that somehow Adult Performers 'do it' better, longer, different, or whatever, than the rest of us. Which is only marginally true. Many performers, male and female, do have above average Staying Power or endurance, slightly larger endowment, and many even have some acting ability so they are able to act like they are having the best sex of their lives, even while balancing on one foot in a moving city bus while wearing a wardrobe made out of tree branches.
      There is a significant difference in the way most people Fuck on Dates, or in bed with their significant other, Gay or Straight, and the way it is done in Porn. For one, in the movies, the Sex is done for the camera. The Positions are usually something less than Intimate, and there is usually minimal secondary contact between the parties involved, see Cuddling. Also, the average Sex Scene in a porn film is usually shot over a period of several hours, if not days, and is then edited together so it looks like the couple energetically fucked for half an hour straight. And the Foreplay, if there is any, probably consisted of one deep kiss which led directly to Oral Sex.
      The other primary difference is in the various Orgasms as filmed. Namely, that women can have a toe curling orgasm with no other stimulation than watching the guy Jerk Off on her Tits. That, and that every guy's biggest fantasy is to pull out of the woman's Anus, Vagina, or Mouth to jerk off on her tits. See: Money Shot. When in the privacy of one's own bedroom, Coitus Interruptus followed by some sort of Bukkake is seldom the way it's done.
      Another point is that when most people Make Love, they are the only ones around. Other than the occasional Swinger party, most people have sex with only one other person in the room at the time, namely, they are alone with their Lover. Adult Movies are often filmed with a dozen people or more around consisting of the camera and lighting crews, director, makeup, sound and set guys, and so on. Which may cause Performance Anxiety for the man and make the woman, shall we say, less receptive. See: Sex Scene.
      Also see: You Can Be A Porn Star, Positions, Birth Control, Staying Power, Woodman, Penis Size, Zip-less Fuck, and related terms.

"Fuck me boots"
      Most usually thought of in terms of being part of the costume of a Dominatrix, boots of this sort are not practical for such duty as shoveling snow or riding a motorcycle. They are usually characterized by an extremely high top, knee high or above, unusually high heels, maybe even having platform soles several inches tall, and be closed by an amazing length of laces, a Zipper, or even be slip on. Such boots were the subject of a 1966 song by Nancy Sinatra (born 1940). See: Sexy Shoes, Foot Fetish, Toe Licking, Stripper Shoes, Fishnet, and related.

Fuck Stick, Fuckstick
      Disrespectful term for either the male Penis, or the man himself. Occasionally used to refer to a Dildo or similar. Most usually seen in badly written smut as featured in lower caste magazines. Your Brutha has never used the term in any of his stories. Also see: Phallus, Weiner.

Fuck Up, Fuck With
      'Fuck Up / With': To disrupt intentionally or otherwise, or to inject unpleasantness or even chaos into another's activity or plans, or to make the result of said project worthless. See: Screw Up, Cluster Fuck.

"Fuck You"
      The essential message of the US Congress to the American voter and taxpayer.
      Insult flung at random at people one has no desire or intention of engaging in a Sex Act with. Usually considered one of the worst insults and terms used to exclaim total disrespect for the target. Except in certain gangsta songs where it is used as a term of endearment for one whom ones wishes to fuck and then leave cold on the side of the road.
      See other terms under "Fuck" especially "Go Fuck Yourself".

"Fuck You Very Much"
      Nonsensical insult usually spouted by somebody who has otherwise exhausted their repertoire of things to say. May also be said sarcastically as the acknowledgement of a backhanded or otherwise insincere compliment. The term has nothing to do with Sex other than the use of the infamous "F Word", which see.

Fucked
      Most usually associated with something unfortunate or unpleasant which has already happened as in the past tense of Fuck Up, which see. Such as in the use of the term 'SNAFU', Situation Normal: All Fucked Up.
      The past tense of Fucking, as in Heterosexual Genital Intercourse.
      The general consensus of the state of your checking account once the Democrats have both the Congress (see Asshole) and the White House.

Fucker
      Multiple uses. Including the sexual one which would describe the Active Partner in a Sex Act, which would usually be the Top or Male role.
      When used in a derogatory fashion the term is best seen as a severe pejorative best likened to saying that the person so called has no value whatsoever as a human other than their potential as food for vermin. See: Motherfucker.
      May also be synonymous with Asshole, which see.

"Fuckin' A"
      Added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion
      From what both Your Good Brutha and the Doktor could tell, the term is impossible to define as it is damned near meaningless, while at the same time, can mean anything its user wants it to, as follows.
      The term is usually used as an exclamation of disbelief or astonishment. Also as both an affirmation or denial in answer to a statement or question. Has been used as a declaration of intent or will to engage in or to complete a task. Can also be employed as an insult where the "A" is an abbreviation for Asshole. As a question or inquiry as to what is going on or to have something clarified. Or, indeed, to simply fill silence and to remind us that you are there. Often used in movies where the "F-word" rate per minute has dropped below some threshold and the director has it injected at random to boost it.

Fucking Machine
      Mechanical device either purpose built or adapted for sexual purposes. May use air pistons, electric motors with gears and cams, or other means to generate a thrusting motion which is used by the machine to Penetrate the Receiver. May incorporate other actions such as Vibration or rotation to increase the pleasure of the Receiver. Has developed into its own niche and even fetish. Said devices are most often with women, although some can also be used with men. When such devices are used with anybody, it is strongly recommended that a great deal of Lubricant be used on the person receiving the penetration or other stimulation and a 'kill switch' and/or Safe Word be developed beforehand. See: Vibrator, Sex Toy, Lubricant and etc.
      Term is also used to refer to an individual, sometimes with awe, sometimes derogatorily, who can 'fuck like a machine'. Usually used in reference to stamina, thrusting ability, perhaps even noises such as 'huffing like a freight train'. Can apply to either male or female participants.

Fucking the Crack
      Simulated Intercourse without actual Penetration, may be Homosexual or Heterosexual in nature, and may involve nearly any body parts, or even be a Group Sex practice with multiple partners. Those so inclined may also simulate the act of simulating the Sex with Dildos, Fingers, Tongues, and a virtually unlimited array of Toys and items such as bananas. Can be thought of as a form of Mutual Masturbation or even Dry Humping except the partners are usually Nude. See: Intercrural Sex.
      The technique is often used to preserve Virginity and to give some Sexual Gratification without the risk of Pregnancy and to reduce the threat of Sexually Transmitted Disease. See: highlighted terms. Added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion

Fuddy-Duddy
      Doktor Leftover.

Full Figure
      Description of a woman's torso when she has a Figure which is naturally curvy and Voluptuous without her being obese. Often used in the fashion world to describe women with such a figure but is then extended to those who are significantly overweight on through the morbidly obese. See: Hour Glass
      In historic times, and even occasionally today, women whose figures were a little more plump than full would wear a Girdle or a Corset to 'pull in' the extra around their middle, to approximate a more agreeable form as dictated by the fashion of the time.

Full Frontal Nudity
      Video or photograph which shows a person, hopefully a good looking woman, nude, from the front, from head to toe, or an approximation thereof. At one time said view was the test as to whether or not a motion picture would receive an 'R' rating. See: Nude Scene.

Fun Bags
      Fairly stupid term most often used by Breast obsessed men who write captions for Adult websites referring to and focusing (pun intended) on what are usually surgically enhanced breasts which have been inflated out of proportion to the woman's body size. Note: this is another idiotic term Your Good Brutha will never use. See: Breast Enlargement, Infantile Fetish, Tits, Tit Fucking, DD, and other terms for said Secondary Sexual Organs.

Fur Burger, Furburger
      Cunnilingus (which see) Also see: "Eating Pussy", Oral Sex, Muffdiving.
      See the related idea of "Carpet Munching". One of the more imaginative of the "cute expressions" for a sex act, but still, Your Good Brutha has elected to not use it. Added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion

G.I.L.F., GILF / GMILF
      Idiotic term coined to play off the general Mom I'd Like to Fuck - MILF (which see) hoopla by now specifying that a woman is a 'Grandmother I'd Like to Fuck'. Both the 'G' and 'GM' versions have been used.
      Most recently seen in reference to Alaskan Governor Sarah Palin, see Stepford Wives for more on the reference.

G-Spot, Grafenberg Spot
      Term for a structure inside the vagina roughly comparable in some respects to the male prostate. While its actual function is not known it can be the source of very powerful Orgasms with the proper stimulation, sometimes resulting in Female Ejaculation (whish see). It can be located by inserting a finger into the vagina then curling the finger toward the woman's navel, the G Spot is a small area that feels slightly rougher than the rest of the vaginal wall where the urethra passes the closest to the vagina.
      The spot was named for Dr. Ernst Gräfenberg (1881 - 1957) who had done extensive research on both the female sexual organs and their role in sexuality. He also described Female Ejaculation which has been dismissed by other experts.
      Some research has indicated that there may be other 'spots' inside the vagina that serve other functions during arousal or the sex act itself. These include the 'A' and 'U' spots which are located above and below the G-spot. However, other experts claim these spots, if they exist at all, are simply continuations of the G-spot or the clitoris itself. See: Clitoris, Orgasm.
      Other researchers have denied that it exists at all, evidently, they've never tried Yoni Massage on a woman.

G-String
      Most usually a tiny undergarment worn as a Panty, costume, or swimsuit but serving no practical purpose and barely concealing the Vulva. See: Thong, Butt Floss, Panty, Lap Dancer.

Gametes
      The sex cells: Eggs (ova) and Sperm. See: Sexual Reproduction, Sperm, and related.

Gang Bang, Pull a- Chain, Train, Etc.
      One Receiving individual having sex, usually Intercourse, with multiple partners in series. Most usually one woman Fucking at least four or five men in succession. Some 'World Record Gangbangs' report a single woman having sex with several hundred men in one day, many of these reports are exaggerated.
      Is often seen at various functions such as fraternity parties or the initiation into various clubs or gangs. Compare: Gang Rape.
      Applies equally to the Recipient engaging in multiple sex acts, including Oral Sex, with different individuals whether said sex is Straight or Gay, Oral, Vaginal, Anal, DP, or any other combination and variation. See: Group Sex, Orgy, Polygamy, Man Train, Sloppy Seconds, etc.

Gang Rape
      The criminally violent side of a Gang Bang, which see. The victim of the act is usually female but may be male as in the case of Forced Feminization. As with most Rapes, this is not just a Sex Crime but a crime of profound violence against an individual. See: Felony.
      It is often associated with actual gang activity such as with the Hell's Angels or various criminal gangs, fraternity parties, and regional terrorist activity such as in various tribal conflicts in Afrika and Asia.

Gap
      Term used to describe the crotch area of a woman who is wearing tight fitting slacks, shorts, swimsuit, or other garment. The word specifically refers to the area between the insides of her thighs, which should NOT be touching and the area of the garment, if she is indeed wearing one, which would be covering her Vulva. See: Camel Toe, Daisy Dukes.

Gape, Gaping
      Multiple Meanings.
      Staring at an object of Lust, in most cases, a good-looking woman, I.E., a Lecher looking at a Babe.
      On TV, the expression on an idiot man's face whose brain just locked up in the presence of a Babe.
      An open Vagina or Anus which has been dilated either for or from Sex Play. See: Cave, Anal Training.

Garter (Belt) and Hose (or Stockings)
      Women's undergarments consisting of a waist belt and the various straps and fasteners on it to hold stockings in place. Has been replaced by Pantyhose, which see.
      The object of endless fascination, Fantasy, Obsession, and Fetish for innumerable men and women and the subject of innumerable Soft and Hard Core pictorials and movies. Perhaps the most famous model of said Lingerie was Bettie Page, which see. added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion

Gash
      An open cut or wound as from a knife. Also, a similar rending of material such as the accidental cutting of a car seat or other upholstery. The scarring of land from clear cutting or strip mining. Similar physical evidence such as that left by the Union Army during Sherman's "March to the Sea" across Georgia during the US War Between the States.
      Outdated, offensive, and ignorant term used to describe the Vulva and Labia. Which see. Also see: explanation of slang terms at Pussy.

Gay
      Originally meant happy, carefree, almost obnoxiously cheerful. Most commonly used to describe the economic and socially booming decade of the 1890's, as in "the Gay Nineties."
      The Bastardization of the term as in current use usually refers to Homosexual men. However, the term equally applies to Lesbians. Those who are Bisexual usually identify themselves as bi, although single bi men (Metrosexual Democrats) are often thought of as gay by the world at large. Other related terms used by various outfits and individuals include 'Divas', 'Queens', 'Swishy' and so on almost ad infinitum. Also, a man can be a Democrat and NOT be gay or a Metrosexual. See: Straight, Bi, Pansexual, etc. Also see: Reader Letter from "Tommy" Why I'm Gay.

"Gay For Pay"
      Phenomenon best described as one who is literally "acting gay" by performing full or somewhat limited Homosexual acts only for money as a job. When they are in their private life, they are Straight by choice. Such activity may be while working as a Prostitute, Adult Actor, or other Sex Performer. Less common is where the actor is Gay in private but engages in Heterosexual sex while on the payroll. See: highlighted terms.
      Such behavior may be considered a form of Bisexuality, but most individuals so behaving would not identify themselves as such. Counter to that is the nearly required bisexuality by women in the Adult Entertainment Industry.
      One of the most famous (infamous) male examples has to be John Holmes (which see). A more recent example would be Ron Jeremy (which also see).

Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN)
      Activist group whose purpose seems to be to promote an agenda of Homosexual acceptance, inclusion, and even preference in American schools, as well as a general goal of recruiting others into such a lifestyle. While the group claims to be equally representative of Lesbians and Straights by its own admission most of its material and activity is centered on Homosexual Men. They have also been known to promote Predatory Homosexual Pedophilia (which see), which they now deny. Also see, Gay Pride, Closet. Added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion

Gay Pride, Gay Liberation
      Political movement based on the presumption that one has the right to chose ones own Sexual Preference and to make public said choice. Loosely based on the Feminist and racial equality movements of the 1960's. Some radical and even violent activity was associated with the early days of the drive, but it has since become mainstream to the point of being openly debated in US Presidential campaigns. See: Political Correctness, Equal Rights Amendment, "Don't Ask, Don't Tell", and related.

Gaydar, Babedar, MILFdar, etc.
      A play on the term RADAR (radio detection and ranging) to imply that somebody can "spot a homosexual a mile away". Usage is usually limited to bigots and other ignorant people when talking about each other.
      Other versions include said ability applying to whatever the subject of the moment is, including pretty women, beer, poker games, and so on.

Geisha
      Japanese female entertainer who traditionally appears in whiteface wearing an elaborate formal costume. The spelling and usage varies by region. The traditional makeup and costume is now usually seen only during special occasions or by customer request. They did NOT routinely have sex with those they entertained.
      To consider the traditional geisha a Prostitute is to disrespect the centuries old profession and demonstrates the users ignorance. However, to be fair, there are Japanese prostitutes who work as Geishas to gain access to wealthy patrons and then arrange after-hours contact with said patrons. The practice of the Geisha as Prostitute was most pronounced during the Korean and Vietnam wars.
      Also see: Escort, Adult Entertainment, Call Girl. Compare: Comfort Woman.

Gender
      Grammatical term dealing with the sex role identification of words and phrases. Most pronounced in Spanish and French and other languages. English is relatively gender neutral. Has been hijacked by social engineers because if they said 'sex' meaning 'male and female' somebody might blush. For the sexual identification of humans see 'Sex' and related terms.

Gender Bender
      An individual, or group of individuals who are intentionally ambiguous about their Sex Role Identification or their Sex itself as to whether they are Male or Female. Usually done for shock value. Note, such individuals are not Cross Dressers such as a Female Impersonator, or Transvestites, they are appearing to be Androgynous or Asexual. Compare: Unisex.
      Many Celebrities have traded on the idea of being a "gender bender", both male and female, some with more success than others. One of the most famous was Boy George (born 1961 as George Alan O'Dowd), of the band Culture Club, who, while being openly Homosexual, maintained an appearance that he was neither a man nor a woman.

"Give me time, to realize my crime
Let me love and steal, I have danced inside your eyes
How can I be real,
Do you really want to hurt me,
Do you really want to make me cry,
Precious kisses words that burn me,
Lovers never ask you why..."
- Culture Club, Do you really want to hurt me, words and music by Culture Club, album Kissing to be Clever, Virgin and Epic Records, released 1982.

Genitals, Genitalia
      Specifically, the external Sex Organs of both Males and Females.
      Term is for the most part obsolete but is still in use in major media and various other sources where the users do not wish to risk using a more accurate but also more explicit and therefore more offensive term. See: every other more explicit and offensive term in this Glossary.

Getting Laid
      Slang term for Sexual Activity, most usually Intercourse, but can apply to such activity of nearly any description. See: Making Love, Fucking.

Gingering, Ginger Insertion
      Using the 'hand' of the ginger plant as a Sex Toy. See: Figging for more.

Girdle
      Restrictive undergarment worn by women to give them the appearance of an Hour Glass Figure when the reality is slightly less than ideal. Different lengths were available depending on the target area needing shaped ranging from full, encompassing the stomach and sides down to below the hips, to essentially being supportive Panties. It is a direct descendent of the Corset, which see.
      Girdles are also occasionally worn by men, especially in theater and other occasions where an otherwise fat man is trying to fit into a costume meant for one not quite so rotund.

Girl Talk, Locker Room Talk, Dick Stories, Etc
      For our present purposes we are referring to more or less explicit sex talk (not "The" Sex Talk, which see) between persons of the same sex, or perhaps a mixed group which contains both empty boasting and actual discussions of sexual exploits, knowledge, opinions and ideas in a pleasant, or perhaps unpleasant depending on the circumstances, mixture. Often seen in high school locker rooms and teenage girl slumber parties, bars, sewing circles, and so on. If one is seeking factual information, these types of encounters are not the place to find it, however, these types of discussions continue to be the source for information sexual and otherwise for a large percentage of people. See: Bases, Sex Talk (the), Slumber Party, Penis Size Indicator Myths, and Etc.

Girl Watching
      Time honored pastime and even hobby practiced by generations of construction workers, truck drivers, and other Heterosexual men who would Wolf Whistle and otherwise acknowledge the attractiveness and even Sexiness of passing women, many of whom would dress, walk, and behave in ways that elicited such acknowledgment. See: related topics including Sexual Harassment, Ogle, Feminism, Eye Candy, Babe.

Girlie Magazine
      Publication containing non-Explicit (no pussy shown) images of pretty young women, most often considered Glamour, or borderline Softcore, in content. Most famous example is Playboy which see. Also see: Harrison Marks, Nude Model.

Girlie Man
      Usually thought of as a derogatory term for an Adult Male who is Effeminate, a Metrosexual, or possibly even a Flamboyant Homosexual, or quite possibly all of the above instead of having some sense of overt Masculinity (NOT Machismo). See: highlighted terms.
      Most famous usage was when Arnold Schwarzenegger (born 1947) spoke his thoughts of the Democratic candidates for President in 1988: "They all look like a bunch of girlie men, right?"

"Girls Gone Wild"
      Pathetic film series by a Breast Obsessed man, one Joe Francis, who has since been charged with multiple Felonies including Child Pornography for filming Jail Bait, and locked up on several occasions, he is currently on house arrest awaiting trial on tax evasion. Also, related late night cable Titillation commercials promoting said films. Also, related to the little known but equally lame films called "Guys Gone Wild".

Glamour
      Usual definition: Art-style photographs of pretty women which fall somewhere between the normal Cheesecake type pose and Softcore Pornography. Most often involves tasteful Nudity, usually topless and often total nudity but posed so that even Full Frontal Nudity does not show more than a glimpse of Pubic Hair from a distance. See: highlighted terms, Also see: Harrison Marks, Nude Model.

Glans
      Latin word for 'acorn'.
      The tip or head of the Penis. Medically, the term also includes the erectable tissue of both the penis and the Clitoris. Also see: Subincision, Circumcision.

GLB, GLBT, GLBTQA, etc
      Abbreviation seen in various media outlets, on political bumper stickers, and in Personal Ads (which see pun intended) and should be taken to mean Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgendered / Transsexual, Queer, Asexual, or whatever combination of those letters is employed. See: "Don't Ask, Don't Tell", Political Correctness, and related.

Glory Hole
      An opening drilled in a privacy screen between public restroom stalls or similar arrangement that allows for anonymous Fellatio or other Sexual Activity with a man. The hole is of such a size and height to allow the man to extend his Erect Penis through to be attended to by the person on the other side of the barrier. Often seen in establishments catering to gays but can appear in other locations, even in private homes for Swinger's parties and other diversions. Compare: Peephole.

Glossary
      A list of terms with their definitions usually arranged alphabetically. May include technical aspects, illustrations, quotes, or other relevant information to the terms listed. Such listings are often specific to one subject area or field of study, unlike a general interest encyclopedia or dictionary.
      See: Sex Glossary for the term as it relates to this glossary.

Gluteus Maximus
      Latin term for the largest muscle in the Buttocks, running between the spinal area of the pelvis (sacrum) and the femur, which has been generalized to the entire Butt.

"Go Fuck Yourself"
      Far from being a suggestion that one perform Masturbation the phrase is considered an extreme expletive and insult to whoever it is aimed at. The Slang phrase may be partially based in the inherent frustration and essential uselessness of the act of masturbation. See various related terms including those under "Fuck" especially "Fuck You".
      It is interesting to note that there is a niche of Porn where men with extremely long (and flexible!) Penises perform exactly this act by engaging in Anal Intercourse with themselves. Said act is far more of a stunt than an actual pleasurable Sex Act. Also see: Autofellatio for related act.

Go Go Girl, Go Go Boots
      Terms for a pre-disco era phenomenon where dance clubs, music oriented TV shows, and other venues of that sort. The producers would put attractive young women in short skirts or shorts, knee-high or higher boots, and sometimes little else, on elevated platforms, or even in cages, where they would dance enthusiastically to whatever was playing. The girls would use an almost stereotypical set of moves and steps that can still be seen in various TV commercials and reruns of period shows. The girls were usually just one step this side of being identifiable as a Hippie Chick, which see.
      Said boots were part of the general outfit worn by the dancing girls.
      The entire outfit, whether or not the woman wearing it is dancing. Even moreso when the clothes have bold 'wild' sixties prints on them or are otherwise so dated.
      See: Dance, Miniskirt, Sexy Shoes, "Fuck me boots", Hippie Chick.

Goatse
      Term appears to have started as either a name or a nickname, of possible European extraction. Was specifically applied to one man who achieved 'fame' on the internet through being able to self-dilate his Anus to extreme dimensions using his hands, probes, and other objects, while photographing the insertions and the results. Sometimes it would appear that he had stretched his sphincter beyond the diameter of the normal male pelvic bone opening.
      Term is now loosely (pun intended) thrown around for those who mimic said stunts, both male and female.
      It is worth stating here that the extreme practice exhibited by its originator has inherent risks and should not be undertaken lightly.
      See: Cave, Gape, Dilation, Anal Sex, Insertion, Extreme Sex, Exhibitionism

God
      The Uncaused First Cause, usually rendered in all caps: GOD.
      That which First Loved. Often depicted with suitable modifiers, as in: God the Father.
      Other Supreme Deity by whatever name you so chose to use under your First Amendment rights.
      This entry is in this Glossary because a reader noticed that it was missing. However, it is worth noting that God did create woman as a companion for man. Which if not for that act, this Glossary would be much shorter indeed. See: Agape and related topics.
      Indeed, since the subject has been broached:

    The LORD God said, "It is not good for the man to be alone. I will make a helper suitable for him." Now the LORD God had formed out of the ground all the beasts of the field and all the birds of the air. He brought them to the man to see what he would name them; and whatever the man called each living creature, that was its name. So the man gave names to all the livestock, the birds of the air and all the beasts of the field. But for Adam no suitable helper was found. So the LORD God caused the man to fall into a deep sleep; and while he was sleeping, he took one of the man's ribs and closed up the place with flesh. Then the LORD God made a woman from the rib he had taken out of the man, and he brought her to the man.
    The man said, "This is now bone of my bones and flesh of my flesh; she shall be called 'woman, for she was taken out of man."
    For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and they will become one flesh.
    The man and his wife were both naked, and they felt no shame."
Genesis 2 : 18 - 25 (NIV)

Goddess
      Multiple uses including: Female deity, or an anthropomorphism of natural elements which appears as a woman, for example "Mother Nature". It is very common in Wiccan and similar religions who do not follow the Judeo-Christian-Islamic tradition for the greater supernatural being to be identified as "the mother goddess" or equivalent and for all other aspects, including the male, to be subservient to her. The best known example of a 'goddess' might be Kali from the Hindu tradition or, Isis/Ishtar (which see) from other ancient traditions. Back on our Earth, it is also used by the Sub as the term for a Dominatrix or Fem Dom when the woman is in character as such. In some Feminist publications, every woman is referred to as 'a goddess'.
      Historically speaking, the image and personality of a 'goddess' is usually seen as the best, and worst, of the Female. Bringing both the power of creation (as the giver of life) as well as its end, as seen with Kali. This is especially common when dealing with Sex Magic or Sacred Sex (see said terms). Also see Tantra, Yoni Worship.
      In some circles, and in some badly written smut, the term is used to refer to the Female Sex Organs in much the same way as a woman would use the word Kitty (which see), or the world in general would speak of her Pussy.

Going All The Way, Home Run, Etc
      In terms of this Glossary: Sexual Intercourse. In "Days Gone By" both teenage boys and girls would Compare: notes on sexual activity using Euphemisms instead of correct terminology for the sex acts they engaged in. The boys would usually do so in locker rooms whereas the girls would have a slumber party for 'Girl Talk'. As to which was more explicit, that is an ongoing debate. This resulted in some intentional confusion as to who had done exactly what until somebody 'went all the way' which implied sexual intercourse. See: Bases, Girl Talk, Foreplay, Score, Etc.

Going Down
      Generic Euphemism for Oral Sex. Can refer to the action being performed on either a male or female, as a Homosexual or Heterosexual event. See: Oral Sex and related.

Golddigger, Gold Digger, The Golddiggers®
      Dated term for woman who seeks out wealthy older men with the goal of becoming his Trophy Wife, which see. During the post WW2 years some girl's finishing schools were accused of training their students to be exactly that. Which, truth be told, many of them were. See: Trophy Wife.
      Also, the name of an all girl entertainment group from 1965 through the early 1970's which was originally part of Dean Martin's (1917-1995) TV show and stage act, as well as their own weekly syndicated variety show. The girls had to be vivacious, have Sex Appeal, be single, and as well as being able to dance and sing. While they played the role usually attributed to Las Vegas Showgirls, they had to be more wholesome and almost Virtuous, than that role for TV. There were no lack of applicants and several dozen women were part of the group through its time. Besides being on TV and on stage with Martin and others, the women also toured with Bob Hope for the USO. See: Rat Pack, Showgirls, Burlesque, and related. See: Martin song quote at Amore. Also see: Dean Martin quote at Drunk.

Golden Age of Porn
      Usually regarded as the mid-1960's through the 1980's. Or, from around the time of the first issue of Playboy magazine in 1953 through the near saturation of the market by cheap, and cheaply produced and poor quality, VHS movies. The time included the production of such landmark films as Deep Throat, Autobiography of a Flea, and Debbie Does Dallas (see said titles), as well as two, yes, 2, committees seated by the President of the United States, or his Attorney General, to study the effects of Porn on the nation, see Meese Report.
      This time also saw several landmark Obscenity trials including the 1964 US Supreme Court Case over the Louis Malle movie The Lovers, see "I know it when I see it". Other cases involved George Carlin's "Seven Dirty Words" (which see), and various others. Also see: Harry Reems for another case from the time.

Golden Shower, Pissing, etc.
      One person, or group of people, urinating on another for fun or part of Fetish play or in a Dom/Sub relationship. Most usually the recipient of the shower is a man being pissed on by a woman in a 'Fem Dom' relationship. Also involves the medical condition of Urolagnia which involves finding enjoyment in watching a person urinate as well as participating one way or another. Also the drinking urine, especially as it is produced. The practice is generally considered risky outside of monogamous relationships.

Goose
      A sudden, sometimes unexpected grabbing of the Buttocks through the clothes by another, or even a Penetration of the Anus or Vagina by a finger when not looked for. Sometimes done to shock or exasperate the other person, sometimes done as a prelude to more involved Foreplay. Occasionally as part of a Sex Game or Sex Play. See: Feel Up, Sex Play, Dare

Gorean
      Slightly obscure term for Dom/Sub and Master/Slave relationships with, most often, men as the Masters and Owners and women as the slaves. Also refers to Natural and 'Old World' relationships and a general philosophy of the organization of a community and a way of living. Although some adherents claim the practice is not solely about sex and S&M / B&D and focus on the practical and political issues of the ideas, it would appear from the outside that the sexual aspect is the most important part of their philosophy to most of its practitioners. See: Dom/Sub and related topics.
      The term itself is from the Gor science fiction novels written by John Norman from the sixties through the early 2000s.

Gossip
      The greatest contributor to Divorce throughout history more than any other single form of speech or conduct.
      Often seen as a Woman's habit (see Confide) or even Vice, the information shared by those that gossip is often exaggerated, and may be absolutely untrue, and those who repeat it may know it to be a lie when they say it, but because of the Titillation factor, they spread it anyway. Other information, while accurate, may be unimportant or even trivial in nature, as is the content of most Celebrity TV shows and magazines. See: Outing as an example.
      During World War Two, phrases like "Loose lips sink ships" discouraged women from talking about where and how their husbands and sons were serving in the military in all nations including Nazi Germany.
      When done in the realm of politics, gossip is used as a form of 'grass-roots' disinformation 'whispering campaign' which can be devastating to a candidate. Most recently used by Hillary Clinton against Barack Obama when her campaign staff sent out emails about how Mr. Obama was a Muslim and other untruths. Said emails are still circulating.
      Gossip is discouraged in every major religion. "Without wood a fire goes out; without gossip a quarrel dies down." Proverbs 26 : 20 NIV

Goth, Gothic
      Multiple uses, some of which follow.
      The general name of several European tribes that raised hell with the Roman Empire and contributed significantly to its fall. Also, their culture, language, and alphabet.
      The name of a type of architecture and other artwork popular in Europe from about 1100 to 1500. Many of the great cathedrals were built in this style most noted for its pointed arch, high ceilings, and intricate decoration and carving. It is worth noting here that some of the figures carved on said buildings were, while very stylized, were unabashedly Erotic!
      Literary genre with deeply involved and intricate plots, usually with high Emotional content and often an evil nemesis or other aspect of horror or terror. Often classified as Romances (which see) they also include some aspects of adventure or other quest. Just inside this definition one will find a selection of epic poets who are best known for the length of their poems. Most of these works, the novels and the poems, are often difficult for modern readers to appreciate. This form of literature comes just inside our realm is the branch of the genre which included Eroticism, some of which was heavily veiled in flowery language, but it was there none the less. See: Romance Novel for more.
      More to our present purpose, a style usually expressed among young people which encompasses some aspects of Punk, a fascination with Death, perhaps some aspects of Vampirism, and even Satanism (see Black Mass). Also said mode of dress, including dark colors and makeup, a dour expression and lack of expressed emotions, and the avoidance of all pleasure and the enjoyment of life, even when they are not clinically depressed, they are doing this by choice. Some adherents will go as far as to have Sex while forcing themselves to not enjoy it in any way, or to at least not to express any pleasure outwardly. Some individuals in this lifestyle, especially teens, are at risk for suicide. See: highlighted terms.

Gratuitous - Sex / Nudity (no violence here)
      Most usually a mainstream movie or TV show where sex and/or nudity not related to the plot has been inserted for no other reason than to appeal to those that enjoy seeing such things. Such a move can sometimes save an otherwise worthless movie or show. For example, how many prime time comedies show pretty women in lingerie or swimsuits (or wrapped in a towel) on a regular basis when said attire is almost unjustifiable given the plot. Of late, said nudity is now as likely to involve a man as a woman for Homoerotic reasons. See: F word, Bleep, Ratings, Family Hour, Body Double, Community Standards, Nude Scene, and related.

Greek
      Term most usually but not exclusively used applies to Homosexual activity. Based on legends of man-boy contact in ancient Sparta which do have some basis in truth. The term is used less to apply to Heterosexual Anal Intercourse but it does apply to the practice as the Sex of the Receiver is irrelevant. See: Anal Intercourse, Sodomy.

Groin
      The pubic area. Also, similarly shaped feature of a tree or hill. See: Crotch, Privates, and related.
      The term is usually used in relation to the muscles and tendons in the pelvic floor area, such as "he pulled a groin muscle."

Grope, Feel Up
      To touch another person sexually, especially through, or under, their clothes, if done without their Consent, may be Sexual Assault, which see. See: Frotting, Make Out

Group Sex
      Sexual activity involving more than two people. Includes threesomes (also called 'troilism') and larger groups. May be a group of men and women or a group of individuals of the same sex. Multi-couple swinger parties often involve at least some group sex and will likely include some Bisexual activity, at least among the women, as part of the event. See: Double Penetration, Triple Penetration, Three In One and other topics.
      The world of Dom/Sub sometimes involve multiple submissives in a 'poly' arrangement. The various subs are often 'required' to engage in some sexual behavior amongst themselves, including bisexual sex, to 'entertain' the dom. The subs may be of either or both sexes, just as the dom may be male or female, or even a dom couple who rule a whole nest of subs. See: Polygamy, Dom, Sub, Orgy, etc.

Groupie
      Traditionally, a young woman (or man) who follows a touring music group, often between cities and even countries, with the sole purpose in mind to have sex with members of the band. The 'groupie' may also seek free tickets to the concerts, clothing, and other memorabilia. Some of them became legendary with some of the touring groups, others wrote memoirs, and others faded into obscurity with unwanted children or various diseases. See: Publicity Whore, Camp Follower, Celebrity Stalker, Quid Pro Quo, Prostitute, One Night Stand.

Guardian, Legal Guardian
      An Adult who is legally responsible for supervising or otherwise overseeing a Minor. Said Adult may be a parent, court appointed manager, or other person who accepts the position. They see to the needs of the Minor including medical care, housing, school attendance, as well as legal and financial obligations. In most jurisdictions, the guardian can be held accountable for some actions of the Minor. See: Adult, Consent, and related.

Guilt
      Emotional state closely related to profound sorrow best described as Remorse over the breaking, or the presumed breaking, of a Moral Law or having committed a Sin, which see. The idea that one could have influenced events to affect a different outcome which would have been better in some way for those concerned and the grief over not having done so. Often these emotions can influence physical health even unto Death. Whether or not any action or inaction by anybody could have changed the outcome is irrelevant, the perception that something might have been done, or not done, and thereby made a difference is enough to provoke the feelings. See: Emotion, Remorse, Sin, Conscience, Moral Law, and related.
      Curiously, many things that some Western Religions preach against, prohibit, and make people feel guilty and have regrets about, are NOT Sins as defined by scripture, and we are not just talking about the Seven Deadly Sins, which see, but things such as Dancing, Masturbation, and men having long hair (which is described by the Apostle Paul as a 'shame', not a sin). However, guilt is a very powerful emotion and when someone is faced with guilt and seeking forgiveness, they can be very generous with donations to those that hand it out. See: Sin, Conscience.
"I'd rather regret the things I've done than regret the things I haven't done."
- Lucille Ball (1911 - 1989)

Gynecological Exam, Pelvic Exam
      Specific to women as the procedure entails the examination of both the internal and external Female Sexual Organs. Usually performed when the woman begins Menstruation or becomes Sexually Active, a Premarital Exam, during Pregnancy, and routinely as part of a health screening involving the PAP smear and other exams. See: OB/GYN, Gynecologist, Internal Exam, Vulva, Vagina, and related topics.
      Said exam is frequently the subject of Medical Fetishism by both men and women as both the patient and the doctor. See: Fetish and related topics.
      Your Good Brutha, while an amateur, is indeed qualified to perform said exams on certain members of the female population for a small service fee. Send email for details.

Gynecology, Gynecologist
      Medical Profession specializing in the Female Sexual and reproductive Organs. See: OB/GYN, Medical Fetish.

H-games, Ecchi
      Erotic, fantastic, occasionally fetish oriented and sometimes violent animated video games in the Hentai (which see) or Anime style. The games are also called 'ecchi' which is the English-phonetic pronunciation of the Japanese letter 'H'. Also see: Anime

Handjob
      AKA, getting Jacked Off (which see) by another person. Most usually during Fellatio which may result in the choice to Spit or Swallow (See that too) or to end up with a Facial or Pearl Necklace (those too). Term is not usually used to describe self-Masturbation.
      See: Mutual Masturbation, Petting (Heavy Petting).

Hands, Magic Hands, Slow Hand
      Multiple uses, some of which follow.
      The primary physically interactive body part, chiefly devoted to the sense of touch, used for manipulation and control of the majority of the material world.
      A foul called in Soccer (football) where a player has touched the ball with any part of the their arm below the elbow. As well as the moving part of an analog clock or other similar dial based device.
      Also: A round of play in any of several multiplayer card games, or the group of cards as dealt to the players for the round. See: Strip Poker for example.
      For our use here... we'll let two groups of sisters speak on the matter first:

"But try to understand, try to understand, oh ... oh ...
Try to understand
Try try try to understand
He's a magic man!" oh yeah
Oh, he's got the magic hands"
Heart (the Wilson Sisters), Magic Man, Written by Ann and Nancy Wilson, Album Dreamboat Annie, Mushroom Records, released 1976

Helicopter
      Position for Sexual Intercourse with the Receiver on top doing the Splits, the implication is that they can rotate while being penetrated like the blade of the flying machine. Such a feat is more likely with the assistance of a trapeze or Pleasure Swing. See: highlighted terms.

Hellfire Club, the
      Any of several British clubs of Rakes, originally called 'Rake hells' founded by various nobles and aristocrats during the Seventeenth and Eighteenth century. The most famous incarnations with the most influential members, including at least one Lady of society, met at the Medmenham Abbey near West Wycombe near London. The clubs were predominately devoted to various kinds of debauchery, including booze, some drug use as was available at the time, mock religious, Masonic, and quasi-satanic rituals, and... oh yes, sex. Lots of sex, of every conceivable variety, to excess. But the first group, led by Duke Philip Wharton (1698 - 1730), was also heavily into politics and found themselves on the wrong side of the Jacobite rebellion. They disbanded under a cloud after a short but auspicious existence.
      The group which was organized not long after the original's demise perhaps had more important members including, American Founding Father Benjamin Franklin (1706 - 1790). It was founded by Baron Francis Dashwood (1708 - 1781) whom was a known associate of Franklin's. Dashwood, like Old Ben, had an interesting and even colorful history, including, at one point being drunk and disorderly in the Sistine Chapel with a riding crop. They too met at the old abbey where the phrase "Fay ce que voudras" Do what thou wilt was carved over the door.
      Other groups have claimed the legacy of the Club, while most have been a mere pretender and hollow echo of the originals, at least they have kept the spirit of the intent of their memory alive.
      Legend has it that the 'monks' of the club would snatch ladies, and men as well, off the streets and smuggle them into their realm where they would ravish them until daybreak, then the hapless victim would be dumped, dead or alive, nude in an alley where they would be found later. Rumors also suggest dark rituals, evil magic, and even human sacrifice took place in the shadowy confines of the tunnels under the abbey. However, the truth of the matter, while just as hard to determine, may be somewhat less interesting. However, one thing that cannot be exaggerated is the legacy of the Hellfire Clubs as seen even today in private sex and after hours clubs world wide. See: Rake, Libertine, Sexual Excess, Sexual Depravity, Pleasure Palace, and related entries.
"The Constitution only gives people the right to pursue happiness. You have to catch it yourself."
- Benjamin Franklin (1706 - 1790)

Hentai, Manga, Bishojo, Shunga
      Adult themed animated TV shows or movies, usually hand drawn but Computer Generated Imagery (see CGI) is being used more often. Originally created in Japan, however the art has spread and the terms now apply to said medium regardless of country of origin. Often features strong (if cartoonish) violence (see Shunga), sexual themes, fetish material, and so on, especially in the 'shunga' genre. The situations and actions are often totally unbelievable fantasy type representations however, even so, they are usually not acceptable for children. Also video games based on such artwork and themes. Said cartoons have also inspired related video and adventure games. See: H-Games. Also see: Anime, Bishojo, Manga

"Her First....", "His First...."
      Phrases usually followed by a descriptive by terms such as Anal, Double Penetration, Lesbian / Gay, Sex Teacher, and etc, and end with variations of the word Sex. Such as 'her first anal sex'.
      All are used as a hook by various adult websites, mostly pay sites at that, to draw in users looking for fresh faces (and bodies) and more Realistic responses from the Adult Actors being shown. However, if one takes the time and makes the effort to check into exactly who is on the screen, you'll find out that most of those being touted as having their, for example, 'first anal sex' have been in the Adult Industry for years and were very likely the 'anal slut of the month' on another site sometime last year.
      Compare: information at Wife. Also see: Housewife, MILF, Hot Mom, Adult Actor, Porn Star, and related.

Hermaphrodite, Hermaphrodism
      One whom is born with physical traits of both the male and the female Sexual Organs and the related condition. In many cases the decision used to be made by the mother of the child which sex she wanted the baby to be and surgery was performed to 'correct' the condition. This often led to much discomfort later in the child's life. Today in the west the child is often allowed to grow as born if there are no further complications such as urinary tract disruption. See: Androgyny, Transsexual, She-Male, Sex Change Surgery
      The term is based on the name of the minor Greek god Hermaphroditus who was the son of Aphrodite and Hermes but was turned Androgynous by another god.

Hershey® Highway
      See: Anal Intercourse, Also see: Chocolate- second entry. Is not related to the Pennsylvania based chocolate company's main access route.

Heterosexual
      Those who prefer sexual activity between the male and female of the species over any other sexual relationships. Also items and subjects of interest to those involved. See: following entry.

Heterosexual Genital Intercourse
      Sex between a Male and a Female and those who prefer that activity over any other sexual relationships. Also items and subjects of interest to those involved.
      The actual sex act itself. Usually refers exclusively to the Penis Penetrating the Vagina, not to auxiliary activities such as Oral or Anal sex.
      Fucking.

Hide the Sausage
      An example of a term used by Erotica writers and Pornography producers when they are trying to 'be cute'. (Note: Your Good Brutha has NEVER used the term!) Such terms generally are not accepted into general use.
      In this case, the term is usually used to mean Heterosexual Genital Intercourse (Fucking). See: Intercourse and another example at Pumping Poop.

High Beams, Headlights
      Electric lamps used for night driving which are somewhat brighter, usually by almost double the candlepower, and aimed at a point or points further ahead of the vehicle giving greater illumination and thus safety. Most states require the switch from 'brights' to low beams when another car is approaching so as to not temporarily render other drivers 'night blind'.
      As used in this context (not automotive) a woman's excited and erect nipples visible through her clothing. Said condition usually does not indicate sexual excitement, but a change in temperature, embarrassment, or in some cases, even anger as a rise in blood pressure may cause it as well. See: Nipples, Breasts, Tits and etc.
      Most famous example may be Marilyn Monroe's nipples as visible in several of her movies and appearances as being almost always erect. However, this was a bit of subterfuge on Ms Monroe's part as she sewed pearls into the front of the cups of her brassieres and other costumes knowing full well the amount of attention such a detail would command. It worked. See: Sex Symbol, Bombshell.
      Causing said excitement in the Nipple is the reason those who douse the contestants in Wet T-shirt Contests with ice water. It is very effective.

Hippie (Hippy), Hippie Chick
      The group that inherited the mantle of the previous group of young people, the 'Beatniks' who strived for social change in the fifties and early sixties. Except the Hippies added more Sex and louder music to the mix. The girls, ranging in age from mid Teens through late twenties would add their bodies to the Sexual Revolution which incorporated and in some ways superseded what the Hippies were doing.
      In general the Hippies were about 'peace and love', with meaningless slogans like 'flower power' and 'peace out' being thrown around almost ad nauseum. The Hippies lost much of the power intrinsic in their numbers due to conflicting ideals and a loss of focus (pun intended) between those who were heavy into drugs, and the political activists among them who were indeed out to change the world. And they would change the world, only they'd do it twenty years later as they grew up and took their ideals into the halls of power in DC and elsewhere as political liberals.
      See: relevant quote at Turn On.
      Also see: Free Love, Summer of Love, Go Go Girl.

Hite Report, Shere Hite
      Ms. Shere Hite (born 1942) is one of the primary founders of the feminist view of human sexuality. Her research consisted primarily of questionnaires of anonymous respondents instead of direct observation of individuals, as Masters and Johnson had done. Much of her work, including her book The Hite Report has been discredited by others in the field. See: Sex Research, Sex Education, and related topics.

Hitting On
      Flirtation or Proposition (see both). Especially seen in bars and Singles events like Mixers. Usually a slightly less sophisticated, more direct, and not quite as elegant as one would expect from, say, Cassanova, which see. But not usually a style where the remarks and comments are overtly sexual and even slightly Crude.

Ho, Hoe, Hole
      A woman, and especially her Vagina.
      For this Glossary: Massively degrading term used by rappers and those who think like them to describe women as an object or possession. Term refers specifically to the Pussy and the woman's value as based on said body part, akin to calling her a 'Cunt'. Has been adopted by the community as a generic reference for women, although the meaning is still there. Compare: the underlying meaning of Virtue although 'ho' has nothing to do with the woman's Virginity or lack thereof. Also Compare: Fuckstick.
      Use of the term outside of the world of hip-hop and rap is usually considered sexist, demeaning, disrespectful, and otherwise insulting. See: Slang. It is worth noting here that this listing is the ONLY time Your Good Brutha has EVER used the term. Also see Skank and related.

Home Run
      Related to the "Bases" which see, the equivalent to having Sexual Intercourse. See: Fucking, "Going All The Way".

Homoeroticism
      Erotic works geared to a predominately Homosexual audience, most usually for a male homosexual audience although the term applies equally to Lesbian material. See: "Gay For Pay" and related topics.
      A situation which is geared to use homosexuality to excite those in the audience. Also applicable to a situation where the homosexual aspect is meant to humiliate those involved, especially if they are men, as with many Hollywood movies having Misandristic or Feminist themes.

Homosexual
      The Sex Act between persons of the same Sex- female and female, or male and male, and those who prefer said Sexual Activity. Also adult material dedicated to said audience featuring settings and events of interest to them. See: Straight, Metrosexual, Punk, "Gay For Pay", Bender (as slang), Closet, "Natural Use of the Woman", and related.
      The definition does include those who prefer Sexual Activity with those of their own Sex, but do not act on such preference. See: Homosexual Tendencies.

Homosexual Intercourse
      In most cases: Male Homosexual Anal Intercourse. Also applicable to lesbians with strap on, but said use for the term is all but unheard of. See: Top, Bottom, Anal Intercourse, "Gay For Pay", "Natural Use of the Woman".

Honey
      Natural sweetener produced by bees from flower nectar. Sometimes stored in a dedicated 'pot'.
      For our present work here, one of an almost endless list of terms for the Vaginal fluids released when a woman is Sexually Aroused. Especially when said excitement is due to Cunnilingus. See: Honeypot, Arousal, Lubrication, and related terms

Honeymoon
      Overhyped holiday away for newly married couple after a Marriage ceremony. Most usually both parties are too exhausted from the events of the day to do more than sweat nervously with Performance Anxiety (which see) and over-anticipation of either how great or how horrible the Wedding Night will be to Consummate the marriage. Lavish expensive Wedding ceremonies, receptions, and honeymoons have probably led to a large number of annulments and Divorces afterward. The best way to take a honeymoon is to wait until six months or a year after the Wedding day. See: Trousseau for more on why.
      Believe it or not, the question as to whether or not the Bride's mother should accompany her on her honeymoon WAS considered reasonable not all that long ago in several Western traditions. See: Mother in Law.

Honeypot
      Various uses. Including an actual container for the product of bees, and a trap set in computer networks that looks like an information loaded soft target to alert the network administrator of an intrusion by hackers.
      For the term used in reference to a Lover see: Pet Name, Diminutive, Sweet Nothing.
      The term is also used occasionally to refer to a woman's vagina and especially its ability to produce sweet secretions when she is Sexually Aroused and Lubricating. See: Honey and related terms there listed. Your Good Brutha has never used it as such.

Hoochey-Coochey (spellings vary), Hoochey-Coochey Girls
      Phrase used to describe the Middle Eastern Dance also called Belly Dancing, and the dancers themselves, in Burlesque theaters. Most famous example was Little Egypt at the 1893 Chicago World's Fair. The veiled sexuality of the phrase and its inherent Double Entendre probably sold as many tickets to the performances as anything else. See: related terms.
      Today the phrase is reminiscent of the catch words used by Charo (born... well... sometime between 1940 and 1955), "Cuchi cuchi", and meaning much the same thing. (NOTE: Charo's birth name is: María del Rosario Pilar Martínez Molina Baeza Rasten. we'll stick to 'Charo')

Hooker
      Slang phrase for a Prostitute, usually used in terms of a Streetwalker. Implies a female who has male clients, but the term is not Sex or Sex-Act specific. See: Prostitute, Call Girl, John, Trick, Tipplezone, and related terms.

"Hooker with a Heart of Gold"
      Romanticized idea popular in fiction and to some degree in real life, see Xaviera Hollander as an example, where a 'Lady of the Evening' behaves nobly or acts charitably in a way which would otherwise not be expected of her. Term has also been applied to Politicians when they don't act like Assholes and do something decent. See: highlighted terms as well as Prostitute and related.

Hooters
      Multiple Uses:

• A chain of "soon to be relatively famous" restaurants featuring chicken wings, hamburgers, and a very good steamed seafood sampler platter, founded in 1983 and based in Georgia and Florida. The chain's waitresses are required to wear an 'All American Girl' uniform of shorts and a halter top. The name as it applies to over 400 "tacky, yet unrefined" restaurants is a registered mark of Hooters of America, Incorporated and Hooters, Incorporated.
  
• A 1980's era rock band from Philadelphia whose greatest hits were "All you zombies" and "And we danced" with its chorus that seems to be in the general theme of this Glossary:

  "And we danced, like a wave on the ocean, romanced, We were liars in love and we danced, Swept away for a moment by chance. Yeah, we danced and danced and danced"
  Lyrics by Hyman and Bazilian, Album Nervous Night, Columbia Records, 1985

        The band has recently reunited and is touring again to support their new album Time Stand Still. See more at: Dance.
  
• A term used to describe forum 'dayowls' on outlets such as EuphoricArythmia.com who check in on the board by 'hooting' in a designated thread.
  
• Yet another slang term for the female Breasts, which see, pun intended.

Horny
      Usually taken to mean one whom is Sexually Aroused, or wishes they were. Compare the British term: Randy, also see Turned On. This is a different phenomenon from Sexual Addiction, which also see.
      Appears to be descended from the obsolete slang term for an Erection as a man's "horn" which was in use around the time of the American War Between the States.

Hot
      Usually means Sexy, which see. Also used to describe a temperature somewhat higher than the normal human body.

Hot Chat, Hot Phone Lines, Phone Sex, Party Lines, '900' or '976' Numbers
      Once a fad and staple of the advertising section at the back of magazines and late night commercials featuring gorgeous female, and male, models who were in suggestively delicious poses and enticing lingerie in exotic locations just waiting to talk to you. The reality was often much less glamorous as people, and sometimes elderly people (or those who were less attractive than the models in the ads) who were able to sound young and sexy and 'give good phone', would sit in call centers to keep callers on the line as long as possible, often at rates over two dollars or more a minute, said numbers often began with a '900' area code or had '976' for a local exchange.
      Some lines were 'party lines' which supposedly featured the same gorgeous models who were sitting home alone with nothing better than to do than to talk to you about their fantasies. Again, the goal was to keep the caller on the line to generate the most profit. Some more clever providers use voice recognition software and a computer generated voice response to 'talk' to callers without having to pay an old woman who gives great phone to sit and talk.
      As an essentially unregulated service, such outfits can charge exactly what they please, and bill it to you through your regular telephone bill where you have little recourse but to pay whatever outrageous charges so generated as you DID place the call and are therefore legally obligated to pay the bill.       Also online text and voice based 'chats' where people engage in explicit sexual discussions. See: Cybering.

Hot Coffee
      Common caffeinated beverage usually consumed in the morning.
      Somewhat silly slang term for Sex, especially Fucking, most usually in a One Night Stand or other Casual Sex.
      Also, scene from a 2004 video game which ignited controversy and legislation and added fuel to the Ratings system for video games, see E.S.R.B.
      In the 'hidden' sub game, the hero of the saga (the player) could Date various women, if the player completed certain objectives involving gifts and making a good impression, the girlfriends then rewarded him with game benefits such as additional life or weapons, and the opportunity to engage in Sex with them. The C.G.I. (see Computer Generated Image) graphic was in no way explicit, and the nudity was almost comical, however, it was the scenes very existence in the game that caused the firestorm. Later patches either removed or disabled the in game module. See: highlighted terms, especially the E.S.R.B., Ratings, and related.

Hot Mom
      Usually a young woman who is still Sexy in spite of having had children . See: M.I.L.F., Wife, Amateur, Reality, Lady, Cougar. Compare: Stepford Wives.
      Niche porn with said women as the primary subject. For why the model may not have ever have given birth, see further information at Wife and Reality.

Hot Wax Treatment
      (painful) Hair removal process using melted wax. Now the subject of intense political debate in New Jersey. See: Waxing, Shaving, Pubic Hair.

Hotpants
      Poorly defined term for any of the following when worn by pretty young women: tight mid-thigh to mid-calf slacks made of a clingy material, shorts that are slightly longer than Short Shorts of the Daisy Duke variety but still considered shorts, skin tight slacks of any style which highlight her figure and show Camel Toe. Argument could be made that it is the woman that makes the pants 'hot' and not the other way around, as anything on an ugly woman simply is not 'hot'. See: highlighted terms.

Hourglass
      The Curves of a woman's shape or figure which resemble the old glass sand-filled egg timers. See: Stacked, Voluptuous, Full Figure, Corset.

House of Ill Repute
      Outdated term meaning any residence, or other location, where 'unseemly' things take place including Prostitution, gambling, and drug use (AKA opium den). In our present context see Whore House, Red Light.

Housewife
      Traditionally a 'stay at home mom' Also niche porn featuring them, or at least Adult Actresses who play them. And network TV Titillation shows so dedicated. See: more information at Wife about why the women billed as a 'housewife' may not actually be married. Also see: M.I.L.F. Wife Swapping, Hot Mom, Amateur, Reality, Lady, Stepford Wives.

Hug
      Holding another person close to oneself. The reasons and motivations for said expression are innumerable. The styles of said clasp range from the one which is intended to comfort a small child to that which is intensely Romantic and may be seen as Foreplay or even as part of the Sex Act itself. See: Cuddle, Snuggle, Afterglow, Personal Space, Physical Intimacy, Love, Romance, and related.

"Hugs and Kisses", "XXXOOO"
      Expression of affection most often seen in relation to Valentine's Day (which see). Childish expression of Love usually signed at the bottom of a letter to an elderly relative (such as the child's grandmother) in which the arms of the letter "X" represent the crossed arms used in a Hug, and the letter "O" the mark left by a Kiss. A statement of Romantic interest usually directed to one's significant other and is seen by many women as Romantic. See highlighted terms.
      The expression "hug, hug, kiss kiss" as uttered by Hollywood types in speeches at awards shows is absolutely meaningless.

Hula
      Ancient Hawaiian dance which has been corrupted by the tourist industry into a meaningless show put on by beautiful young women in grass skirts (not that there is anything wrong with pretty women in grass skirts mind you).
      Traditional Hawaiian Hula was done by both men and women to relate a story, offer a prayer, tell a history and so on, yet the dance itself is only part of the total communication being related, the chant or song and the music itself is also part of the story. So when somebody watching a traditional hula says something like 'the motions tell a story', they are only about half right. There is no reason to believe that any hula performed off island for entertainment purposes is more than superficially traditional and has any meaning whatsoever.
      While the majority of the Pacific island cultures have their own local version of the hula with their own traditions and styles and different names for the dance, The Hula itself is unique to Hawaii. As with other traditional and historic arts, the Hula is being preserved through efforts to capture both the motions and the meaning behind them by recording both the dances and the chants that go with them.
      Although there are some similarities to such dance forms as Native American ritual dances and the Belly Dance, there is no evidence to suggest that any of them influenced the others in historic times. See: Dancing, Belly Dance, and related.

Human Sexuality, Human Sexual Response
      General term for everything in this Glossary. Huge area of behavior and an important part of life which is totally ignored by those who are uncomfortable with the idea that their own parents had to get naked and Fuck at least once, even under the Marian Doctrine (which see). Also see Libido.
      Subject of book by Masters and Johnson, the Sex Researchers in 1966. See: Sex Research, Sexual Being.

Human Trafficking
      The modern, Politically Correct term for the international slave trade where people, adult men and women as well as children of every racial and ethnic division are bought and sold over international boundaries and across continents for everything from forced labor in diamond mines and farm fields to being housekeepers and maids for the wealthy and Sex Slaves or prostitutes. See: White Slavery, Sex Trade, Child Prostitution.
      Not only are people being traded as a commodity on both coasts of Afrika and elsewhere on the continent, but from the Orient and Central America as well. Not only are they being used as Prostitutes or working in heinous conditions in sweat shops, they are also the housekeepers and nannies in the mansions of Hollywood and New York City. It is a huge international problem that is only now being focused on by various groups.
      The BruthaDeep.com site and all affiliated sites fully support the the Virtual Global Taskforce www.virtualglobaltaskforce.com

Humble, Humility
      One of the Virtues. The idea that one puts aside ones own wants and needs to the will of others as well as not overrating ones own looks, talents, or abilities. For our work in this Glossary, those ideas would carry into the realm of Sex and possibly lead to Performance Anxiety, which see. Also see Shy, Demure, Modesty, and related.

Humiliation
      Emotional sense of feeling shame, disgrace, or the loss of status. Similar to the classic sense of the Chinese idea of 'loss of face'. Also, the state of opening of oneself up to public derision and the spite of those who have no grounds from which to speak, such as someone being chastised for dishonesty by a member of Congress.
      Is sometimes associated with somewhat mild to medium B&D and S&M practices (see both terms) where the Submissive partner is humiliated by their Dom / Master. Often through such practices such as walking on a leash to a Collar, or being made to stay one step behind and to the side of the Master, or exposing themselves in public. Others involve such things as the Sub having to ask permission to do basic things or having to eat out of a bowl on the floor.
      Other more extreme practices may include the Sub allowing themselves to be Urinated on, being bound and whipped until they beg for it to stop, being Cock Gagged until they Vomit, Gang Banged, used as a Ritual Offering, forced to lick honey off their master's foot or ass (see WAM), or other Extreme Sex practices. The act of which is sometimes accompanied by prolonged and intricate rituals and scripted speeches. Again the Sub must consent to beforehand or the entire matter becomes a Sex Crime.

Humping
      Fucking.
      Can also be used as a descriptive term for work or other movement with purpose and direction, such as a roadie pulling lighting cable (which your good brutha has done). Has been known to be used by publishers working on books to describe the furious toil they put in to get thing done, such as "I'm humping as hard and fast as I can". Also used in railroading as a method of moving cars without the use of multiple locomotives.

Hunk
      Most usually, well built and generally handsome man. Usually with the sculpted musculature of a body builder. Often overly Vain they may spend a great deal of time and money on their appearance and will often use many of the same skin and hair treatments as women.
      Said man in an Eye Candy roll on a Soap Opera or other entertainment show directed at a primarily female audience.
      Said men, especially when an actor or model, are also often Metrosexual or Gay.

Husband
      The oppressor of Married Women, which see. "Most women are one man away from welfare" according to Gloria Steinem (born 1934). She also said "Some of us are becoming the men we wanted to marry." See: Married Man, Significant Other, and related.
      Also see: Sexually Frustrated.

Hymen, Maidenhead, etc.
      The membrane-like covering of the Virgin Vagina at the Labia. In most cases normal non-sexual activity will weaken or obliterate the hymen during the girl's early years, as will the use of a tampon. It can sometimes be so tough as to prevent all penetration of the opening or even obstruct normal menstrual flow and require medical attention to remove. In the majority of cases, if the hymen is even partially present during the first sexual encounter it will give way with only minor pain and discomfort. The expression "taking her cherry" refers to this act. See: De-flowering
      The hymen is the gold standard to indicate female virginity in many countries including much of Afrika and many Muslim nations. However, it is not a reliable indicator of innocence. In extreme cases during the young woman's premarital exam, often by village or tribal leaders with no medical training who are guided only by traditions and superstition the girl who has a damaged or missing hymen may be shunned or even killed. See: Female Genital Mutilation

Hypersexuality
      Condition similar to Nymphomania, which see. Is often diagnosed in combination with other psychological conditions. May be seen in P.G.A.D., which also see. The condition can be caused by a variety of conditions including drug abuse or reaction to prescription medication and a variety of other factors. See: Sexual Addiction.
      The condition is reported as a combination of factors including a constant state of arousal without normal cause, extreme sensitivity of the pubic areas, of the Breasts and Nipples, and other parts of the body normally associated with sexual activity, as well as Spontaneous Orgasm, Ejaculation, and associated terms.

Hypocrisy, Hypocrite, Hypocrites
      The finding of fault with others when ignoring equal or greater faults within oneself. The most famous example is the remark by Christ who told the religious leaders of the time to address the issue of the board in their own eye before they look for the speck in their neighbor's eye. The point being that it is always easier to find fault in others than in yourself. As when an obese pastor rails about the congregation's lack of self control.
      Let's look at a recent example. In 2006 Nevada's Democratic Senator Harry Reid condemned several Republicans for taking campaign money from convicted fraudster and corrupt lobbyist Jack Abramoff, when he himself had received over $30,000 from the gentleman. This is hypocrisy at its best, regardless of whether or not any of those Assholes returned the money. See: Congress.
"Hypocrisy: prejudice with a halo"
Ambrose Bierce (1842 - 1914)

"I know it when I see it."
      One of the landmark rulings during the era of rampant obscenity trials was rendered in the 1964 US Supreme Court case of "Jacobellis v. Ohio". Justice Stewart wrote the below in support of the ruling that the film in question was not obscene. The movie was the French film Les Amants (the Lovers), directed by Louis Malle with Jeanne Moreau in the starring role of a doubly Adulterous wife who was even cheating on her Paramour with a much younger man. While the film was about a Provocative subject and Ms Moreau was unabashedly Sexy in the lead role, it was hardly Obscene under the blanket definition of "hard-core pornography", as the court correctly ruled. See: extensive information and other cases at Obscene. Also see: Provocative, First Amendment, Adultery, Lady Chatterley's Lover, and related.

"I shall not today attempt further to define the kinds of material I understand to be embraced within that shorthand description; and perhaps I could never succeed in intelligibly doing so. But I know it when I see it, and the motion picture involved in this case is not that."
Potter Stewart (1915 - 1985)

Innuendo, Double Entendre
      In this context, the use of one type of word or phrase to mean something totally different and most likely sexual or otherwise provocative. An example is the phrase "a roll in the hay". See: Suggestive, Racy.
      It was this kind of use that kept the television networks standards and practices Censors busy during TV's golden era with individuals like Dean Martin and shows like "Laugh In" pushing the limit on a weekly basis. The idea was best stated by Mae West (1893-1980) with her quotes: "If I asked for a cup of coffee, someone would search for the double meaning." And "It's not what I do, but the way I do it. It's not what I say, but the way I say it."

Insatiable
      In our current context: Most often a woman whose Sex Drive and overall sexual appetite is far and above what is considered 'normal' for a woman of her particular age and position. It is worth noting here and now, there is no 'normal' sexual appetite regardless of life situation as long as no laws are broken. Insatiability may involve where the woman is either unsatisfied with the stimulation or duration of normal sexual activity or desires sex more and longer than her lover can supply. May or may not rise to the level of Nymphomania in which case she may not be able to control her desire for sex. See: Nymphomania, Compare: Sexual Gratification.
      Major 1980 Adult Movie by the Mitchell Brothers starring Marilyn Chambers and John Holmes. See: those topics.

Insertion
      Penetration of an opening by an object.
      For our purposes here, Penetration of an opening with Sexual intent by anything more or less Phallic in shape. Especially if said object is not part of another person, or was not designed for said purpose, such as using a zucchini or a tennis racket handle, or a Dildo which was designed for said use.
      See: Object Insertion, Penetration, Dildo, Strap On, Extreme Sex, and other references.

Intercourse
      A town in south eastern Pennsylvania near Lancaster. Regardless of several Politically Correct online maps which have changed the name to not offend anybody.
      Commerce and other business interactions and transactions such as conducting a market where goods and livestock are bought and sold, which gave the above town its name.
      For us here and now.... Usually refers to the Penis entering a bodily orifice such as the Vagina or Anus, in some cases it is also used as 'Oral Intercourse' which is obsolete. The basic term refers equally to Heterosexual as well as Homosexual activity. The term does have legal meaning as the Heterosexual Vaginal act is considered the Consummation of a Marriage.

Intercrural Sex
      Most usually simulated Sexual Intercourse without Penetration. Literally "Fucking the Crack" which see. Also see: Dry Humping, Frotting, Mutual Masturbation, Outercourse, Tribadism.
      Is often performed to avoid Pregnancy and to reduce the risk of Sexually Transmitted Diseases. May also be done using fingers or Dildos or other objects.
      Rumor has it that this is the type of Sex Act usually done by actors for Movies and TV when actual Penetration is not shown on camera. See: Body Double, Simulated Sex Acts.

Internal Cumshot/ Ejaculation
      Unusual instance in Adult Movies when the man actually Ejaculates inside the woman, or other Receiver, during the Sex Act, as versus real world relationships where internal ejaculation is the norm and the point of the exercise, especially if the woman is expecting to become Pregnant from it. Is most often used to describe the event with the Penis inside the Vagina, but can also be used for Anal or Oral. Also applies to Homosexual activity. Unprotected sex which leads to this event is one of the riskiest behaviors for Sexually Transmitted Diseases. Has become subject of Fetishism and part of several fetishes such as Cum Swapping. See: Bukkake and related terms.

Internal Exam
      Most usually used to refer to an Ob/Gyn examination of the Internal Female Sex Organs. Particularly the Vagina and Cervix, may also include the Uterus, fallopian tubes and ovaries. Said exam may be performed Digitally, with the use of a Speculum, or with other instruments which might include lights and cameras. May also involve such procedures as a PAP smear, dilation of the cervix, ultrasound, and so on. The term also applies to a Rectal Exam, which see.
      See: Medical Fetish for other ideas on the subject.

Interracial
      Sex between people of different racial or ethnic groups. Porn made of such relationships and various fetishes dedicated to it. In some jurisdictions laws are still on the books which prohibit the 'intermixing' of different bloodlines including Blacks, Jews, and Native Americans marrying or having sexual relations with any other race. Such laws are no longer enforced or have been revoked by various court rulings. Applies equally to Homosexual sex as well as Straight and other variations. Note: "INTERRACIAL" is the correct spelling. See: Biracial, Dark Meat, Brown Sugar.

Intimate, Intimacy
      Multiple uses including a close proximity to the stage in a theater such as for Burlesque entertainment, as in "an intimate venue". Similar usage for restaurants which offer a Romantic atmosphere "an intimate setting", usually at an impressive cost for their menu offerings.
      In an Emotional context it usually means sharing ones most private thoughts and 'feelings', which may or may not change with the next high tide or moon phase. It is the act of such sharing between women which defines Feminine friendships and related Bonding.
      Also means Physical Intimacy including but not limited to Heterosexual Genital Intercourse (Fucking). Applies equally to all other types of Sexual Activity including Oral Sex. Which means President Clinton did "have Sex with that woman." (See Monica).
      'Intimacy' is usually thought of as sharing the act itself between two or more people. See: Emotions, Love, and related references to Sex.

Involuntary Orgasm
      Often an induced purely physical response to stimulation as during a Bondage (or similar) episode. Often done to women who have willingly Submitted to the treatment. In men, forced Ejaculation may not result in Orgasm. See: Forced Orgasm, Psychosomatic Orgasm, Orgasm- female and male.

Irrumare, Irrumatio, Irrumation
      Latin word meaning to "suck a penis" better translated as "to perform Fellatio".
      'Irrumatio' would more precisely be translated as "throat fucking". The past tense thereof.
      The terms apply whether or not the 'Penis' so involved is real or a Dildo or other similarly shaped object. See: related terms such as Oral Sex, Fellatio, Throat Fucking, Deep Throat, and so on. Added to the Glossary by Reader Suggestion

Ishtar / Isis
      Multiple uses, including as the title of one of the biggest box office disappointments in the history of motion pictures. The 1987 movie starred Dustin Hoffman and Warren Beatty with director Elaine May. However, the picture ran way over its production budget and took much longer to film than it should have. Thereby resulting in high expectations accompanied by bad press from the industry. Given that the movie was mediocre at best, it didn't live up to the hype and the name has now become synonymous with cinematic failure.
      For our present discussion, Ishtar was a Middle Eastern Goddess and one of those most associated with Babylon. She had a somewhat contradictory role as both the Goddess of fertility and war, for whom the inner gate of the ancient city of Babylon was named. She is equal to the Sumerian Inanna, Isis in Egypt, and Ashtoreth in the Bible. She is also seen as the pagan patron of female Sexuality and especially feminine Promiscuity as she took many lovers including the ill fated Tammuz, the harvest god. In many ways she is seen as the predecessor of Aphrodite, whose lover, Adonis, was also killed by another god in a fit of Jealousy. See: Aphrodite, Goddess, Jealousy, Promiscuity, Fertility, and related.

Jack Off
      One of an endless list of terms for self-Masturbation. As versus Mutual Masturbation. Term is specific to the male endeavor, however, some low quality Smut writers will use it to describe the female act as well. Your Good Brutha has NEVER used it that way. See: Hand Job, and related.

Jail Bait
      Most usually, a Teenage girl who cannot legally Consent to Sexual Activity with an Adult making said activity Statutory Rape. Term is sometimes is also applied to a boy, but not as often. See said terms. Also See: "Girls Gone Wild", Felony, Age of Consent.

Jealousy, Jealous Rage
      Negative reaction and associated emotions when one is faced with an usurpation of possession or the threat thereof. The loss of control over an item or other person and the related thoughts and feelings encompassing insecurity, doubt, and anger which may result in violence. The concept of a violation of trust, or betrayal is often associated with it. Most easily seen when one child has something, and another does not. Is NOT one of the Seven Deadly Sins (which see) although it is related to Envy, which is.
      The overwhelming anger and irrational action prompted by the flood of said emotions which may result in a Crime of Passion. Often depicted in dramatic fashion in movies where a jilted Lover confronts those who have broken up the relationship. The Fictional great lover Don Juan (which see) fought many duals with Jealous husbands.
      Comes into play in this Glossary in an Emotional or Sexual situation where one person is committed to the relationship and the other is not, and then they begin seeing someone else. Can involve the suspicion that someone is unfaithful even more so than the truth of the matter. The term has nothing to do with the Sexual Preferences of those involved. See: Adultery, Cheating, Unfaithful, and related. Compare: Open Marriage. See: Ishtar for historical reference.
"No lover, if he be of good faith, and sincere, will deny he would prefer to see his mistress dead than unfaithful." - Marquis de Sade (1740 - 1814, see Sadism)

Jet Set, Jet Setter
      One whom is well traveled, Sophisticated, well educated, has money, and enjoys life, presumably by flying off at a moment's notice to exotic destinations. Also carries the implication of Casual Sex and certain other Libertine behaviors that the more conservative population may not approve of. See: Rat Pack, Celebrity, Mile High Club, Playboy, and related.

John Holmes
      Legendary American Adult Actor whose real name was indeed John C. Holmes (1944 - 1988). He appeared in about 400 Adult Films, including the landmark Insatiable with Marilyn Chambers (which see), and at least one Gay film in which he was the Bottom for Anal Intercourse. He had innumerable screen names including Johnny Wadd, and Big John Stud.
      His penis measured between 11 to 14 inches depending on when and how the measurement was done, and whose hype you believe. Holmes himself boasted sixteen inches. Film evidence suggests a more reasonable twelve inch average length when fully erect. However, the organ's girth is more difficult to judge, but it was of impressive heft when in service.
      Urban legends and outright myths that involve the actor are generally more entertaining than the facts of his life and career. One was that he did nude ballet as a child, or that he had his first sex at age six, and both are untrue. Holmes also had no advanced college degrees, he never killed anybody with his penis, and he was never on TV before his adult film career. Also, the depth of his involvement with organized crime is open to speculation, but it is doubtful that he was ever more than a 'foot soldier' if he was anything at all.
      Holmes's death from complications from AIDS severely shook the industry and led several well known stars to quit the business or limit their participation. Whether Holmes was infected through Sexual Activity or through his well known drug use, including heroin, is unknown.
      See: Penis Size, AIDS, Adult Actor, "Gay For Pay", and other highlighted terms.

Johns, Marks
      In this context, the customer of a Prostitute, especially the Streetwalker or Call Girl variety. Can be of either sex as in a woman who pays for a male Escort or a Gay man hiring a Male Prostitute. Vice cops often play 'Johns' to arrest Prostitutes which raises the issue of entrapment. See: Prostitute, Trick, Tipplezone, and related topics.

"Junk In The Trunk"
      Expression used to describe a woman's Buttocks and related body parts which are unusually large in proportion to the rest of her body giving the impression that if she were a car, her 'trunk' would be over-full so the lid would not close and her cargo was budging out the sides. Can be thought of as a slightly larger Bubble Butt. which see. Also used to describe one whose Posterior is big, regardless of the rest of her body, however, this appears to be a misuse of the term. Is seldom used to describe men. See: Tush, Booty and related.

Kama Sutra of Vatsyayana
      Hindu religious book often misrepresented as the ultimate sex manual. The work does include a great deal of information on various sexual positions, some with quite fanciful names (such as the 'black bee' and the 'lovemaking of the crow'). However, it is much more than that as it instructs in social and business interactions and includes advice that for a woman to be a good wife she should practice 64 'arts' that include playing music, arranging flowers, playing board games, and evaluating gemstones and metals. It also instructs a man how to advance his career by sleeping with the boss's wife.

Kegel Exercises
      Exercises to strengthen and maintain muscles in the pelvis and pelvic floor area, especially the Vagina, and the muscles used to control the bladder and rectum. Often prescribed during pregnancy and if the patient experiences incontinence (for both men and women). The exercise is usually described as trying to draw an elevator up from the floor to between your legs using your pelvic muscles, and others. Items such as Ben Wa Balls can make the exercise more pleasurable. Sometimes Vibrators are used for internal therapeutic massage after injury.

Kept Woman / Man
      The modern version of the classic Harem, except in this case, only one, or sometimes indeed two, people are 'kept' exclusively for the purpose of the sexual gratification of their 'keeper'.
      In terms of this Glossary, an adult who is maintained in separate accommodations and whose living expenses, either wholly or partially, are paid by another person to whom they are not related to either by blood or marriage. If the two are married, and one of them is married to another person, the term is Bigamy, which see. The relationship is most usually long term, sexually based, and may or may not produce children. Occasionally the Wife will not only be aware of the existence of the other woman, she may approve of the arrangement and as long as the man maintains her lifestyle she may tolerate it for some time. See: related items as below.
      While it is more common for a woman to be 'kept' by a man, the opposite, and other variations are known to happen, and sometimes when they are exposed, it results in a spectacular trial. Especially when the 'kept' person is of the same sex as the 'keeper'. Consider both Sex For Money and Sex For Pleasure in this light.
      See: Mistress, Concubine, Open Marriage, Escort, Paramour, Bigamy, Polygamy, Harem, Affair, Sugar Daddy, Love Child, Outing, and so on.

Kinky, Kinky Sex
      There is no standard definition for what is 'kinky'. Argument has been made by various religious groups and extreme social conservatives that anything besides Missionary Position Heterosexual Genital Intercourse in the Marital Bed (under the sheets with the lights out and door locked) for the express purpose of causing a Pregnancy, is kinky. However, what may be so really kinky to you that you would never ever try it, somebody else might take as a normal weekend and an excellent way to spend time with friends. See: Weird, Fetish, and related.
      For our present purpose we shall define Kinky Sex as follows: Whatever you think it is.

Kinsey, Alfred
      First major US researcher into Human Sexuality. His reports in the late 1940s through the fifties opened the door for others to continue his research and dispel the ignorance of the subject Kinsey (1894 - 1956) found so distasteful. See: Sex Education, Sex Research, Masters and Johnson, Dr. Ruth Westheimer, Shere Hite, and related.

KISS, Kiss, Kissing
      When spelled in all capital letters: a San Antonio, Texas, U.S.A. FM radio station. Also a heavy metal rock band which featured its four members in full costume and whiteface makeup with various highlights. One of their songs Do you love me from the 1976 Destroyer album asks...

"You like the credit cards and private planes, Money can really take you far, You like the hotels and fancy clothes, And the sound of electric guitars, but ....
Do you love me?......"
Lyric by Paul Stanley, et al. Casablanca Records