The SEX GLOSSARY

Airtight
      Also known as Triple Penetration or Three Hole Sex (see said terms). A woman having sex with three different men with a different man's Penis in her Mouth, Vagina, and Anus simultaneously. By definition a Group Sex practice. Is indicated in Adult Films by such abbreviations as MMMF. Has been used in reference to the same act with women using strap on dildos or equivalent or a co-ed group working on a woman. Also part of a larger genre of Extreme Sex, which see. Also see Three In One.

Alternative Lifestyle, Alternative Sexuality
      The traditional media-defined definition is an Adult who is Gay or Bisexual or is something other than a Married Heterosexual relationship. See related topics.
      According to a reasonable argument in a Reader Letter the above definition implies a certain bias against those in the Bisexual lifestyle as in that they who are true practicing bisexuals (See Unrestricted Sexuality) have not placed artificial limitations on their expression of their own sexuality as those who are only Homosexual or Heterosexual have. Also, said reader regards the term 'Pansexual' as silly. They did not comment on AC/DC, either the expression or the rock band.
      As one Bi gentleman put it: "Being Bi immediately doubles my chance of finding a date for Saturday night." Anonymous by request.

Amateur
      One of the most misused quasi-technical terms in the language. The actual definition of the term can be stated as one whom undertakes an activity for which one is not being paid, have not been formally trained, have limited experience, or which you do not engage in on a regular basis. In short, something that is a hobby instead of a career: such as an 'amateur astronomer'.
      Now let's look at the term in regards to the rest of this Glossary.
      You would think that somebody appearing in a Pornographic video or a series of still photographs who was billed as an 'amateur' was somebody that the producer had picked up in the mall. And, indeed, sometimes that is the case. However. In the majority of instances where the word 'amateur' is used, the individuals in the scene are no more an amateur, as defined above, than they are a Nobel Laureate. If you are paying your rent as a Sex Worker and you are appearing in a Porno film, then exactly how are you an 'amateur'. This would seem to be somebody playing fast and loose with their terminology.
      The biggest offenders would seem to be both 'amateur teens' and 'amateur wife/mom' features. In the majority of cases, the women appearing under those banners are neither an amateur, a teenager, a wife nor a mother. See Teenager, Wife, MILF, Wedding Ring, etc.

Amazon
      Multiple uses, including: The river in South America and its surrounding rainforest. As well as the online book retailer.
      For our purposes we will look at the legendary female warriors of Grecian legend mentioned in various works going back to, and maybe even before the time of Homer (circa 850 BC) as they are mentioned in his epic The Iliad. They were said to have been skilled and fearless warriors who stood side by side with, as well as against, Greek soldiers in various battles. Today they are often romanticized to the point of becoming the beautiful Wonder Woman® of DC® comic book and TV show fame. Contrary to popular myth, Xena the Warrior Princess® was NOT an Amazon, although she shared many attributes with them, namely, she was beautiful and highly skilled with every weapon she ever picked up.
      Most characterizations liken the Amazons to female Spartans with certain exceptions. Amazons are said to have only mated once a year, and then only for the express purpose of procreation. If a male child was born from the union, it was usually killed. Amazons are also said to have removed and cauterized their left breast so it would not interfere with the use of a bow in battle, which assumes they were all right handed. As the Greek world widened, the homeland of the Amazons had to move so that it always remained just outside of the Grecian sphere of influence until it ended up in Asia or beyond. The first queen of the Amazons, Hippolyta, was said to be a daughter of Ares, the Greek god of war who gave her his belt to wear as a symbol of her authority.
      Accordingly, any large framed attractive woman is generally regarded as an Amazon, regardless of her skills with sword and bow. The term is usually used neutrally or even as a compliment. It is seldom regarded as an insult, at least if used correctly. See Feminine and related.

Amore
      The same word for love in Latin, French, and Italian. Other than Dean Martin (1917-1995) songs and Valentine's Day greeting cards, term is seldom used in the real world. See Love and related. See Rat Park, Naughty, and Golddiggers for more on Martin.

"When the stars make you drool just like a pasta fagiole, That's amore.
When you dance down the street with a cloud at your feet, You're in love"
That's Amore (second verse). By Warren and Brooks, as performed by Dean Martin. Released 1953. Capitol Records

Amorous
      Literally French and Italian (from the Latin) for with love or in love.
      Especially applies to acts done with Romantic (read Sexual) intent between a person and their Love Interest. Often seen in Courting behavior and as Newlyweds. See related topics.

Anal Beads
      Usually small to medium sized beads (up to an inch or so in diameter) threaded on a very strong string, or sometimes a tapered thin semi-rigid probe, used for Anal play. The beads are usually made of hard plastic or other easily cleaned material, some are even made from semiprecious stones. They are pushed into the Anus and then held there, occasionally for some time. Then the string is pulled and the beads are removed either one at a time or all at once, generating intense sensations and even orgasms. The use of Lubrication cannot be overstressed for the use of such Sex Toys. See related topics. Compare Ben Wa Balls.

Anal Fisting
      Penetrating the Anus with several fingers or the entire hand. Care is needed to not injure the interior walls of the rectum and to use extreme amounts of Lubricant. Also the Receiver must be completely relaxed for and ready to accept said insertion. As with all such practices a Safe Word should be agreed to beforehand. See Fisting, Anus, Figging, and related.

Anal Intercourse, Ass (Butt) Fucking, Greek
      Inserting the penis, or near approximation, into the Anus. Applies equally to the Homosexual act as well as the Heterosexual one. Slang terms for this act are innumerable but include 'in the back door', 'Greek style' referring to ancient Sparta, Chocolate Highway and so on. AKA Pumping Poop.
      The Heterosexual practice is an effective method of Birth Control as there is very little chance that active Sperm cells will enter the Vagina.
      Anal Intercourse, especially of the Homosexual male variety, is usually what is specified by the legal term Sodomy, although the term has been used in reference to any behavior other than 'Heterosexual Genital Intercourse' between married partners. In some jurisdictions sex between a human and animal is also called Sodomy, which see for additional information. See Man Train, Cave.
      As the internal structures of the Anus and rectum are somewhat more delicate than the Vaginal walls, care must be taken not to cause tears or injury which can lead to medical complications including infections and bleeding. For all practical purposes, it is impossible to use too much Lubrication during Anal Sex.

Anal Retentiveness, Anally Retentive
      Multiple Uses.
      Mental illness distinguished by an Obsession with the sense of emptiness or loss felt during and after defecation. In extreme cases some so afflicted become so incapacitated by a sense of mourning after a bowel movement that they will actively resist the urge to defecate, or urinate, until it is biologically impossible to not do so. The condition is usually accompanied by other underlying emotional problems. See Freud, Sigmund.
      Slang term used for one whose behavior is indicative of one afflicted with said mental illness. Also one whose overall behavior is that of a 'tight ass' or miser. Such as a person who is abnormally stingy with items that are normally freely given to others, such as complimentary pens, or who will not share in a sense of camaraderie with others, such as laughing at a humorous event.
      Is often used derogatorily to describe somebody whom is overly impressed with themselves and their own accomplishments. As in to describe a Politician or Celebrity who believes that they are better than everybody else, implying that the rest of us aren't good enough to step in their fresh shit.

Anal Sex
      Any Sexual Activity with the Anus and related body parts. See Anal Intercourse, Analingus, and related.

Anal Training
      The process of teaching a person to relax their anal sphincter to accept Penetration easily and without excessive discomfort or effort by either party. A person with a 'well trained rear' can willfully open their anus as well as have it remain dilated for some time as a Cave. See Sub, Dildo, Butt Plug, Goatse, and Etc.

Analingus
      Oral contact with the Anus. Includes Rimming the outside (areola) and Tongue Fucking where the tongue Penetrates the Anus. As the anal area is extremely sensitive to touch, this is usually regarded as very pleasurable, and if both individuals are otherwise healthy and practice a normal level of personal hygiene, the practice is considered reasonably safe in a monogamous relationship. And given that such activity is considered very Taboo, it can be quite exciting as well. Often done in conjunction with other techniques such as Darkfinger, which see. Also see other highlighted terms.
      In some jurisdictions this is considered "Sodomy" and is illegal under obsolete laws which are seldom enforced. In most cases the laws have been overturned and invalidated. For the record, Analingus is NOT Sodomy, which see.

Androgynous
      Having no Sexual Identity, or not being identifiable as either male or female, such as with a Unisex mannequin used to sell clothes. Conversely, may also mean having physical traits of both sexes. See Hermaphrodite, Transsexual

Anime, Japanimation
      Style of cartoon animation used since the nineteen teens but has been growing in popularity in Japan since the end of WW2. With the spread of game related items, such as 'Pokemon®' the genre has expanded world-wide with both audience and artists. Adult themed cartoons in the style are very popular in certain segments of the audience. Various styles within the genre are defined as to their target audience. However, those do not come under the realm of this Glossary. The term ' Japanimation' was used several years ago to describe both the style and the country of origin, it is now only used on the convention circuit to specify works created in Japan. See Hentai.
      Note of interest. In 1997 an episode of the anime cartoon 'Pokemon' triggered epileptic-like seizures in nearly 700 children. This type of photosensitivity to strong flashing lights is not unknown, however, this is the worst outbreak recorded. Similarly flashing banner ads on some websites may induce migraine headaches in some people.

Anna, Anna Marek
      Working name of female Porn Star from Poland who almost single handedly inspired an entire genre of Adult Movies and Magazines. Many young women used the name 'Anna' and variations to trade on her popularity for some time. See Lolita.

Annulment
      Legal and religious term that implies that a legally binding Marriage, in effect, never happened. In most cases if the parties have had Intercourse, the Consummation of the Marriage, an annulment is not allowed for the common people. In the case of certain powerful Catholic families, such as with various royal houses or those who are politically connected, annulments from the church have been obtained even after children have been born into the marriage.

Anonymizer
      Most usually, a software application or a web-based program which will conceal ones true IP address and other identifying information while on the World Wide Web. Such as using a personal proxy to hide the fact that you are going to gambling sites while at work. Note: you can still be traced, although the proxy does make it somewhat more difficult, as the proxy furnisher DOES know your real IP and ISP, and even billing information, and they will give it up when presented with a court order.
      Can also be used to describe the spoofing technology used to conceal Internet based 'softphone' numbers used for telemarketing from the caller ID of those being called, and similar technology used to prevent cellular phone numbers from being transmitted as well, often for similar reasons. Again, the true identity of the user can be discovered in the long run.

Anus
      External opening to the rectum and immediate surface area. Also refers to the anal sphincter, the multiple rings of muscle which surround and close the opening. The area is highly sensitive to stimulation and most people find some level of Anal Sex quite pleasurable. In otherwise healthy and reasonably clean adults in a monogamous relationship even Analingus can be fairly safe, pleasurable, and a great deal of fun for both parties. Note, whenever the anus is penetrated by anything other than a tongue, Lubrication must be used as the internal structures are somewhat more delicate than the Vagina. See related topics such as Analingus and even Dingleberry.

Aphrodisiacs and Infomercials
      For more on the subjects of Erectile Dysfunction, and Penis Enlargement, see separate listings. While the three topics are not related in the real world, they are linked in the minds of many people, and are definitely connected in the world of Late Night TV commercials and spam emails. Suffice it to say right here and now, NOTHING you buy off an infomercial or from an email is going to do anything except lower your checking account balance. For more information, read on.

      Aphrodisiacs
      Far from being the goddess Aphrodite's gift to human sexuality, most substances reported to be capable of increasing sexual desire and performance only succeeded in decreasing the purchaser's checking account balance. However, that being said, some substances do work in some people some of the time to: decrease inhibitions, increase a feeling of 'well being', increase energy levels, decrease pain or discomfort, and so on, all of which may make for a better sexual experience. Some claimed to increase the woman's lubrication or desire to be penetrated, others worked on the male organ. Most of these claims seem to be based as much on the power of suggestion or wishful thinking as much as anything else.
      Some of the better known Aphrodisiacs include the famous Spanish fly (the dried bodies of a species of beetle), oysters, animal parts, various herbs, and even chocolate. There is no medical or scientific substantiation to any of them. However, there is a great deal of anecdotal evidence behind the old saying "Candy is dandy, but liquor is quicker".
      "There is no scientific proof that any food increases sexual drive." Dr Ruth Westheimer
      Having said all of that, there are some chemicals, prescription and illicit (and illegal) drugs which can cause an Aphrodisiac-like effect. Some of these are amphetamines, cocaine, testosterone, and related substances. Some, like amphetamines, may enhance sexuality over the short term, then in the long term lead to serious complications and even death.
      The only sure Aphrodisiacs known are 'MONEY and POWER'. For evidence, do search engine search for "Donald Trump girlfriend". See Celebrity.

Aphrodite
      Greek goddess of love, beauty, and sexual Ecstasy. She was said to have been born from the foam of the sea after one or another act of violence of one god against another. Some versions of Greek mythology also make her the goddess of fertility in juxtaposition to Eros as the male attribute. See Eros, Cupid, Ecstasy.
      Other appearances by Aphrodite as essentially the same goddess include the Romanized Venus, including her birth from the sea, and the Middle Eastern Ishtar (and others) which predates the Greek version. Later on, Aphrodite/Venus evolved into several different goddesses of lesser importance. The idea that she evolved from Ishtar is supported in part by her lover Adonis being killed by a rival as was the earlier goddesses favorite lover. See Ishtar, Jealousy, Venus, Ten.

Around The World In Bed
      Multiple meanings, including an adult board game by that name which is still available to be ordered online.
      For our Glossary we will look at the Sex Play usage which involved multiple Positions for Oral Sex and Intercourse used during one Sexual Encounter. Usually consisting of much Cuddling, one then the other Kissing the other all over their body (see "Kiss You All Over") including Cunnilingus and even Analingus, Erotic Massage, and several different positions for Intercourse which may include 'Greek', as well as interrupting intercourse to resume Oral Sex several times. See Coitus Interruptus, Sex Play, Positions, Seven Minutes In Heaven and other terms.

Arousal
      Sexual excitement. The point at which the both the Penis and certain female organs (most notably the Nipples, the Clitoral hood and the Vaginal walls) engorge with blood causing an erection in the male and the distension of the female's clitoris and the vagina begins to produce lubrication in preparation for Penetration. The practice of Foreplay contributes significantly to the state of arousal in women and adds dramatically to her pleasure. See Turn On.
      In the study of human sexuality, the arousal stage is usually defined as the second of four or five stages leading to the culmination of the sex act.

Art, Artist, Artistic Expression/ Performance, Art Picture/ Film, etc.
      Multiple Meanings for all such terms.
[It is worth noting here that the definition of 'art' has nothing to do with beauty, truth, idealism, or anything else, in and of itself. The 'meaning' of any individual work is assigned by the artist to some degree, and even more so by the beholder.]

• A work or creative endeavor of any of several types which expresses an idea and/ or appeals to the senses in an intellectual or emotional way. Includes, but is not limited to works such as painting, sculpture, photography, music, live performance, or written or spoken language. The producer of said work may be an individual or a group.
• The meaning, intent, emotion, or other factor expressed by the creator or presenter of said work.
• The presentation or performance of said work to an audience or the world at large.
• A video or other 'moving picture' presentation with extensive Nudity or other Adult content. Such works depicting children or other similar images may be prohibited if found to be Obscene, as below. Even if this was not the intent of the images when the video was made, such as video of grandchildren taking a bath.
  Further Meaning as relevant to this Glossary. Also see Gauguin quote at Beauty.
• Broad terms often used to explain, or in an attempt to justify works which are not protected under the First Amendment as they have been deemed Indecent or Obscene and without 'artistic value' under the legal test, see Obscenity.

"Art is never chaste. It ought to be forbidden to ignorant innocents, never allowed into contact with those not sufficiently prepared. Yes, art is dangerous. Where it is chaste, it is not art."
Picasso (1881 - 1973)

Ass Worship
      The humiliation practice or ritual often associated with Dominance and Submission, Master and Slave and so on where the Sub is required to kiss, lick, suck and otherwise devote themselves to the Anus of the Dom or the one chosen by the Dom for said treatment. May even involve Scat Play. Yoni Worship may be involved as well if the Dom is female. See Dominatrix, Kiss Ass, Analingus, Yoni Worship, and related.

Asshole
      Elected or appointed member of the US Congress, House or Senate. We are reserving judgment on all politicians in general. See Douche Bag, Politician.
      There is no other known and accepted working definition of the term.
      Some use the word to describe the human Anus, which see, as versus a human who is an Anus. In this Glossary, we are defining the term 'asshole' as synonymous with 'Congressman'.

ATM, A.T.M.
      Multiple meanings including: Asynchronous Transfer Mode for packet switched data over T-1 and higher capacity circuits. Automatic Teller Machines which allow access to bank accounts and other financial transactions at non-bank branch locations and outside normal banking hours. And several others not related to this Glossary
      The only definition we care about here, except for the bank machine one when Your Good Brutha has to pay for his own drinks, is this one:
      Ass To Mouth. Sex Act, and Adult Movie staple in which the Receiver is first Penetrated Anally and then before the logical conclusion of the act, most usually Ejaculation, the Active Partner withdraws from their rear and then enters their mouth for the Climax. The term is not specific to Heterosexual or Homosexual activity. Also, while it is most often a real Penis that is doing the initial Anal Intercourse, it can also be Fingers, a Dildo, a carrot, or anything else capable of the action.
      This is not usually considered a Safe Sex practice although between two Monogamous partners who are otherwise healthy it is not all that risky.

Autobiography of a Flea, The
      This movie, loosely based on a nineteenth century story, starring Annette Haven, and John Holmes, directed by Sharon McNight and released in 1976 is only mentioned because its title is such a wonderful example of the "Golden Age" of theatrically released Adult Movies. The mental picture of what could be meant by the title is far better than the movie actually was. Although the period piece (costume drama) did have a plot involving a corrupt uncle and a town full of losers, and Haven, was astonishingly beautiful in one of the lead roles, the whole thing just didn't live up to its promise. However, like so many of the post ...Green Door / Deep Throat major releases, it had to have a memorable title which would bring in audiences as advertising for the films was limited, and in some locations, it was initially banned. Later, Free Speech and restraint of trade lawsuits would open up advertising avenues and spectacular titles became less important. "A pity that." -dok
      See Obscenity, Adult Film, and related topics.

Autoerotica
      Dangerous Masturbation practice in which the person disrupts either the blood flow to the brain or their intake of oxygen in an attempt to enhance the sensations felt during orgasm. The practice risks accidental death by asphyxiation, brain damage, lung collapse, or other trauma. Some who have died have been found with belts and ropes around their necks or plastic bags over their heads. While the practice has been most noted in young men, it has also been observed in young women.
      It is especially dangerous when the person uses drugs or alcohol prior to or during the session. See Death.
      Also engaged in by Extreme Sex practitioners where one partner will partially choke or asphyxiate the other during sex. Is now often depicted, or mimicked in Adult Films as a reasonable and exciting sex practice. It Is Not! In the real world it has done with the same unfortunate result as the above.

Autofellatio
      Self-stimulation where a man maneuvers to where he can take his own Penis into his own Mouth and perform Oral Sex on himself. In most cases it involves a man who is more flexible than average and has a slightly longer than average penis. Demonstrated on film by Ron Jeremy (which see).
      Is considered more of a stunt than an actual routine Sexual Practice. See Fellatio and related.

AVS, Adult Verification Service
      Online service which establishes that the customer has supplied evidence which proves that they are an Adult. Usually through the checking of the name on a credit card. Which, incidentally, proves exactly NOTHING. See Adult, Age of Majority.
      Said checking is usually to allow access to any of several types of Adult content, including Pornography, Gambling, adult products such as tobacco and alcohol, and other uses.
      Many such services are little more than profit centers for the sites they allow access to, which then claim to be free. Also, most of them are a scam and the user will find their credit card billed for all sorts of minor fees and add ons which they consented to in the fine print on the contract page.
      For more information see: the Media Desk article "The Price of FREE has gone UP!"

B.I.L.F., BILF, OILF, PILF, and so on
      Corruption of the abbreviation 'M.I.L.F.', which see. The variations can mean anything and everything depending on who is using it and how. Including Beast I'd Like to Fuck (no I'm not kidding), Oldie I'd Like..., Preggo..., Tranny... ad nauseum

B&D, Bondage and Discipline
      The binding and/or mild torture (especially Spanking) of one person by another with the consent and permission of both parties for sexual purposes. More extreme practices enter into the realm of S&M and Pain Fetishism. It is strongly recommended that those that engage in anything beyond a very mild type of B&D devise 'safe words' whose use during the session mean "stop now" in no uncertain terms. Some bondage parties will have a non-participant monitor those involved with one eye on the health and safety of the players.

Babe, Serious Babe, "High Potential Babe Factor"
      Young pretty woman, usually very attractive and sexually desirable, and probably unobtainable. Also a woman who could be a babe if she put forth the effort to enhance her appearance to become prettier or adjusted her attitude to be more agreeable, the 'potential' part of the equation. Women who are regarded as 'serious babes' usually strive to that end. See Bombshell, Sex Symbol, Eye Candy.

Babedar
      The ability in some people to spot good looking women from some distance or in unusual circumstances. See more at Gaydar.

Bacchanalia
      Specific reference to particular Roman feast, and Orgy, dedicated to the Roman god of wine. See Orgy for more.

Back Door
      Access point for a residence or other structure through something other than the primary street facing facade.
      In this context, the Anus. Most usually used to refer to Anal Intercourse as in "going in the back door". The term is not Sex Specific as far as whether the Receiver is male or female, or whether they are being Penetrated by something with or without a pulse. Also applies to the use of Tongues and Fingers as well.

Back Seat
      The rear seat in an automobile. Most popular in the Nineteen Fifties through the Eighties as a term and symbol of teenage sexuality, the back seat of a car was where more young people first explored their sexuality. Usually on a Date or after another social outing such as a Dance. Said encounters all too often resulted in unplanned Pregnancy or the passing of Sexually Transmitted Diseases. See Peer Pressure, Virgin, Become a Woman

Ball Sack
      The male Scrotum. See Testicles.

Ball Strap
      Loop of material which is placed around the Testicles and possibly the Penis to prevent Ejaculation or the loss of Erection. Overuse of said device can result in injury to the Testes from disruption of blood supply or nerve damage. See Penis, Condom, and related.

Balloon Knot, Balloonknot
      Simple overhand knot used to seal a toy latex (party) balloon once it is inflated.
      The term is also used by some webmasters as a descriptive term for the undilated Anus, most usually, the female variety prior to Penetration. Often seen on Adult Blogs (see BLOG) where nearly absolute total losers try to appear to be cutting edge and even 'hip' by using, and over using, such terms ad nauseam.
      Also occasionally seen in said context on various Fetish sites.

Balls
      Multiple uses. May mean courage as in 'intestinal fortitude' and/or confidence in oneself or abilities. For the external male organ see Testicles.

Bare Back, Bareback, Bareback Riding
      Term originally referred to horseback riding without the use of a saddle or blanket between the horse and the rider. Term is incorrectly used to refer to what Lady Godiva did somewhere around the year 1000 as there is no indication that she completed her ride with or without either saddle or blanket. See Lady Godiva, and Peeping Tom, for more.
      Term is also used to refer to any form of Intercourse without the use of a Condom on the Penis. Most often seen in Gay Porn referring to Anal Intercourse, but is also occasionally used in Straight material, often in reference to the logical conclusion of the act, the Internal Cumshot or Creampie. Unless in a long term Monogamous relationship the act is not considered Safe Sex. See Condom, Birth Control, Sexually Transmitted Disease.

Bases, Second Base, Third Base
      Outdated terms for locker room discussions about how far one 'got' or 'went' with one's date with the idea that Intercourse was a Home Run. Terms were never well defined and confusing, quite possibly intentionally. As in, which was 'Third Base'- oral sex, fingering the other person's sex organs, or something else? See Going All The Way, Making Out.

Bastard, Bastardized
      Obsolete term for child born out of wedlock. See Illegitimate Child, Love Child
      The term 'bastard' has been bastardized to mean an man of strong though generally unpopular opinions or one who is intentionally evil to others, such as a Congressman.
      'Bastardized' is used to describe changing the meaning or usage of one thing to mean something else not originally intended. See Gender, Gay for good examples.

Bawdy House, Cathouse
      Outdated terms most often used now in Westerns and other period movies and TV shows to refer to establishments offering Prostitution and other services such as gambling. See Whore House, House of Ill Repute, Red Light.

"Be fruitful and multiply."
      Biblical command to have children after the Genesis Flood, particularly in chapter nine verse one where God commands Noah and his sons to do just that. Also, in the previous chapter, the command was given to the animals that survived the flood. See Fertility, Pregnancy.

Bear
      There are a multitude of uses for the term, including at least two constellations. However, we'll only look at three of them.
      A member of the Ursidae family of Mammals, including the grizzly, brown, polar, sun, and panda bears. (Yes the panda is actually a bear and not a raccoon.) The animal is a powerful symbol in much mythology including Native American culture who regarded it as the manifestation of one of their most powerful gods. Thusly any warrior identified with one of the qualities of a bruin was deemed to be especially powerful, which included sexual prowess.
      Bear Bryant (1913 - 1983), legendary Alabama football coach who won over two hundred games as the Crimson Tide head coach (over three hundred for his entire career at four schools), took home six consensus national championships, and is listed as one of the greatest coaches of all time. As a coach, Bryant was well known for both his demeanor on the sidelines of games, his extremely demanding practices, and for fighting for most of his career to integrate the sports teams of the southern schools he coached at.
      In our current context the term is most often associated with male homosexuals who are usually physically larger than average, often heavily muscled and possibly even slightly overweight, who have a great deal of body hair almost to the point of being hirsute. The overall effect is that they may indeed appear to be a bruin as defined above instead of one of Mr. Bryant's players. Essentially the exact opposite of a Twink, which see. Also see Ron Jeremy, who was noted for his bear-ish appearance. The opposite would be Twink. Compare Lipstick Lesbian, Butch, Dyke, Masculine, and so on. Also see Adonis.
"I'll put you through hell, but at the end of it all we'll be champions."
- Bear Bryant (1913 - 1983)

Bearded Clam
      Nearly obsolete term for the external female organs, still heard in some comic routines and Lesbian porn referring to the Labia and unshaved Mound of Venus. The See Pussy, Muff.

Beauty, Beautiful
      "Trying to define the word 'beauty' with words is like trying to make a cotton ball out of cast iron. You might get a close approximation, but you'll never get the full sense of the real thing." -Dr. Leftover
      Something, or someone who is: 'beautiful' displays 'beauty' however the latter term is being defined.
      The concept of beauty has to do more with the idea of attainable perfection and the perception of pleasure and that which is Sensually satisfying (see Sensual). Also cultural ideas, in our case- Feminine beauty, are even more changeable than what a given society considers agreeable architecture or their musical taste. See Bombshell and terms related to female beauty.
      Strangely enough, beauty and Art are not necessarily related, and at times, may be at odds. While beauty is often considered art for the sake of it being beautiful, it may in fact not be art as it carries no meaning, and something that is Art, while it may carry considerable meaning, may be quite un-beautiful. Slso see Picasso quote at Art.
"Art requires philosophy, just as philosophy requires art. Otherwise, what would become of beauty?"
Paul Gauguin (1848 - 1903)

Beauty Pageant
      Most usually: A contest between young women who are judged on a variety of aspects including some or all of the following: talent, interview, public service, grades in school, overall beauty, and other more or less subjective or objective criteria. Most famous are the Miss America® and Miss USA® pageants involving single women who have won various local and state level contests in which the overall winners and various category winners receive scholarships and other prizes at both the local and national level. The overall title winner will likely compete in an international contest such as Miss Universe® pageant. Married women also have a comparable Mrs. contest at the various levels. See Babe, Sex Symbol.
      Also: Similar contests that range from local pageants such as the ubiquitous Little Miss Fire Prevention for girls ranging in age from toddler to high school, and various commercial pageants such as Miss Coppertone®. See Sexualization.
      More interesting for our present purpose are contests such as Miss Nude USA® and similar contests. Some of these have no other judging criteria other than beauty, chest size, or posing ability, others do have some talent aspect, even if said talent is nothing more than working the audience for favorable response. See Nude Model, Showgirl, Titillation, and related.

Become a Woman, Become a Man
      Most usually, the first time a Virgin, male or female, has Heterosexual Genital Intercourse (Fucks). Or when a girl begins Menstruation. Archaic and Obsolete, still used in some period Romance Novels and the occasional TV talk show. See Virgin, Back Seat, Date for more.

Beefcake
      Glamour images, especially photographs and paintings of men of body-builder caliber. The female version is Cheesecake, which see.

Belly Dancing, Belly Dancer
      Dance form practiced primarily by women wearing more or less traditional costumes while they display a number of moves which require great flexibility and control. Those who do said dance, which in the West is usually women who are in great shape and wear special costumes that are not as revealing as they appear.
      However, in its traditional home ranging from Egypt through parts of India and north through central Eurasia, the dance is practiced by both men and women both socially and in celebratory gatherings. The dance may be the oldest social dance on the planet, although dancing itself is as old as the race. It is quite possible that what we recognize as 'belly dancing' may have evolved from temple dances throughout the Fertile Crescent from Egypt through India. The Arabic name means "National" or "Oriental" dance depending on which article you read. The dance itself is indeed ancient and appears on Ancient Egyptian tomb paintings. A more Politically Correct and less emotionally loaded term for the form is "Middle Eastern Dance" which removes the connection to the dance's history with the Burlesque Strip Tease, even though traditional belly dancers remained in costume, although those costumes may show a lot of skin indeed.
      Traditionally the main styles are Raqs Sharqi Egyptian (isolated movements of one body part at a time), Turkish which can be more of a full body style, and uses the most revealing costumes, and the stylized Romani or Gypsy form which is a blend of many styles including Indian forms and which may feature a non-historically accurate 'coin bra' costume. Many of those who study the dance believe it was the Gypsies who spread and blended many traditional folk dances into what it is today. The style practiced in the US is a conglomeration of every other form with folk dance and aerobic exercises blended in as well and has been given the somewhat silly name of "American Tribal Dance".
      Today the dance is seen as everything from a form of exercise to a cultural statement. Currently several notable practitioners are working to both spread the style and promote the dance, as well as sell how-to DVDs including Ms Hale Sultan a famed dancer from Istanbul, Turkey. Photos of one of the original 'Little Egypts' as well as video of several styles of dance made by Thomas Edison before the turn of the Twentieth Century are available online. While there are many similarities between belly dancing and other forms such as the Hula and certain African tribal dances as well as Native American ritual dances there is no anthropological evidence to suggest that the forms are actually related other than they may be descended from the same basic primitive dances done by prehistoric humans.
      See Hula, Dance, Strip Tease, Burlesque, Little Egypt, Shimmy and Shake, Hoochee-Coochee, Strip Tease, Burlesque.

Ben Wa (Wah) Balls
      Medium sized to fairly large spheres, usually made of metal, hard plastic, unbreakable glass, or other substantial material, some are even fashioned of jade or other semiprecious stone. The spheres are usually inserted into the Vagina where they move independently with the movement of the woman generating moderate to intense sexual pleasure and even Orgasms during even mundane daily activity such as housekeeping. Occasionally used as part of S&M where the Sub will be obliged to retain the balls even during the most rigorous activity.
      The balls can also contribute to the overall health of a woman by strengthing the pelvic floor muscles when they are combined with Kegels and other exercises. The name 'Ben Wa' is related to the legendary origin of the device in the Orient. However, similar objects were also known in ancient India and other classic cultures. See Kegel Exercise, Sex Toy, and related

Best Man
      The male equivalent of Maid of Honor. Used to be the Groom's second if something prevented him from attending the ceremony. Now most often he serves no other purpose during the ceremony than to keep track of the ring that will be given to the bride and to sign his name as an official witness on the marriage license. It is still tradition that at fancier Wedding Receptions that he give what is known as a 'Best Man's Toast' which is often humorous, or at least, it is supposed to be.

Bestiality
      Sexual acts between humans and animals. Can also include fantasies and ancient stories (such as various gods posing as animals to seduce/rape human women) along the same lines. The actual act is illegal in most US States and the majority of other countries (see Felony), and forbidden under most religious codes, usually under the umbrella term 'sodomy'. Includes both human males and females having sex with both male and female (and neutered) animals. Also includes the fetish of Zoophilia, and variations thereof.

Bettie Page (1923 - 2008), The Notorious Bettie Page
      Cheesecake, Softcore, and Bondage and Fetish model (both also softcore) most famous during the late 1940's and into the 1950's including an appearance as the Playboy (which see) Playmate of the Month (also see) in 1951. Page, or artisitic approximations, appeared as Pinups and in Vargas-like works throughout the period. She was the first mainstream model to move to being primarily an Erotic Model, even though she didn't do explicit photos. See Pinup Art, Cheesecake.
      Page was curvy, with jet black hair, and, at least according to the profiles passed around in the shadows of the time, few inhibitions in front of the camera. However, it is interesting to note that this woman of few inhibitions did little if any hardcore (at least none that survived the obscenity trials of the time, many negatives and films were ordered burned by the courts). And according to many sources including her own website, she never did fully nude or hardcore shoots, limiting herself to topless and more or less suggestive poses, even while posing as a S&M Dominatrix or bound Submissive, or even in a Spanking scene. And it was those scenes that brought her to the attention of the US Senate's Obscenity hearings, although it is likely that most of the Senators there wanted her to spank them. When not posing by herself she was almost always in a Lesbian scene. (It is hard to believe from this far out, but it well may be true.)
      There are a few authentic photos of her which show pussy hair and hint at her labia, however, that's about it except for a rare few that were not professionally done (rumor has it she was at drunk at an after shoot party!). There are several faked nude photos of her on the web in other poses and even in Hardcore scenes, and many of them are quite realistic. But it is worth remembering that she had thick black Pussy Hair that was seldom trimmed and never Shaved and that the vast majority of her images were shot in black and white although there are a few surviving 8mm shorts of her Stripping that were filmed in color. See Eight Millimeter and other highlighted terms.
      As a nude model, Page was a master (or is it mistress?) of staring full on into the camera, and thereby at her audience, and make it seem like she was posing just for them. And in many cases, appearing to be just about to invite them to come do whatever she was doing, or maybe doing something else. Also, it was Page as much as anybody else who used garters and hose and other feminine Lingerie to great effect as heightening in her already considerable Sexuality. Page was rumored to enjoy casual nudity, although she was not known to be a Nudist, and one can tell from her photos that she was totally comfortable and at ease while naked.
      In the 1980's Bettie Page found herself as the unlikely subject of a resurgence in popularity amongst young college-educated professional women (yuppie chicks). See Yuppie.
      The Notorious Bettie Page was a 2005 semi-fictionalized documentary movie about Bettie Page's career and run-in with the Senate starring Gretchen Mol as Page and directed by Mary Harron.
      Also see Nudist, Fetish, Cheesecake, Softcore, Obscenity.

BF
      Multiple meanings including Boy Friend, Butt Fuck, Bisexual Female and so on. See individual listings

Bidet
      Personal hygiene device similar to, and often installed in a toilet, but which directs the flow of water up in a gentle, or sometimes not so gentle stream, and occasionally a quite forceful blast. Used for cleaning the genitals and anal area, and even administering a quick Douche (which see). In places where they are common, they are used by both men and women to cleanse themselves after using the toilet, some use both toilet paper as well as the bidet spray. Some units have valves for adjusting the flow or temperature of the water, and a few even contain warm air dryers, whereas some older or public restroom units have a simple handle or foot peddle for on and off and no other option. They are very effective at preventing and removing Dingleberries, which see.
      Bidets are common in parts of Europe and Asia and are now being installed in some newer homes and public facilities in the USA and elsewhere. Most people who favor them wax poetic about the sanitary good they do for those who use them, however, it also raises the question about who cleans the cleanser in a public restroom.
      The word 'bidet' is old French for 'pony' and refers to the way which one 'mounts' the bidet to use it, often facing the opposite direction from the way one sits on the toilet. Some newer units work equally well when the user faces either way.
      Fetishes involving them are not unheard of, however, they are most usually seen in combination with other 'toilet behavior fetishes'. See Scat Play.

Big Beautiful Women, BBW, 'Plumper', and etc.
      Porn and related topics related to seriously overweight and obese women (and sometimes men) and those who are sexually attracted to them. Fetish involving, and there is no other way to put it, seriously fat people, some who would be medically diagnosed as morbidly (clinically severely) obese.

Bigamy, Bigamist
      Slightly outdated term for Polygamy. Most usually thought of as one man being legally Married to more than one woman at a time, when the women do not know of the existence of the second marriage. However, there have been cases where the situation has been reversed, although is it not as common. See Polygamy.
      One who practices simultaneous marriages.
      Said practice is against the law in every US State as well as most other Western countries. It is still allowed in many Middle Eastern and Afrikan countries. See Harem.

Bikini
      Specific type of two piece swimsuit most often worn by women (the male application of the idea is a known cause of the Fantods.). The garment usually consists of three triangles of cloth, one to cover the Nipple area of each Breast (as with a Bra), and the third to cover the Pubic Mound area (Panties), all of which are secured with strings. In the vast majority of cases, these 'swimsuits' are worn as fashion statements or accessories and are NEVER actually worn to swim in. If they were, many would come apart. See Cheesecake, Softcore, and highlighted terms.
      Said item was supposedly after the Bikini Atoll in the Marshall Islands in 1946 after a series of atomic bomb tests burned the name into the public consciousness. Whether any local island woman prior to World War Two ever wore a two piece swimsuit is irrelevant.

Bimbo
      Often used neutrally or in an insulting way to describe a woman who has very little to offer except her Sexuality or as Eye Candy. Is often synonymous with airhead, Easy or Slut. Also see Cheap, Cheerleader and other such terms.
      Also used to describe those who play said part for the attention it generates. The best example is whichever Hollywood-ish young woman forgot her panties while out club hopping this week. See Celebrity.

Biracial, Multiracial
      By definition, involving two (or more) people of different races or 'ethnicity'. Most usually where the individuals are readily identifiable as being of different races such as Hispanic, Black, Asian, and White. Can mean a child of mixed racial background. But for our purposes, the term implies the sexual act that would result in such a child, although it applies equally to Homosexuality. See Interracial

Birth Control
      Various methods used with the object of preventing the woman who is engaging in Sexual Intercourse from becoming Pregnant. Some religious bodies prohibit their adherents from using any unnatural method such as a Condom to prevent Pregnancy. See Love Child and related.
      Methods include:

• Barrier Methods: Condoms (male and female) see listing, and cervical caps. The IUD is a type of barrier that prevents a fertilized egg from implanting in the Uterus. The IUD is not an on-demand method.
• Alternative Sexual Activity such as Oral (Fellatio) or Anal sex, specifically Anal Intercourse where the Penis never enters the Vagina. See related topics.
• Chemical Methods: Include Spermicidal foam and lubes used either inside the Vagina by themselves or in conjunction with other methods such as a Spermicidal ingredient in a Lube.
• Medication: Including the Pill and injections or implants for women that prevent ovulation. These Are Not on-demand methods and must be done well in advance, in some cases requiring several months to become fully effective.
• Surgical Sterilization: Including vasectomy of men and tubal ligation for women.
• Combination methods: Use both a barrier and a chemical method to trap and kill Sperm.
• Stopping: See Coitus Interruptus and Sin of Onan. When used as birth control it requires a great deal of self control, also, it is still risky as Sperm may be released before Ejaculation.
• Rhythm Method: engaging in Heterosexual Genital Intercourse only at times when, according to her Menstrual Cycle, it is believed that the woman is highly unlikely to become pregnant. This method Is Not Effective due to the fact that Sperm can easily survive inside the woman for up to a week after sex. See Semen
• Abstinence: The only one hundred percent effective method. See separate listing.

Bisexual, Bi
      Person that has sex with those of both sexes either as a couple or in a group situation. Also, erotic material featuring said practice and/ or catering to said audience. Also known as 'AC/DC', 'swinging both ways', etc. Some regard bisexuality as the truly 'Enlightened' sexual identity see reference at Alternative Lifestyle, also see Yuppie Chick. Compare to Pansexual and Metrosexual. See Unrestricted Sexuality, AC/DC.
      It is interesting to note that bisexuality is usually more accepted among women than it is men.

Bishojo
      Niche of Japanese and H-games featuring extremely pretty and sexy girls in the heavily idealized and stylized Anime/ Hentai fashion, which are often pornographic. Usually without the violence of the other genres. The style has spread beyond Japan, but the name has stuck. See Hentai, Anime and so on.

Bitch
      Female dog, usually of breeding age or older who has not been spayed.
      For the purpose of this Glossary: A woman who hates being a woman, loathes sex, despises pretty women who enjoy being a woman and like sex, and cannot stand men in general and men who enjoy pretty women in particular, see Catty. And one whom would never willingly engage in the next entry. For example: Hillary Clinton.
      When used as a verb 'to bitch' or 'bitching', nagging, excessive complaining. Usually done by an adult female, which would make her 'a bitch who bitches'. See Wifely Duty for example.
      Also used to indicate 'ownership' of a Bottom in Homosexual relationships, especially in a prison setting where a Dominate man will have 'his bitch', or sometimes several of them. See Punk, Forced Feminization, Sissification, and related.

Black Mass (Sex in the)
      Ritual and associated worship of Satan as dictated by works developed by Anton LeVey (1930 - 1997) under his "Church of Satan".
      The usual ritual is somewhat theatric, although more mundane and even dull when compared to what is depicted by Hollywood. But it can, and does, often involve an actual Sex Act between the 'priest' and a Submissive woman who is offering herself up as a symbolic sacrifice to Satan by letting the priest Fuck her on the alter. See Sub, Sex Magic, Tantra. Compare Sacred Sex.

Blaze Starr
      One of the most famous strippers of the 'modern era' of Burlesque. Her fame was as much through her association with Governor Earl Long of Louisiana in the 1950's and buying her own club in Baltimore as much as her on stage dancing.
      Given her 1932 West Virginian birth name of Fannie Belle Fleming, there is little wonder why she worked under the professional name 'Blaze', which both referred to her flaming red hair as well as her vivacious personality which was nearly as over the top in her private life as it was on stage.
      See Burlesque, Stripper / Striptease, Terpsichorean Ecdysiast, Dance, Adult Entertainment

BLOG, Sex Blog, Adult Blog, Porn Blog, Etc.
      Variations on the 'Web Log' theme which are essentially an online diary.
      Said 'blogs' feature diary like entries of sexual exploits (both real and imagined), as well as images or short videos of a private and personal nature, which are often of poor quality as they are often taken with cel phone cameras or Webcams. Others of this stripe review various types of Adult Entertainment, other websites, even rating and ranking the Call Girls available in Washington DC.
[For our present purpose, we are speaking of only those 'blogs' with Adult Content, but the following conclusions can be generalized to the wider genre.]
      Most presences on the Web, blogs and otherwise, are subject solely to the control and whim of their respective owners and webmasters without 'peer review' and other fact-checking. As is the case with Your Good Brutha's site (which is NOT a BLOG, damnit) as well although Your Brutha and the Doktor make every effort to present accurate information, especially in content such as this Glossary.
      However. There is no guarantee that anything written in a 'blog' or any photos presented therein is in any way factual or accurate. There is no editorial review or outside body which certifies said content. Which is why the disclaimer that appears at the bottom of this page, and is reproduced here as an example, should be applied equally to all 'blogs' and a majority of other websites without editorial review boards, including this one.

The Sex Glossary is presented as both an educational tool and an entertainment vehicle. This work is intended to be a brief explanation of the various topics and is NOT exhaustive nor academically authoritative on any one given topic. No Medical or Legal Advice should be inferred from any content in this work or, indeed, from anything on bruthadeep.com or other related sites. All material presented is believed to be accurate at the time of posting. Some definitions are by nature subjective and subject to personal interpretation, other definitions may be equally valid.

Blow Job, BJ
      Oral Sex performed on a Penis. Term has been used to refer to Cunnilingus, although most usually in jest. See Fellatio.

Blows
      Two primary uses.
      When used to describe something like a TV show or a sports team's season, it means the object being so described is really lousy.
      Fellatio.

Blue Balls
      Fictional condition related to Sexual Frustration, which see. There is no medical evidence that a lack of Sexual Activity results in any changes to the Testicles.

Blue Laws
      Outdated and, most of the time, unenforceable laws, often still on the books, which prohibit certain activities, at certain times, or by certain people. In many cases violation was a 'status offense' or misdemeanor which carried little if any penalty, but was more of an annoyance fine. Historically, under Jewish law almost everything was prohibited on the Sabbath. We can thank everybody from Constantine to the Quakers and Puritans (who reportedly posted their laws on blue paper) for banning certain things on Sunday or in a particular location, such as near a school, church, or cemetery.
      A good example is the local regulation, found in many small towns, that prohibited the sale of things like Pantyhose on Sunday mornings as somehow immoral. As is the case in parts of New Jersey. In this case, the town of Bergen:

"On Sunday, the law says, it is unlawful to sell clothing, linen, lawn mowers, lumber, pantyhose and just about anything else except food, fuel and pharmaceuticals. Work may be done only for "charity or necessity." In Paramus, which has its own local blue law, the lawyer for the Borough Council goes to his office at the risk of a summons."
nytimes.com

Blue Movie
      Obsolete term for an Adult Movie which usually appealed to a male audience. Also see Stag Film.

Body Art
      Alterations to and decorative work done on the body. See Tattoo, Piercing, Branding for permanent alterations. See Body Painting for temporary.

Body Double
      Actress, or on occasion an actor, hired to appear nude on camera instead of a Celebrity who is either too shy, or who feels they are above having to do such a thing. Rumor has it that several of the best known names in Hollywood have hired doubles to do their nude scenes, then lied about it to the press and their fans by claiming that it was them. If this is indeed true, said celeb should have to refund everybody that saw their movie what they paid for their ticket. See Full Frontal Nudity, and related topics.

Body Language
      Nonverbal communication based on facial expressions, gestures, tone of voice, overall body carriage, and even pheromones. May even involve some level of telepathy if you read the right articles.
      For our present purposes. This is how you can best tell if a woman is interested in having sex. See Arousal, Sexual Excitement, Coy.
"I speak two languages, Body and English." - Mae West

Body Painting
      Covering all or part of the body with non-toxic paint or stage makeup for a limited amount of time. Said images may include paint which resembles swimsuits or sports uniforms, fanciful designs, or even animal skin patterns such as zebra stripes. Also Softcore and Hardcore images of people with said artwork on them, whom usually happen to be pretty young women. Most paints so applied can be removed with a good long shower. See Nude Model, Tattoo.

Bombshell
      A woman whose beauty, sexual desirability, attitude, ?talent?, and overall presence cannot be ignored or disregarded by even the most staid and self-righteous of people, men and women alike. One of the best examples is Marilyn Monroe (1926 - 1962). See Babe, Sex Symbol, Stacked- reference.

Bondage
      Restraining a subject for the sexual gratification of either or both. If the subject did not volunteer with informed consent there could be legal repercussions from the act. See B&D

Bonding
      An emotional connection. In infant animals, it is better expressed with the term 'imprinting'.
      When discussing adult women's friendships, the bond is predominately and emotional response evoked by women's tendency to Confide in each other various secrets and feelings. In this case, the bonding can be done almost spontaneously with a total stranger in a public restroom as they talk to each other, or take a period of decades doing, pretty much the same thing. With adult men, a 'bond' of that nature may never occur even though they have known each other for many years and consider each other a friend.
      In general with humans it is usually seen as the period where a friendship or other personal connection is made. It is used incorrectly, and somewhat stupidly, during 'team building' exercises where people stand around and sing songs or dress up in paper hats and clown-ish bow ties. Also, it has NOTHING to do with adult men sitting around a campfire lying to each other about what they did in high school.

Boobs
      One of an innumerable list of terms for the female Breasts, which see.

Booty
      Spellings vary. Most usually refers to the Buttocks of a woman who is energetically Dancing, as in "shake your booty". Also term for Getting Laid as in "get some booty". Compare Bubble Butt.

Bottom - Top
      Most often refers to the roles practiced in male Homosexual Anal Intercourse and is not usually used in Heterosexual relationships. The 'bottom' or Receiver is the one being Penetrated by the Top or Active Partner. Other terms used include: 'pitcher - catcher', 'driver', and even 'boy - girl'. Most usually the participants will reverse roles and today's 'top' will be tomorrows 'bottom'. The terms 'Top' and 'Bottom' and related are used no matter which physical position (side by side, standing, receiver on top, etc) is used for the sex as it refers to the Anal Penetration.

Box
      Re-closable container. Most usually one that is made of cardboard or plastic that is square or rectangular, may have a removable or hinged lid for access to the interior.
      Slang term for the Vagina, which see. Is often generalized to mean the woman herself.

Boyfriend
      Male friend, implies but does not implicitly state that the relationship is physical, as in, that the couple is Fucking. Relationship may be Heterosexual or Homosexual or some other variation.
      The text messaging abbreviation 'BF' has other meanings in common usage, see BF.

Bra, Brassiere
      Women's intimate apparel, specifically the undergarment designed to support the Breasts. Devised from the older and larger Corset, which see. In most cases composed of nylon, cotton, elastic bands, and perhaps some lace, fastened with hook and eye or other means. Athletic versions may include team colors or special padding. Prosthetic versions are available for medical needs.
      The source of lowbrow humor on laugh track TV shows for years beyond count. Also an object of fascination and obsession for some men including Transsexuals and Cross Dressers. Entire catalogs of women's garments in men's sizes, including some very large sizes, are available, often with large price tags to match.
      Several varieties of bras exist which enhance a woman's Cleavage, in some cases to comical levels.

Bracelets, Trophies, Tokens, etc
      Items earned or given as a result of sexual activity. May include cheap bracelets, charms, or other jewelry often of different colors or with specific shapes or markings indicating what was done or with whom it was done. Applies many to girls, but is has also been seen among gay and straight boys. According to urban lore, one color of bracelet or other token would indicate oral sex, another for anal, and so on. Regardless of 'parenting' websites to the contrary, there is no standardization of colors, so if a red item in Boston means the teen gives head, in Chicago it might mean the wearer was gay, while in another area it could mean they were a virgin. However, wearing said items Does Not Mean the person has done anything at all, they could simply be a tacky fashion statement.
      Occasionally one or the other party, or both, will keep a 'trophy' of their Sexual Conquest such as their underwear, a photo of the person, or other item. This is quite common among groups of young men, such as in a fraternity or other club, and even among women in similar environments. Along the US - Mexico border, some human smugglers keep trophy trees which are decorated with the undergarments of the women that have paid them with sex for the trip into the US.
      The practice is loosely based on the Native American practice of 'Counting Coup' where a warrior would sneak into an enemy's camp and either leave an item, steal something of the enemies, or even touch or mark the enemy himself, thus earning a 'coup' without violence. Once the coup was earned, the warrior would display a feather or other item indicating their accomplishments. Much the same as today's soldiers wear ribbons indicating bravery or special service.

Branding
      Traditionally, the actual permanent scarring of the skin with a hot iron, see Tattoo- body art reference. Most usually the iron is configured into a letter or symbol. Often used by fraternities to permanently mark their members. Also used in Dom/Sub relationships to indicate the willing Submission and subservience of the branded partner. In other circumstances a purposely designed branding iron is not used and instead the device used is a red hot wire coathanger, a coin, or other item, which raises the risk factor even more. Branding is inherently dangerous, risking serious deep tissue damage, infection, necrosis, and other complications as human skin is much thinner than bovine skin.

Breast Enlargement / Enhancement
      Surgical or other artificial means used to increase the relative dimensions, including chest measurement, cup size, nipple size and location, and other attributes of a woman's, and indeed, sometimes a man's, breast area. Most notably seen with models and Adult Actresses who believe that huge tits will make them more marketable, see quote below.
      Also includes Sex Change Surgery for Transsexuals.
"Big Tits Sell." Harrison Marks (1926 - 1997)

Breast Milk, Breast Feeding
      The suckling of an infant at the Breast of a Lactating woman. See La Leche League and related topics.
      Also, niche and Fetish related material to Adults behaving as nursing Infants with a woman who is producing milk. See Infantile Fetish.

Breast Self-Exam
      Breast Self-Examination is recommended to all women and girls who have begun Menstruating to detect lumps or masses that may be breast cancer. The usual practice involves the woman gently manipulating one, then the other breast with the opposite hand while in the shower or laying in bed. The method is remarkably effective when done on a regular basis in the detection of irregularities. Several excellent 'do it yourself' guides are available online from reputable medical establishments. See Vulvar Self-Exam

Breasts
      Secondary female sexual characteristic, milk producing organ as in 'Mammaries'.
      Objects of considerable attention, fascination, and almost obsession by a large number of men whom may not have been properly weaned given their expressions of ravenous hunger when they see a large pair of the organs, even if said objects have been surgically enhanced to near comical proportions. Said obsession is not limited to men but is also seen among women who take extreme measures to increase their own bust size, even when there is no male in their life who wishes them to do so. See Cleavage.
      The source of Hugh Hefner's fortune. For other uses, see related topics such as Tit Fucking, Lactation, Nipple, Breast Feeding, Etc.

Bride, Bride To Be, New Bride
      The Woman who: is getting Married, will be getting married, has just been married. And that's enough on that subject.
      See Wedding (various listings), Trousseau, Bride's Maids, Honeymoon, Newlyweds, and so on.
      Also, 'wedding porn' where the women are dressed up as brides. Very little of said material is authentic unless it is the occasional candid Upskirt or other type of accidental shot. See Hot Mom, Housewife, Fetish, and related.

Bride's Maids, Maid/ Matron of Honor
      The female members of the bridal party who accompany the Bride and stand with her at the ceremony.
      The maid/matron of honor is the female equivalent to the Best Man and will usually hold the bride's bouquet and attend to her other needs before and during the ceremony, and possibly at the reception. Lifelong friendships between young women have ended over who was chosen to be whose maid of honor at whose wedding. She is often also the second official witness on the marriage license. The 'maid' title means she is either unmarried or is younger than the Bride herself. An older woman, or one who is married, are usually given the title of 'matron of honor'.
      The other bride's maids serve no significant purpose at modern weddings and their numbers are usually nothing other than a status symbol, especially when there are more than four or five.
      Rumors that bride's maids are 'easy pickings' at receptions for Casual Sexual encounters are somewhat based in reality and do have some truth to them. This is especially true when there is a large number of them and some may feel slighted over some triviality. Plying an offended bridesmaid with booze and compliments may indeed be all it takes to get her out of her pastel dress.

Broken Heart
      The profound, indescribable sadness felt when something irreversible has occurred, such as the Death of a loved one. The casual usage as when somebody says they are experiencing this emotion over the cancelation of a TV show is incorrect and trivializes its true nature which, in fact grief so deep and so overwhelming that it can kill. See Heartbreak.

Brown Sugar
      Most usually refers to attractive young black woman, especially those of a skin tone akin to 'brown sugar'. May or may not refer directly to committing a Sex Act with said woman. See Dark Meat
      Most famous reference is in the 1971 song by the Rolling Stones. The lyrics to the song include unmistakable reference to Cunnilingus in the chorus...

"Ah brown sugar how come you taste so good
(a-ha) brown sugar, just like a young girl should."
Album: Sticky Fingers lyrics by Mick Jagger and Keith Richards. From Rolling Stones Records.

Bubble Butt
      Most usually, female 'tush' which has smooth round cheeks that are slightly protruding yet firm and lack obvious cellulite. Term is entirely subjective as depending on the pose, most women who are not obese can achieve something of a 'bubble butt'. See Booty, Ass Cheeks, and related.

Buggery
      Obsolete term referring to either Fellatio or Anal Intercourse, especially of the Homosexual variety. The term also had a legal standing but has since been replaced, in most jurisdictions, with slightly more technical language. Was also used to cover sex with animals, and, according to one floating news article, sex with furniture.

Bukkake, Cum Shot, Money Shot
      Most usually seen in Adult Movies, the practice involves a Submissive partner who is Ejaculated on by one or more men who may or may not be engaged in direct sex with the subject, as in, they are Masturbating themselves with the goal of cumming on the waiting passive partner.
     The infamous 'cum shot' of the adult movie world is also called the 'money shot' and at one time was thought to the be highlight of the movie. Fascination with the event has resulted in the niche world of 'Bukkake'. See Cum, Ejaculation, Facial, Fletching.

Burlesque
      Usually thought of as a Vaudeville type of Adult Entertainment featuring really bad comics and lots of pretty women who seem to have forgotten at least part of their costume performing in Naughty skits and short plays as well as Stripping. See Terpsichorean Ecdysiast, Teasing, Showgirl, Exotic Dancer, Stripper, Belly Dancer, Little Egypt, and related.
      Said common knowledge isn't wholly accurate. For example, Red Skelton (1913 - 1997) got his start working the shows, and his comedic talent is legendary. See quote below. One expression that has survived from those times is the phrase 'top banana' to mean the highest ranking person in a group, making the next person in the pecking order the (comedic pause) 'second banana'.
"I'm nuts and I know it. But so long as I make 'em laugh, they ain't going to lock me up." - Red Skelton
      Historically burlesque had its beginnings in the 1840's and 50's in Britain, some time before Vaudeville began in the US. The actual word is a verb, 'to burlesque something' means 'to satirize or make fun of' whatever it is. In this case, the upper classes and that peculiar animal- the British way of life. The genera leapt the pond and took roots in the US in 1868 when London star Lydia Thompson and her group brought it, and her "British Blondes", to America to great acclaim. The primary attraction was comic plays and musical reviews by the girls. Strippers, according to most histories, did not become a regular feature until somewhat later, although pretty women in risqué costumes showing a lot of skin, particularly their legs, seem to have always been part of the show. And oh, yeah, most of the "British Blondes".... were neither.
      It was the Vaudeville troupes that moved into existing burlesque theaters to make their living, and not the other way around. However, it is true that burlesque had, and has, a slightly more 'Adult Entertainment' edge to it than the 'cleaner' (a relative term most certainly) Vaudeville.

Butch
      Woman with masculine personality or traits whom may or may not be Gay. Often used as a derogatory or pejorative term, sometimes combined with Dyke which has similar meaning. See Lesbian, Lipstick Lesbian, Feminine. Also see Bear, Twink, and related.

Butt Cleavage, Butt Crack
      The fold between the Buttocks. Used as an object of ridicule when it involves a plumber, see Cleavage for example. Compare Camel Toe.
      See reference at Where the Sun Don't Shine to other usage.

Butt Floss
      Panty or other such garment which is nothing more than a thread in the back between the Buttocks and then across the hips of the wearer. See Thong, G-String, Panty.

Butt Fucking
      Anal Intercourse, see major reference there. There is no indication of the Sex of the Receiver in the term.

Butt Plug
      Anal dilator with no other functionality such as Vibrating or being able to be attached to a belt as a Strap On. Most usually tapered for easy Penetration enlarging to sometimes several inches around at the base with a 'T' handle or other device which serves as both a handle to control the plug and to prevent it from slipping past the sphincter which might require medical intervention to remove. Such devices are often used in Anal Training of a Sub. See Dildo, Figging, Vibrator, Sex Toy.

Buttocks, Butt
      The exterior of the gluteus maximus and the associated fatty tissue and skin covering. In short... on what thou sittest to readest this Glossary. AKA the Ass Cheeks, on a good looking woman: her Booty. See Butt Cleavage, Moon.

Cad
      An unapologetic Promiscuous man who seeks pleasure with women without any sort of larger relationship or commitment. Synonym with archaic use of Rake (which see) in Formula Romance Novels. See Libertine, Don Juan, Playboy, Casanova, and related.

Call Girl
      A Prostitute. Term is often considered less insulting that many of the others used for the Oldest Profession. However, 'call girls' are usually considered more exclusive and of a higher class, and therefore more expensive to hire than a typical Streetwalker. Most call girls have a list of select clients who have been referred by other clients and do not usually see those they are not familiar with or introduced to through their circle of 'friends'. See Escort Service and related terms.

Camel Toe
      The Vulva area of a woman covered and highlighted by a tight fitting garment such as a swimsuit or gymnastic leotard, especially photographs of same. In most cased only the Labia are able to be recognized, however, in some cases, especially with thinner material, the Clitoris and other structures may be discernable, although not directly seen. The term is from the supposed resemblance of the Vulva so covered to a camel's foot. See Gap and related terms. Compare Chastity Belt.

Candy and Flowers
      Traditional gift from a man to a woman he is Dating or Courting. Considered extremely Romantic by most women and traditionalists as both gifts are more or less harmless and non-threatening in a Sexual way, such as a gift of lingerie would be (unless the woman is allergic to them!) If the flowers were red roses the gift was thought to represent love, other flowers were symbolic of friendship or slightly less intense emotions.

"Candy
is dandy
but liquor
is quicker."
- Ogden Nash (1902 - 1971)
The original line was a poem in the above formatting.

Celibate, Celibacy
      One whom refrains from the pleasure of Sexual Activity for religious, philosophical, or other reasons. Is usually considered a voluntarily decision where there is a reasonable opportunity for sex. See Vow of Celibacy. Also see Ascetic and related.

Censor, Censorship
      Essentially the editing of material by an authority to remove that content which the authority does not approve of. May be based on religious, political, or moral grounds, or on some arbitrary and capricious standard known only to the censor. Remember, in the 1950's TV network censors thought it was somehow immoral to show a pregnant Lucille Ball (1911 - 1989) on TV. See Obscenity, Free Speech, First Amendment, and related topics
      Censorship in the US has always been a sore subject, but it has made a rebound under Political Correctness which censors material before it is produced or the words spoken under the banner of intolerance by liberals and other protected classes. In the early days of TV, network standards and practices offices would pre-approve scripts or edit shows after production to enforce their own sometimes murky standards. See Political Correctness.
      The Rating system used for various entertainment media is in fact a form of censorship which must be adhered to or the producer of various works risks not having their material marketed or sold by various outlets. See Rating, M.P.A.A., E.S.R.B. and related items.

Centerfold
      Featured pictorial in a magazine, usually given a '... of the month' title with an extended article and photo spread as versus a gatefold set which is often the first photo set in the magazine. Does not have to be a naked woman, as even car magazines have 'centerfold' features. Said model is often also featured on the cover of the magazine, but not necessarily. See Playmate of the Month, Nude Model, Bettie Page, and related.
      Since Playboy (which see) made the term legendary, the word 'centerfold' itself has become generic enough that in some mass media outlets, especially entertainment TV shows and newspaper columns, it is used to mean Nude Model even if said model has never been the (whatever) of the Month and an actual featured centerfold pictorial. It is also from the centerfild that the joke of a model being "stapled in the navel" originated if she posed in the nude.

Cervix
      Muscular opening to the Uterus at the internal end of the Vagina. Despite much (badly written) Erotica to the contrary, under normal circumstances, including Sexual Intercourse and Fisting, NOTHING larger than a Spermatozoa can Penetrate beyond the cervix and enter the Womb (Uterus) without the equivalent of labor pains without doing permanent and life threatening damage to the woman involved. Even the attempt to dilate the cervix without proper medical training and instrumentation will result in debilitating cramps which are likely to end the Sex Act rather abruptly. The cervix is the usually examined during OB/GYN visits and tested for precancerous abnormalities with a PAP smear. See Uterus, Vagina, Speculum, OB/GYN and related terms.

Chaperone
      Most usually regarded as an escort for those who are Under Age or who need to be supervised for other reasons. The chaperone is usually one whom is an Adult or has legal guardianship of those they are escorting.
      In historic times the escort was present to ensure the Virtue of young women who were not supposed to engage in Premarital Sex with their suitors. The term is French for the hat or hood the escort wore to proclaim their status.

Chastity Belt
      Traditionally, a belt worn by a female which provided a physical barrier or deterrent as well as concealment of her sexual parts to guarantee her virginity or faithfulness in the absence of her protector, husband, or other chaperone. There were also male versions mentioned in various literary sources, although their actual existence is open to speculation. Truth be told, such devices were rarely used, and proved quite ineffective when they were on either sex. In the end, the belt was more a symbol than an actual prohibitive device. The belt was updated in the George Orwell novel 1984 with the sash worn by the "Junior Anti Sex League". Today the belt is invoked in some Dom/ Sub relationships.

Chauvinism, Chauvinistic
      Derogatory term for an attitude described by Feminist activists as being covertly Misogynistic or having the view that women are second class citizens, incapable of surviving as equals with men, somehow inferior otherwise. Most usually used in a phrase like "male chauvinist pig".

Cheap
      Most usually a Promiscuous person who does not require extensive wining and dining before they take their date to bed. Is often used to describe a woman who dresses the part of a said woman, whether or not they really are like that. Usually regarded as synonymous with Easy, or Fast.
"You'd be surprised how much it costs to look this cheap!" -Dolly Parton (born 1946)

Cheating
      For our current purpose: Sex outside of, and the breaking of trust in, a relationship, especially in a long term relationship such as a Marriage under the Marriage Vows. See Adultery, Unfaithful.

Cheerleader
      Traditional use is for Co-eds (which see) who make up a pep squad which appears at high school or college sporting events to lead the team's supporters in the stands in rooting for their players and raising school spirit. Often considered a separate unit from the pom pon squad which is usually more dedicated to choreographed Dance routines and is most often all female. In most cases, the equivalent group attached to a professional sports franchise will be considered a 'dance squad' instead of using the word 'cheerleader' which some Feminists consider demeaning.
      The term is sometimes used for a perky, overly cheerful, fairly attractive young woman, even more so if she is blonde, in a gently demeaning, and even disrespectful way to indicate that the woman is an airhead who trades on her looks and personality, and implying that she trades in Sexual Favors, to earn her daily bread or place in society. Often used in a way not quite so derogatory or insulting as Bimbo, Easy or Slut (see said terms).
      Those in the 'professional cheerleader' squads, and even younger women and girls on college and even high school squads often practice provocative moves and wear quite skimpy costumes which hearken back to the days of Burlesque and flaunting their sexuality. Which in some cases is borderline Child Porn when the girls are under age. When the women on the squad are indeed Adults, it can be quite Sexy indeed, and often a better show than the game they are appearing at. See Teasing for more.
      In terms of our Glossary we take the previous paragraphs and move it one more step to where they are showing everything they have to show and the moves they engage in are not just Sexy but Sexual. The term is often used in the keywords for adult websites that have a great deal of pornographic content of that type of young woman. Often, said women will be presented in actual cheerleader outfits, as to whether or not the woman in the costume had ever been one... who cares?

Cheesecake
      Also known as 'pin ups'. Images, paintings and photographs, primarily of women in suggestive poses or partially nude. Best example is World War 2 era posters of Actresses and US Army Air Force bomber nose art as well as certain postcard type artwork, especially those by Alberto Vargas (1896 - 1982). When a male is the subject the artwork is usually referred to as Beefcake. See Bikini. Compare Glamour Photography, also see Harrison Marks, Bettie Page.

Cherry
      Like new, especially when applied to things like restored classic automobiles.
      For use in our current context see Virgin, Hymen, De-flowering.

Chick Flick, Couples Movie, Date Movie
      In this context, motion picture of any Rating which plays on the emotions of the viewers for a reaction which will elicit a satisfying emotional release, most usually, from women viewers. Plots often focus on evoking strong sadness, fear, anger or other negative emotion during the main body of the work then move to close with a happy ending. Again, the focus of said emotional release is intentionally aimed at the women in the audience. The term usually used in reviews and advertisements is 'Romantic Comedy'. See Emotion.
      To most Heterosexual men, such movies may seem unfathomably complex, over-plotted, teary eyed, sessions of utter boredom with characters that spend more time soul searching than they ever will earning a living. As with daytime TV Soap Operas. The best way to endure such things is to wonder what the various characters would do naked, if attacked by zombies, in their current situation but drunk, or perhaps- if the movie is really lame- all of the above at once.
"I thought Rambo 3 was romantic, why would I want to go see The Princess Bride?" -Doktor Leftover.

Child, Children
      One who has not attained the legal age required to give Informed Consent or enter into a legal contract. 'Children' is plural.
      Use is usually restricted to refer to those who are pre-Teen. See Minor, Age of Majority, Teenager, Adolescence, Puberty.

Child Pornography
      Any material which depicts Children, those under the local Age of Majority, in sexually graphic ways. The material is usually thought to be image based, but may in fact be textual. The material may be presented electronically, such as web based, printed magazines or books, video tape or DVD, or even live performances which may then be filmed, see Child Prostitution.
      Borderline material, such as provocative underwear ads featuring young children in suggestive poses, seem to be used to inflame public opinion and garner free advertising for the retail establishment which produced the ad, but are not generally deemed to be pornographic. However, they may meet the test of Indecency (which see) as they involve children.
      The material is by definition NOT subject to US First Amendment protection and is prohibited in all other reasonable countries. Some third world countries, including Afrika, Oceania, Central America, and some parts of Eastern Europe are havens for those who produce and export the material to the West, sometimes, to order, at premium prices.
      The possession, use, production of is a felony, not a mental illness nor a disability.
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Child Prostitution
      The use of Children, boys as well as girls, to have Sex For Money with Adult customers, or as 'favors' for high rollers or gang members, or for other reasons. Such practice is unfortunately fairly common in Afrika and other regions, see Sex Tourism and highlighted terms.
      In some places, young children can be married off to Adults, in at least one case, with the government's blessing. See Saudi reference at Pedophilia.
      In some cases the children are slaves in service to those who 'own' them either as indentured servants working off a family debt or as actual property bought from an underground market. See Human Trafficking, White Slavery, Sex Trade.
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Chocolate, Cocoa, Etc
      In this context, three meanings:
      May refer to an attractive black woman in much the same context as Brown Sugar, which see.
      When used in reference to Anal Sex may include use of the trademarked brand name as in: the "Hershey®" Highway as a euphemism for Anal Intercourse. The word 'Hershey' is a registered mark of The Hershey Company, the above said use of the word is NOT approved by them.
      The cocoa based confection many women will indulge in instead of having sex. Especially dark chocolate.

Cigar
      Object self inserted into the Vagina of President Clinton's Mistress which he then chewed on and proclaimed it to be "good". The brand of the smoke is not known at this point. See Monica, Sex Toy, Dildo and related.
      See Freud for quote.

Circle Jerk
      A useless effort. A futile, somewhat painful, possibly humiliating, all but worthless exercise where even the best possible outcome is of dubious value. See Cluster Fuck, Fuck Up.
      Term is based on a Mutual Masturbation Daisy Chain of several individuals, usually thought of as all Gay men but there is anecdotal evidence, and some video footage, of Co-Ed and Lesbian groups as well. See Handjob, Mutual Masturbation, Daisy Chain and related. Also see Zipless Fuck.
      Congressional Committees. See more information here.

Circumcision
      In males, the removal of the foreskin of the Penis which covers the Glans (which see), or tip of the organ. Throughout history the practice has been associated with various religious beliefs, then was thought to be in the best interest of public health to reduce various Venereal Diseases. The latter is now in dispute. For the practice in women see: Female Genital Mutilation. The two are NOT equivalent.

Clap, Dose of the Clap
      Euphemisms for the entire range of, usually, non-fatal Sexually Transmitted Diseases, which see.

Cleavage
      The valley, fold, furrow, or cut between two nearby objects, hills or mounds, whether natural or man made. Such as a pass between mountains, a slice out of a whole watermelon, or the bend in a metal bar as for a blacksmith weld.
      For our purposes here and now: The valley between a woman's Breasts. The term also equally applies to the groove between her butt cheeks. Also seen as the subject of endless TV jokes as the exposed butt of a plumber or other repairman whose trousers have slipped below his waist while working. Especially if the man white, older than the stars of the show, Heterosexual, and is overweight or obese.
      Women's cleavage is the item of boundless fascination for most TV producers as they will have the cameras focus on it even when the woman showing hers is not talking, and even when said woman is not all that attractive. For examples all you have to do is watch any of the network morning entertainment / "news" shows.

Climax
      Sexual peak occurring before, and sometimes after Orgasm. In women, it is usually thought of as the end of the Arousal phase of Sexual Excitement from which she will build up toward Orgasm. With men, it can result in Ejaculation without Orgasm. See Orgasm, Cum, and related.

Clitoris, Clit
      External female Sexual Organ. Primary focus of stimulation to Orgasm in most activity. In 'Female Genital Mutilation' or 'cutting' or 'female circumcision' the Clitoris is often surgically removed along with her labia. See Female Genital Mutilation.

Closet, Underground, Out, 'Outing'
      In terms of this list, expressions related to the Gay lifestyle in relation to how openly, or not, a person is living as a Homosexual or other sexual preference, such as Bisexual. One is 'in the closet' or 'underground' if one is concealing their true Sexual Orientation, or as one recent Governor of New Jersey, is living a lie as a Married Straight while secretly pursuing homosexual gratification outside of his marriage. One is 'out' if one is living openly as a Gay (or whatever), may or may not involve the Flamboyance typically seen as a stereotype. One is 'outed' (as in: 'brought out of the closet') when a Celebrity or other 'public persons' Sexual Preference is plastered all over a tabloid newspaper or TV entertainment report against their will. See Gay and etc.

Cluster Fuck
      An event or incident which is characterized by disorganization, chaos, conflicting agendas, wrongheaded methods, or somebody intentionally Screwing with things. Term is also used when a project is half completed and a boss, or multiple bosses, suddenly changes every possible detail and requirement for the project, then cuts your staff, and moves the deadline up by a week. See and compare Circle Jerk.
      Term is NOT related to any known Sex Act although some of the more riotous Bacchanalia celebrations may give you the general idea as they involved Sex, but also much drinking, music, and unruly behavior which was all supposed to be in tribute to the god, but Bacchus himself was all but forgotten during the festivities.

Co-ed, Co-Educational
      Related to federal Title Nine which forced equal access to non-sporting school related activities, in and out of the classroom, but which was taken by many institutions to mean that they had to maintain equal opportunity to engage in school sports such as track